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10/02/2014 at 18:41
10/02/2014 at 18:44
Sorry to hear of what you've been through.
Did they discover why you miscarried? Incompetent cervix or another reason? If so, do you have a plan or any special care for this pregnancy?
I think it is perfectly normal to be scared and anxious and like you just want to hide from it all. Sending you lots of vibes that this time will be very different x
10/02/2014 at 18:45
10/02/2014 at 18:58
I know there are lots of ladies here who have sadly experienced late loss and your feelings sound very similar...I hope someone with experience will be on soon to talk to you from experience, but I just wanted to let you know that it's completely normal, and that I'm thinking of you xx
10/02/2014 at 19:17
Bracken, please be gentle on yourself, a miscarriage is hard to deal with, but a late one will be even harder. You are grieving for your baby. Do you think counselling will help? If you think talking to your GP would help then please go. Equally you can keep talking to us if it helps xx
10/02/2014 at 20:01
I can relate to those feelings. When I lost my baby at 21 weeks I felt bitter about having to try again because although I knew we would have another baby it wasn't going to be our first and it wasn't the baby we had lost.
As WE has said, you are still grieving your first baby and maybe you should consider counselling? Its not been very long since your loss so please give yourself time.
It will get easier in time and you are probably going to be anxious until you see the consultant or when you get past the milestone when you lost your baby last time. I know I felt better when I got past 21 weeks but the worry never completely goes away. In terms of bonding, I think its harder when you have suffered a loss as you feel you don't want to get too attached in case something happens again.
Make sure you talk to your partner if you can as you need support and we are always here if you need to talk. x
10/02/2014 at 22:56
Bracken I'm sorry you're struggling.
I can also relate, I had a loss at 17 weeks and I felt the same as you do this time around.
Getting past that milestone had helped me to relax, but as mrs v said I'm not sure it'll ever be the same.
11/02/2014 at 09:58
So sorry you are feeling like this. I can't imagine what it must be like for you but your thoughts sound completely normal.
Like the others have suggested, maybe go and see your GP and see if counselling will help?
As there was nothing wrong last time, that means there is absolutely nothing to suggest it will happen again. x
11/02/2014 at 10:53
So sorry to read of your loss Bracken, I can't imagine how awful that must be. I hope this pregnancy is safe, boring and very healthy for you and I think how you feel is completely understandable. Big hugs and congratulations too of course x
11/02/2014 at 11:09
Bracken...I lost my first baby at 7 weeks and went on to have a healthy pregnancy a couple of months later...Much earlier than your mc i know but I know how hard it is to relax though. So sorry about what happened to you. I guess you just have to take each day as it comes...I can remember not feeling that it was real second time around until ihad my 20 week scan....Keep talking to people on here and your midwife/gp/family and friends x
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