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22/02/2016 at 06:44
Hi, this is first time I've posted here, not sure if I'm in right place!!
I found out im pregnant 2 days ago, I have a nearly 10 year old boy and nearly 6 year old girl. I always wanted 3 but had got to the point that I assumed it wouldn't happen, now that it has I can't stop crying. I feel guilt for my son as there will be a 10 year age gap. If the baby turns out to be a boy he will have to share rooms. He also has quite bad jealousy issues with his little sister and im petrified he'll feel left out. Also adding the dates up the baby will be due a week after my son's 10th birthday which really really couldn't be any worse timing.
The last 2 days I've considered pretty much every option under the sun, which is killing me, hubby is being extremely supportive but can't say the right thing bless him. I really have no idea what to do. Part of me doesn't know if I want another one now I have my perfect 2.4 family. I also started my own business which is starting to come together but that will have to be put on hold until the youngest goes to school which seems along way off. We gave debt which is impossible to clear. I'm so confused. Can't stop crying and have no idea how I feel.
Is a big age gap bad?? Can it work if they have to share a room. It could be a girl in which case there is less problem. I'm so worried for my ten year old, he's very sensitive but such a lovely boy.
Sorry for my ramble. I haven't told anyone im pregnant yet except hubby and desperate to talk to someone.
If you've got this far thankyou xx
22/02/2016 at 08:45
Don't worry about the age gap Hunni. I am due in August and I have a 14 year old daughter. My daughter is like your son very sensitive and she is made up she will be a big sister. I was like you at first worrying about the huge age gap but it is more common than you think. So don't worry Hunni ☺️☺️. i sat my daughter down and said to her she was going to be a big sister and she should not ever think she would be pushed out. She did get up set and say but this baby will have a mum and dad (her dad walked out on her 2 months before she was born) I said look your step dad loves you like you are his own and nothing or no one will ever change that. I have always included her in the looking for the baby bits and she is absolutely fine will it all now. XXXX
22/02/2016 at 09:47
Ah bless your daughter. Glad she's excited now, she'll be a second mummy 😊
Thankyou, think I just need to hear it from someone else, my hubby has said same thing but I just keep crying lol damn hormones!!! I know I'm going to get grief from my mum as she wasn't impressed the last 2 times I've been pregnant, no idea why as I was married and settled amd mod twenties. but that's how she is. I'm the youngest of 3 and have always had from her about 3 being hard work and I was a mistake etc. Also had my middle brother with major middle child syndrome moaning about sharing rooms etc with my oldest brother. Ain't support great haha
22/02/2016 at 11:00
Oh my goodness, you literally couldn't be in a similar boat to me if you tried!! I have a ten year old boy and a five year old girl. My lb is so so jealous of my little girl, it's unreal. To the point it actually drives me around the bend. Although this pregnancy was absolutely planned, I did immediately have, and still do a little, guilt for my eldest. He too is an amazing little boy but I knew straight away out of the two, he would take it the hardest. I think because he was an only child for over five years.
I was right. He was gutted and burst out crying...however, after having a day at most to think about it, he came and apologised! Since then (and following lots of cuddles and reassurance) he's been truly amazing.
He's really good at drawing so I've asked him to think about what amazing artwork he can do for the baby's room and generally just getting him involved.
I also started my own business least year and here I am. I mean, what are we supposed to do for maternity leave? It's so stressful.
22/02/2016 at 12:57
Wow that's a but scarey how similar our situations lol I have touched on the subject and he seems ok with the idea. not told him yet though. I think I'm more worried if it's a boy they'll have to share aroom. I have no idea how that'll work!!
On the business thing I think I'm going to have to more or less close until youngest is at school. In a nail tech and work from home, could work evenings but that's limited to how much I can get done. Oh and I think if you pay national insurance you get some kind of statutory maternity. Not 100% on that though
22/02/2016 at 13:06
I'm sure he'll be absolutely fine. If we didn't worry about them then there really would be a problem!
I'm not sure about the maternity pay thing, would be really handy if we could get it.
I'm a freelance journo so it's not like I couldn't do it with a baby but I'd need my brain which would be an issue hah!
22/02/2016 at 13:25
Haha I lost any brain I had after the first!!!
22/02/2016 at 13:34
22/02/2016 at 15:29
Im 37 today. I've a brother 18 months younger and a sister 9 yrs younger than me. She was definitely a surprise! She kept fun in hse for longer when we were young. And now we re the best of friends! Age gap disappeared once she got to 17/18. Im just pregnant with my 3rd having had late mosvarriage last year. I told my sister right after my husband..... she s such a support.
Best of luck!
22/02/2016 at 15:42
Aww so nice to hear you're close
I'm so glad I posted on here, last night and this morning I had all sorts going through my head, was convinced we'd ruined our little family. That my son would hate me and feel pushed out. I feel so much happier now and feel I can look forward to it
Only thing is hope that if it's a boy they'll be ok sharing and that my oldest isn't to annoyed the baby will be due a week after his 10th birthday 😕
Oh and I've gotta tell my mum!!! (Mid 30s and still scared to tell my mum haha)
22/02/2016 at 15:48
I was terrified telling my mum so I got my brother to do it.
I'm 33 and married!
Also, I have a friend who, at 11, tried to run away when she found out she was going to have a sister. I have never in my life known a bond so strong between siblings. They are more than sister and sister but best friends. My friend is able to offer her little sis the best amount of advice and be there in a way a younger sister couldn't. I hope I'm having a boy so my lb feels like he can teach him everything hah.
22/02/2016 at 15:54
I'm so close to texting her instead of telling her face to face lol I know ill get the tut i got the last 2 times, I'm also 33, pathetic isn't it haha don't want to tell my brother either as he's still In denial that his little sister could do 'that' (as he would put it 😄) in his eyes, me and hubby washed our underwear together and fell with baby 1, baby 2 hasn't really ever been spoken about in terms of conception so I think number 3 would tip him over the edge 😂😂
22/02/2016 at 17:14
Hah, I haven't physically told my dad I'm pregnant ever. It's like saying 'hiya, just to let you know, I've had sex again!'
22/02/2016 at 17:22
Hahaha I know exactly what you mean!!! I felt like that and couldn't look him in the eyes, with my bother I think it's funny but dad, yeah just weird!!!
24/02/2016 at 14:38
Hey girls .. iam also pregnant with my 3rd and I dont know what to think.my youngesr Iam 6 weeks today how far are you?
24/02/2016 at 14:40
My youngest is 20 months*
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