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16/05/2013 at 10:11
I'm not sure if anyone is going to be able to help, but I'm hoping it will help to write it all down.
H (10 weeks tomorrow) is generally doing really well, feeding well and putting on weight nicely. He feeds at 6pm, bed at 7pm where he self settles. We try and give him a late night feed about 10-11pm but he doesn't really take much (but that's another thread!), but then settles (by himself) nicely after that. Then it all seems to go a bit wrong. He seems to be unsettled from about 2.30am. He's not crying, but makes enough noise to wake me. I'm not sure if he's awake and trying to get back off, or if he's in some kind of light sleep that involves lots of movement and the odd grunt. It's dark at this point so I can't see what he's doing and I'm not sure if he drops back off at points, but there is definitely stuff going on for about an hour, if not a little more. Last night I tried to calm him while he was still in the cot, but that just seemed to annoy him and properly wake him up. He's been starting to cry (although not much) at around 4am so that's when I feed him, but I'm not sure if he's just got fed up from the unsettledness and is just using me for comfort as he falls back to sleep quite quickly. He goes down okay ish after that feed, but come 5.30am the unsettledness starts again, by 6am he seems quite awake so I pick him up and let him sleep on me for an hour before starting our day at 7am. I'm sure he's not having too much daytime sleep and seems quite happy and content.
I'm finding it all quite confusing and am worried that I'm doing something wrong. He can't be properly awake all that time can he? He'd cry if he was hungry wouldn't he? If he settles himself earlier in the evening, any reason why he can't manage it at night? I think I need to reassure myself that all is okay and then I might have a chance of sleeping through the noise, but while I'm uncertain, I don't have a chance which means I am a tad sleep deprived!
Any thoughts, anyone experienced anything similar?
Thanks ladies x
16/05/2013 at 10:20
Hmm it might be totally separate from your situation but could it be hes in a lighter sleep at that point after going down early at night? Henry goes down at 10.30/11pm. Settles straight away after his 2am feed, but after his 5/6am feed it can take up to an hour. I figure he's not as tired by this point. So that's roughly 6/7 hours of solid sleep then its a bit patchy. If he's going 7-3ish that's still 7/8 hours of good sleep. Does that make sense? It might not be anything you can 'fix' yet, I presume they'll get there, on their own
16/05/2013 at 10:33
Thanks Missus S - yes that does make sense. I did wonder if he's just not capable of sleeping deeply for that long. I am probably making the mistake of comparing him to my other son and what other people's babies are doing.
16/05/2013 at 10:44
I do think its easy to compare, but h is still finding his own way. I know you know d has had some good nights of late, but we don't ever seem to get her to settle in the evening it's normally all crying and fussing. I've been taking heart in the fact that s can self settle even if she chooses not to do it all the time. They are still new to all this, I always think I don't know of any teenager that needs rocking to sleep so they will all get there in own time!
16/05/2013 at 10:48
Thanks HF. I know, I count myself lucky that H seems to settle well in the evenings, I know I will appreciate that bedtime in months to come. It's not that I'm desperate for him to sleep through the night (well only a little bit!!), I'm more just worried that he's not getting enough sleep or something. I keep telling myself that if he was upset, that he would cry, but I'm not sure I fully believe he is okay - iyswim??!
16/05/2013 at 11:10
I know the frustration everything is so much harder to deal with in early hours, d only sleeps5-6 hours straight, I say only but I'm grateful for that, but she doesn't normally start that until 10 or 11, she can be a pain to get back to sleep after 4 am, the only thing I can suggest is trying to hold off the longer sleep until later in evening?
16/05/2013 at 12:01
I feel your pain as I am only getting a maximum of three and a half hours from 10pm then from 2ish E wakes 2 hourly with an hour feeding/settling back to sleep! I don't actually feel too bad during the day on this amount but sometimes at about 7 I will bring her in with me and get another couple of hours - obviously I don't have another child to tend to though!
I think what she is doing is absolutely normal and you should try not to worry or stress about it, every baby is different and remember it is safer for them to sleep lightly and not get into too deeper sleep for long periods.
I think we also compare our sleep routines to theirs and they are completely different.
When E stirs but doesn't fully wake, I find taking her out and feeding back to sleep gets her to settle quicker rather than lying there listening to her - usually she doesn't even opn her eyes!
kellymom has some good info on baby sleep patterns kellymom.com/.../sleepstudies
hugs, as hf says the early hours of the morning are so hard especially now it is much lighter xx
16/05/2013 at 12:55
Thanks HF x
Hi wilow - sorry you have having sleep problems too, but it's good to know I'm not alone! You are right, I should try not to worry or stress - I'm just not very good at that!! Thanks for the kellymom link, I'll have a look at that. Hugs to you too x
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