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20/05/2013 at 04:37
Is it possible? If I try to leave M with anyone (except H), he starts crying and getting very frustrated even with people that he has been with before on many occasions. He has become very clingy- wants me to pick him up a lot, this is unusual as he has always been happy in his bouncer, crib, playmat, cot, etc He starts to look for me frequently when he is upset and if I leave the room, he starts shouting. Bedtime has become 'difficult'- I'll use this lightly as in comparison to a lot of babies, he is still good but he just whinges and won't settle unless I'm cuddling him or sit stroking his face. Before this, he'd happily self settle.
Nothing has changed recently, we have a good bedtime routine too which worked well until the upset at bedtime started last week. I plan to leave him with my mum for a couple of hours tomorrow morning while E is at nursery- he is not familiar with my mum as she is so far away BUT I know that she will be able to deal with the crying and upset and I won't feel guilty about leaving her to it because she is my mum. H and I have a few evenings out planned but he is normally asleep by the time the babysitter arrives. Is there anything I can do? Am I misreading the signs though and this is not separation anxiety? I'm sure E was closer to 7/8 months before she started to show any signs of it...
20/05/2013 at 07:20
Sounds like it. Unless it's happened only very recently, in which case could it be the beginnings of a cold or something? My 2 were clingy babies full stop, but worse when coming down with something x
20/05/2013 at 07:32
He doesn't seem to be Leela, that was my first thought. We are on day 5 of it too...
20/05/2013 at 07:41
I only have experience with my niece and nephew but it sounds like it. E is very clingy on bad teeth days but doesn't mind who's doing the cuddling as long as someone is. Do you stop with him until he's asleep? I ask because I never leave E when she's going to sleep, so she wouldn't get any anxiety because she's not being left. If you are the same then maybe it's not separation anxiety iyswim.
I do hope that he settles for your mom ok.
20/05/2013 at 07:44
G has just become the same and she is 6.5 months. She used to self settle perfectly too and now often needs someone in the room or to be cuddled to sleep, it's frustrating. I have found staying in the room, where she can't see me, and humming or singing to her helps to get her off to sleep x
20/05/2013 at 07:54
He sleeps in his crib which is right next to the sofa in the lounge and I'm always nearby, H or I are always in the room. It's never been any different but now he has to have me cuddle him or put my hand on him to know I'm there. He sleeps in his cot at bedtime in our room without a problem too! Though he doesn't go into the cot until 10pm (ish) and by that point is usually already fast asleep so doen't notice.
EB- hope it doesn't last too long for you!
20/05/2013 at 08:07
Do you and your H talk while he's there? I don't know how M like a to sleep but for daytime naps I just put her down and she's never cried for me as long as she's able to hear my voice.
20/05/2013 at 08:48
Yes, tv is usually onto. Nothing is different
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