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25/03/2013 at 13:24
When did your LO's self settle and how did you encourage it? J didnt at night until he was 10 months and that was because i couldnt get him to sleep and in frustration I put him down, left the room, came back 10 mins later and he was asleep. He was never able tk do it during the day and even now he will only nap in his pram after bei g rocked off. I'm keen to get B self settling better so when did you start and how did you go about it?
25/03/2013 at 13:31
I read that babies don't have the capability to settle until around 12weeks, so that's when I started. I just used to shh him and then leave the room, I also never put him down asleep (always drowsy but awake) Getting his awake time right really helped and we had minimal upset and I never left him to cry. He settled at night by himself quite early, and for day time naps from about 4/5months.
25/03/2013 at 14:21
At night time I always give B his feed then put him in his cot awake, generally he will start to moan a bit but never really cries and goes to sleep within 10 mins, I always try not to to rock him to sleep or anything, if he cries I give him his dummy and put my hand on him so he knows I'm there and he settles again. I always put the same sound on his mobile as well, And he seems to know that it's sleep time then
25/03/2013 at 14:31
I've been putting A down when he's awake but looking ready to sleep (4 weeks). Especially at night as he seems to go back to sleep once he's in his Moses basket. I just say shh, shh, night night. If he's upset I pick him back up, but I've started to notice that he always has a shout before going to sleep. It's not a cry as such, more like loud shouting, then a minute later he's fast asleep!
25/03/2013 at 14:45
Sc that's exactly like B, we've done it from the beginning and it seems to work, he's 6 weeks corrected so similar development wise
25/03/2013 at 15:07
E has always self settled right from her first day from hospital. She'd be put down in her carrycot after a feed and drift off. Same at night. I guess to encourage this I never left her side in the early days, pulling my pillow down to her eye height so if she opened her eyes she was looking straight through the crib bars at me. She also has a set mobile for bed and one for naptime. Which are only ever used for those times.
She'll often squark for her dummy, and once it's in, she is off. I try not to ever put her down asleep but I also don't ever force her to sleep, if she doesn't want a daytime nap, then I don't force her, but she gets grumpy when tired and then i'll put her down for a nap.
25/03/2013 at 16:00
Watching this with interest as we're having the exact same problem with E, when he wakes in the night he gets very distressed very quickly but will almost immediately go straight back to sleep as soon as we pick him up. Then he starts again as soon as he gets put back down! He goes down well initially and will sleep a good 5 or 6 hours now in the big cot which is an improvement but he generally wakens between 3 and 4 am and the cycle starts then, generally ending in us bringing him into our bed again to get some sleep x
25/03/2013 at 16:04
How long do you leave to self settle. I can leave H a good while but he gets more awake not sleepier! He'll only really go down when asleep which can be a bit frustrating! Any tips appreciated.
25/03/2013 at 16:17
M just does but probably my because he has to with the attention his big sister steals! E took a few weeks of rocking/patting/bouncing before she just went to sleep by herself with a dummy. I've always put them down when they're awake (but obviously sleepy).
Reading this with interest. A has never really been able to self-settle. Once when he was about 6/7 weeks I put him down on his playmat and he fell asleep by himself (I thought it was playtime but he was obviously tired!). Never any other time. At night, if we put him down awake (even if drowsy) he will soon start to cry for us. Usually I nurse him to sleep and then hold him for a good 10-15 mins before transferring to his moses. Any sooner, and he waits 3 mins after being put down (just long enough to lull you into a false sense of security) then wakes and starts complaining. In the middle of the night, I try to get to him for feeds before he's properly awake, so he feeds half-asleep and is put back down basically asleep.
A doesn't seem to care about our voices or us touching him with a hand - he will ONLY accept being held. I don't mind too much, both H and I are happy to go with it for now as I think he is still so little and used to being inside a womb.
He seems to sleep between 11pm/midnight to around 8/9am, so we may start putting him down drowsy-but-awake after 11pm and seeing what happens.
25/03/2013 at 16:42
Both of mine just seemed to do it, but I suppose we helped by never rocking to sleep and putting them down awake the majority of the time. It took S a bit longer than my 1st, but she had other problems, so I'd even have her in bed for a cuddle (much to my H's dismay), then around 2 months she suddenly just started to drift off on her own. We also put the dummy in, hold her hand, hand on tummy etc and the crib is right next to the bed, so she would see me when she awoke. Sometimes we 'hold' her dummy in gently as when she starts to drift, it falls out of her mouth and wakes her up. My eldest used to use a projector to help her settle; it sends my youngest hyper!
25/03/2013 at 16:50
Thanks ladies. I think the main problem with B is that she falls asleep feeding most of the time so I guess we'll have to get her onto a dummy to stop her using me as one!
25/03/2013 at 17:14
Little Monkey J is exactly the same- when he's sleepy he rubs his eyes and the more sleepy the more he rubs- any attempt at self settling so fr has only led to him poking himself in the eye and waking up even more...., in starting to think he's not going to do it but he generally doesn't take that long to get to sleep so I'm not massively bothered- will keep trying but I don't really like the idea of leaving him to cry.
25/03/2013 at 18:35
La - h rubs his eyes as well bless them. He varies on how long to settle sometimes quick sometimes an hour.
Saisi, A sounds like H, he won't be fooled into sleeping unless held unless its in his mood and he decides he wants to!
25/03/2013 at 22:32
R is 13 months and doesn't self settle and neither did my others until a similar age. They just did it by themselves really but R has always been a poor sleeper and I usually feed or rock him to sleep, he'd never have tolerated lying in his bed by himself, being shushed etc! I think they either can do it or they can't and you can't do that much about it tbh.
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