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02/09/2014 at 09:57
With both pregnancies I've gone into them expecting certain things to happen & not found them to be true. (sorry, clearly my use of English is not great this morning).
I expected to want to eat all the time but both pregnancies my appetite has actually decreased.
I haven't had any real cravings (I don't think chocolate counts), I feel like I've missed out on eating weird food!!
I've also been incredibly lucky that I haven't really had a pregnancy swelling (well not so far!!) & haven't had to remove my wedding ring or have any problems wearing any shoes.
What have you expected in pregnancy that hasn't happened?
02/09/2014 at 09:59
Oooo this is a good one! I'm going to have a think and come back to this later.
02/09/2014 at 10:04
I (and H) have both been disappointed at my lack of cravings too!
Errm.. I'll have a think I can't think of anything else off the top of my head.
02/09/2014 at 10:06
Still early days for me (12 weeks on Friday), but I expected to have a bump and feel pregnant by this stage, so far I look or feel not much different! I expected to feel sick as a dog throughout my first trimester, but thankfully I've been fine (certainly not complaining about that!).
I also heard about the 'pregnancy glow' and was fully expecting to have glowing skin and shiny hair - in reality my skin is like that of a teenage boy and my hair is like an oil slick!
02/09/2014 at 10:57
That my cravings are detergenty type smells , in first tri this time it was sweets but now it's just bleach, toilet cleaner, any form of flash
I had a very manual job in previous 3 pregnancies, I sit at a desk all day now and I feel more a hey this time than I did when I was on my feet 14 hours a day!
First tri tiredness, wtf is that all about (same with post birth night sweats, wtf!!)
I didn't have the pregnancy glow with Lucas, William or this baby but I felt lovely with Isaac,
The need to clean!!! I should be sleeping, preparing for a new born/years of no sleep but no I'm usually found at 5am cleaning a cupboard/kitchen/bathroom that honestly can't wait at all!!!
02/09/2014 at 11:27
Exactly what you said Blackkat! I didn't have any swelling at all.
I never expected to feel so ill and for the sickness to go on for so long.
02/09/2014 at 11:51
Yeah I didn't get much swelling during pregnancy either - my toes looked a bit more sausage like at the end but that was it, however I got swollen feet AFTER the birth instead, I didn't expect that!!
Didn't have any weird cravings either - really wanted to send h out at 3am for some weird concoction but nope, never happened!
I expected to get heartburn but didn't (yay)
I expected my morning sickness to ease by 12 weeks but it went on till around 20 weeks
02/09/2014 at 12:43
What BE said. I thought the morning sickness would only be in the morning (wrong!) and be gone by 2nd tri (wrong again!)
I thought I would be more hormonal than I was. OH might disagree (!) but I only really had 1 meltdown when we moved house and I spilled paint all over the inside of my car.
I didn't expect to feel so tired ALL the time. I though it might ease up in 2nd tri, it didn't.
I didn't get any cravings. Annoyingly.
I didn't 'nest' or feel the need to clean my house top to bottom. I did buy a steam cleaner but only used it once and gave up, hah!
02/09/2014 at 12:47
Another one disappointed by the lack of cravings here! I did fancy salty things in the early days, but nothing odd, and it stopped as soon as the morning sickness did. For me, I think I was expecting to enjoy being pregnant a lot more than I did. People talk of a pregnancy glow, of an amazing bond with their bump, and I didn't really get that. I was lucky enough to have a straightforward pregnancy,so I feel like I should have enjoyed it, but I really didn't!
02/09/2014 at 12:57
I had a straightforward pregnancy the first time round up to the last few weeks with The carpel tunnel in my hands, the restless leg and the sciatica set in! I expected to either go into labour, or need induced, not have 4 days of on and off contraction before going to the hospital and THEN getting induced.
I expected to enjoy being pregnant...I think i had 3 or 4 weeks where i was enjoying it... you spend the first Trimester throwing up, or suffering from what feels like the worlds longest hangover, You then go for a good few weeks of not feeling anything and panicking that something is wrong because you're no longer being ill, but you can't feel baby moving yet, then you have a few blissful weeks of having baby kicking and rolling around in your tummy...then they start to get big and elbows and feet and hands push into your rib cage and bladder making you very uncomfortable, and then you can't sleep at night as you have to do a 3 point turn in the bed which requires you to wake up fully. But then at the end of it all, you have this beautiful child and it's all been worth it...so much so that you do it all again!
02/09/2014 at 14:03
I didn't appreciate how that so much swelling was possible! 2 weeks later & I still can't wear any normal shoes / trainers etc.
For someone that is normally so house proud, clean & tidy - I didn't give a rats ass throughout pregnancy & OH / family members did it all. The nesting instinct never took hold of me.
I just felt beyond tired & lazy - even just showering was an event close to the end. I never got this burst of energy people talked about..
I had never even heard of carpal tunnel before - got it at 24wks & still plagued now, if still suffering at post natal check GP starting me on steroid injections. Yuk.
But all so so worth it.
02/09/2014 at 14:18
That you can move from one ailment to another in pregnancy, that morning sickness doesn't magically stop at 12 weeks! My tolerance of people was so low by the time I finished work at 34 weeks that I barely wanted to talk to people! That carpel tunnel and trying to do up tiny poppers on baby grows do not work, and that the carpel tunnel would still be there until the baby was 2 months old! The swelling post birth was horrific as were the night sweats!
That you can get so much enjoyment from someone so little! That slowly after swearing I would never have more children, I may well try for one more
02/09/2014 at 15:14
Some great replies,
RKB I like your explanation of morning (all day) nauseas as like the longest ever hangover.
Another 1 I've remembered: My hubby has been very disappointed that I didn't go through the 'horny' stage that you see on tv programmes! Although at least I don't think I've been that hormonal, too tired to be hormonal!!
02/09/2014 at 18:10
I definitely never felt the nesting instinct, I was too knackered! I did find myself ironing baby clothes while I was on mat leave though, I never iron!
I was disappointed I never had any real cravings other than Belgian buns and chicken royales from Burger King! Everyone kept asking me what weird stuff I wanted and I felt like I disappointed them!
I also read lots about people seeing hands/feet poking out of their bump, I never had that from my lazy baby!
02/09/2014 at 18:31
Similar to others...
I didn't expect to feel that sick and actually not be sick! I didn't realise i'd feel constantly lazy and tired. I thought i would exercise loads and eat super healthily. Instead walking is the most strenuous thing i do and i eat more chocolate and biscuits than ever! I didn't realise i'd want friends to ask less about the baby and pregnancy as i don't want to talk about it all the time. I didn't realise i'd feel so nervous and embarrassed (as well as excited) telling people i was pregnant.
02/09/2014 at 18:33
Morning sickness...not just in the mornings but all day and night
2nd Tri glow...still waiting!
02/09/2014 at 21:57
Rio, I'm with you on the food. I thought I'd be really healthy but I know by the end of my 1st pregnancy all I wanted to eat was chocolate & I've a feeling this pregnancy is going the same way.
I think the pregnancy glow thing is a myth!!
03/09/2014 at 10:39
Oh I definitely had cravings but it was chocolate milk and the smell of lavender!
I think the biggest surprise for me was that S didn't drop and engage until my waters went. I thought he would drop much earlier than that but I was sorely disappointed and spent a good 8 weeks with him uncomfortably wedged under my right ribs.
I also didn't swell at all during pregnancy, despite being pregnant during the horrible heat wave and I was extremely annoyed that after birth, I swelled up like a balloon.
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