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10/02/2014 at 17:00
10/02/2014 at 17:10
No advice Pep, but so sorry you're feeling like this.
10/02/2014 at 17:14
I had high blood pressure so was signed off the week before Luke was delivered. How is your BP? I wonder if your first point of call should be your MW or GP. Lots of women need time off, don't add guilt to your pressure.
10/02/2014 at 17:29
Sorry pep, I was signed off for exhaustion xx
10/02/2014 at 17:34
Stress and I have had a fairly intimate relationship at times. If I were pregnant and feeling too stressed for work, I'd be looking for them to put something like:
Raised blood pressure (needn't be 'high', could just be higher than usual)
Severe pregnancy nausea
The GP likely would if you explained that listing those symptoms as opposed to using the word 'stress', or 'anxiety' etc would make it much easier for you to return. They want you to go back when you feel able, so if this helps you they'll do it.
Can you ask for reduced duties or a phased return?
Also, please don't worry about the long term effects on your career; folk have a short memory and once you've had baby and are fighting fit it'll all be distant memories and you'll start with a clean slate :)
I was signed off from 6 weeks with my son, please don't feel bad. Pregnant women don't go off on a whim, you'll only do it if you must, and if you must... well, then it's the right thing to do. Hope you feel better very soon.
10/02/2014 at 17:49
So sorry you are feeling like this. It can all get on top of us sometimes and its nothing to be ashamed about! I hate that there is a stigma attached to mental health problems and it isn't fair. Its an illness at the end of the day. Why do you think it'll harm you returning to work if your sick note says 'stress'. They can't discriminate against you for it. You might be overthinking it.
I've been off with stress before and put it on my sick note, didn't think anything of it to be honest. x
10/02/2014 at 17:54
Sorry you're struggling Pep. I was signed off for a week over our frozen embryo transfer. Naturally I wanted the reason kept vague - the GP put 'hospital procedure'
Doctors notes are very brief, often just a sentence, or couple of words in the reason box. They cannot lie on them, but they don't need to elaborate either. It is completely up to you whether you elaborate to your boss.
10/02/2014 at 18:37
Thanks everyone. I feel like a right hormonal pregnant person right now :(
10/02/2014 at 18:52
Sorry you're feeling crappy Pep x
Is it an option to self certify initially? You can have up to 7 days that way without a note.
10/02/2014 at 18:59
10/02/2014 at 19:16
Hi! I was signed off from 32 weeks and my go out pregnancy complications down- I had spd and obstetric cholestatis, I was under the impression that if it's pregnancy related it can't count against you in terms of sick leave and sick record
11/02/2014 at 05:19
Pep, you definitely don't have to tell a prospective new employer if you've suffered stress. I never have anyway.
11/02/2014 at 08:08
11/02/2014 at 08:09
11/02/2014 at 09:47
It sounds like you need some time out and space to sort your head out without the pressure of work. You need to put you and your baby first - not your job or what may or may not affect your future employment prospects.
You really need to go and see your GP and tell them how you are feeling. They will know whats best for you.
I think once upon a time employers could ask about a history of mental health but I think now they can only ask how many sick days you've had in the last 12 months. Pregnancy related sickness doesn't count. And anyway, the stress is affecting you more because of the pregnancy, so work have no reason to start saying you cant cope in your job.
Either way, you need some time out - go to your GP, or sign yourself off for the rest of this week with something other than stress if that would make you feel better. Exhaustion, insomnia, sickness - whatever. Then maybe reassess after the weekend x
11/02/2014 at 10:05
Pep - I have hummed and hawwed about whether to post this, but decided I may as well. Genuinely just trying to be helpful.
When I have felt something like you feel I have found that one week off just is not enough. You're right though, pregnancy hormones may be impacting, but essentially my 'week break' from it would go a bit like this:
Day 1 & 2, feel a bit bad about being off, start to feel some relief by end of second day. Day 3 & 4, feel a bit better, symptoms start to ease, feel more like myself. Day 5, 6, 7, start to worry about contacting work, confirming going back, panic about what it will be like going back and when return day comes actually feel pretty crappy and more emotional than ever.
I am not trying to be pessimistic or scare you, and it *really* might not be like that for you, it might be that recharging your batteries and a total break from that environment does so much good. But if you try that and it doesn't help, maybe a longer term solution might be a good idea. Reducing your hours through the pregnancy (no clue if that's at all possible, so excuse my ignorance) or even being off the rest of the pregnancy (not a preferred solution but on the list to be considered)... It would be so horrible for you for your pregnancy to consist of an on-off roller coaster relating to work anxiety. Hugs x
Oh Pep, have a massive impy hug from me first of all.
I really think some time out will do you the world of good, you've been working so hard lately and been under so much prressure from all angles.
I think you should go and chat to your GP this week whilst you're off anyway, and at least talk to them about how you're feeling. Explain your concerns about the sick note and ask whether they cna be vague. Counter has some good suggestions earlier in the thread.
At least then you'll know what can be done. You might find that after a week you feel a little bity better or you might not so it's best to know what your options are.
Keep talking to us.xx
11/02/2014 at 13:13
I'm glad you've got an appt. I hoot it goes well and I think writing it all down sounds like a good idea pep.
11/02/2014 at 13:57
Thanks Imp xx
11/02/2014 at 17:40
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