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07/05/2014 at 17:48
Second time around and I'm scared for my first scan, they told me they'd keep and eye on me this time but they havent. Don't even know when my first scan is and they made me wait until, 8 weeks to see a midwife.
i dont feel pregnent I just feel fat. i know I'm pregnent I've done loads of pregency tests.. I am getting bit bigger.
just don't feel pregnent and I'm worried that my first scan is going to go wromg again and I don't know if I could handle that.
last time I ended up in hospital every week trying to get the baby out.. Ended up having a d&c. I don't want that again.
how can I put my mind to rest ???
07/05/2014 at 18:27
Hey chloe... Im in the same position as you so really do know how tough it is. I had a missed miscarriage in feb & am now 5 weeks pregnant again. My 1st appointment isnt until 16th June which is such a long way away!
I have been feeling very anxious from the moment i found out i was pregnant again... Worried that something will go wrong again... & worse... That something will go wrong & i wont even know it until much later (like last time). I feel sad & angry that the past experience has 'robbed' me of feeling the excitement of this pregnancy.
but... I talked to a friend this morning who gave me a stern talking to & actually it did help! She also suffered a miscarriage with her first but then went on to have 3 healthy pregnancies. She really believes in positive attitude & that if you think positively you will act it & the time will go quicker & with less stress. I know she is right when she says stress will not change things other than for the worse! I really am going to try to be positive... Start allowing myself to think about the baby & the future & that things will be ok... Of course i know i could be setting myself up for heartache again but i need to try my best to stay calm & positive.
aside from the PMA... I also think I will ask my regular doctor to run a qualitative hcg blood test on me at 7 & 8 weeks so that i an (hopefully) see the numbers rising as they should be... I think that will def help me relax as that will be past the 6week point where the docs think my baby died last time. I think if I explain my reasoning & anxiety to the doc then hopefully they will agree to do it.
how far along are you now / how long until your 8 week appointment?
lets think positive together! & be here to support each other through this time!
07/05/2014 at 19:19
I think I am about 6 weeks now, my appointment is on the 12th of may so Its only about another 5 days but then I'll have to wait about 4 weeks or so till my scan /:.
i do try being positive I don't really talk about it with my partner as we don't like talking about what happened.
07/05/2014 at 19:28
I know it can be tough to talk about it but if you dont do this then it can be extremely difficult to move on. Trust me... the more you are able to talk about what happened, the easier it will become & the more at peace you can feel with it...by not talking about it it's hard to acknowledge your loss... Which is really important for both of you.
good luck for your appointment... Im glad for you that it's soon so will hopefully help to ease your worry
07/05/2014 at 20:03
thank you, I hope everything will be okay for the both of us.
these times are very hard.
07/05/2014 at 23:15
08/05/2014 at 00:50
Hi samantha... yes i see your point... But as long as my numbers were not going down then i would feel reassured... Going down is evidence of a miscarriage which is what i would want to know as last time that was my definitive evidence as i hadnt actually had any real signs of m/c other than dropping hcg & scan with no hb.
08/05/2014 at 09:08
Hi ladies, I know how you both feel. I had a mmc at 13 wks (baby died at 12+5) this happened in January, after 3 yrs off ttc. I've just found out that I'm pg again, only just not even 5 wks yet. So i totally get how u both must be feeling. I had some counselling after my mmc to help me with how I was feeling. She gave me some great advice, living in the past can make you depressed and looking to much into the future (eg what might happen) will make u anxious. The best thing to do is live day to day and I thought I would be a mess of anxiousness this time but I'm not, at the moment! I have learnt the hard way, that there is nothing I can do and what will be will be. I know how hard that seems and it has taken me a long time to get over what happened. Talking has really helped me get through and focus on now. I was so anxious last time and I really think that didn't help me. My moto this time round is to take each days as it comes, try my hardest not to think about what happened in the past or what may happen. I wish you ladies all the luck and hope that all our babies stick. X
08/05/2014 at 13:54
Thats great advice kelly... Thankyou x
The 'due in jan 2015' board is up now too so i've been trying to think positively & have joined that! .
08/05/2014 at 21:58
Where is the due in jam 2015 board? How do I find it?
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