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17/04/2018 at 14:38
Hello, I'm really hoping someone can give me a little bit of positivity right now. I am pregnant, after 2 miscarriages over the past 4 months. I am 27 y/o and never expected to have to deal with so much at this age. Anyway I am pregnant again and am now 6+3 weeks (not that I'm counting) :p
I've never got this far before, the furthest I got was 4 + 5 weeks the first time round.
I have become a bit of a regular at my GP surgery, I'm just waiting for them to kick me out! I'm stupidly anxious right now and cannot think of one positive thing with this pregnancy, I'm basically waiting to miscarry. Every pain, ache and twinge I go into panic mode and I'm unable to think rationally like normal people. I also do not have many/if any preg symptoms which my doc said concerned her. In particular I am struggling with some very strong and sharp stabbing pains very low in my stomach (I guess womb is the right term). I am so so worried that there is something majorly wrong, I have read countless threads regarding similar issues but I am still super worried. I have had bloods done, first lot at 4+3 weeks was 368, then at 5 weeks and 2 days they had gone up to 4160 (I also have another test tomorrow) to check the levels. I also had an ultrasound which sowed a little sac and a little structure inside that the sonographer thought was the "yolk". I go back next Wednesday for a viability scan which just sounds awful really. I guess any advice, positive vibes, someone to make me laugh would be greatly appreciated!
17/04/2018 at 16:14
I am 6+4 today after a long, complicated miscarriage at almost 11 weeks in December so I sort of know how you are feeling (although I have only had the one mc, not 2). Still panicking at every little twinge (is it the baby? Turbo gas!??) and fearing going to the loo just in case I'm bleeding. The thing that's helping me is thinking that there is nothing I can do to help this. If I'm going to MC again then worrying will not help. I think the best thing we can do is take one day at a time. A bank of 7 days under our belt is one whole week closer to the 12 week mark :)
Its great that you have a viability scan next week. You should see a heartbeat which will put your mind at ease. Do let us know how it goes!
If you haven't already, come and join us in the Due in December 2018 group. The majority of ladies there have had previous loses so its a safe place to talk about your worries and get some reassurance from some cracking ladies :)
17/04/2018 at 16:43
Thank you so much for the reply! I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. You are so right when you say there is nothing we can do.
I'm slightly nervous about joining 'due date' groups. Kind of feel like i could jinx it! I am not even a religious person but hey you think of all sorts when you are a nervous wreck!
One day at a time is tough when my body is throwing up new "pains" for me to start frantically googling. It seems like all the pregnant people around me seem to have a blissful time. My GP said the sharp stabbing pains are IBS, I am doubting her though, I am great at self diagnosing! I can so relate to your fear of the loo visit! I have even resorted to wearing light coloured underwear. :p
17/04/2018 at 19:53
I have started getting a few sharp pains (it almost feels like a stitch) in my womb area too. I am 7 weeks. I dont remember it with my 1st but I read that it can be your womb stretching to accomadate the growing baby. Try not to worry unless it' very bad, then I would go to the gp.
17/04/2018 at 20:36
Thank you for your reply! It's really worrying when it happens, it lasts for about a minute or so then turns in to a dull ache for a short time. I saw the GP this morning who said it could be IBS aa my anxiety is through the roof and this can cause lots of pains etc. I didn't know IBS could effect "down there", I assumed it was more bowel related. I have another blood test tomorrow to check the hcg level is improving, so fingers crossed on Thursday I should have some reassurance. I'm still frantically rushing to the loo to "check". I guess this is what happens after 2 miscarriages, the fear of being pregnant again.
18/04/2018 at 22:43
Hi thirdtimelucky, thought I would say hi as I saw your post. I am sorry about your losses. When I was around 5-7 weeks I had by the sounds of it very similar pains. I ended up getting a scan and everything was perfect. I think it can be associated with indigestion, growing pains, gas etc. Please try not to worry as its a really long wait to 12 weeks for your scan and time slows down even more when you are concerned. Chin up x
19/04/2018 at 07:05
Thank you Sky! The anxiety is making me believe this will be a miscarriage. The world can tell you to keep positive but it's so difficult after the history I have had. I get my blood test results back today so it's going to be a long morning at work waiting for that phone call!
The pains have become quite sharp and a little more frequent, I'm starting to wonder whether alot of it is partly to do with anxiety, maybe I'm more hypersensitive to "normal pains". I have the viability scan on 25th April, I am so worried. Something has to work out this time surely. X
19/04/2018 at 07:18
Hi Third time lucky... I know exactly how you feel & hopefully can offer some reassuarnce that 2 miscarriages doesn’t mean you will have a third... My first 2 pregnancies ended in mc (1st was a mmc which we found out at 9 weeks but baby has died at 6, 2nd we had healthy scans at 6 & 8 weeks then lost the baby at 9.3)... but my 3rd was successful & I now have a beautiful 2 year old little boy! ☺️. check out this thread for more info about my story & others who have gone on to have babies after recurrent mc. http://www.madeformums.com/forum/miscarriage-and-pregnancy-loss/rainbow-babies-never-give-up-hope-the-tears-and-pain-are-all-worth-it-in-the-end/195390.html
I’m also pregnant again now (4+5) & I thought I wouldn’t be so anxious this time Given that my last pregnancy was successful but I still am... I just feel like I can’t trust my body to do what it needs to do to protect my little bean. But I’m taking it one day at a time & praying that all will be well!.
good luck to you & if you need to talk we are here for you!
19/04/2018 at 07:53
Sw2, I'm so sorry for your losses and sadly I know exactly what it's like. I am so overwhelmed by your story. Its stories like this that really lift my mood and change my attitude. I really want this to work,I just don't feel pregnant if that makes sense? My GP found this concerning which then sent my anxiety through the roof. She mentioned blighted ovums and mmc. My Google history is now full of these search terms! I am going a little bit crazy!
Its so lovely to hear you had your little boy and now pregnant again. I guess the worry never goes right? I hope this time is as great as your last pregnancy!! I will check out your link now........ fingers crossed the bloods come back okay today. Xx
19/04/2018 at 08:00
Try not to worry about the lack of symptoms... I would say it would be more concerning if you had symptoms then lost them... but lots of women don’t have symptoms so early on. Easier said than done I know as I too have no real symptoms yet & of course am worrying.
Yes do let us know how your bloods turn out.... having those results will hopefully ease your worry a bit. Yes unfortunately I don’t think the anxiety ever goes away... but something a friend posted the other day really helped me to try and get my head straight a bit.. I’ll post it below:
19/04/2018 at 08:54
Sw2 a powerful quote! Thank you!I am going to look at this all day till I can call the doctors at 2pm!
I hate to doubt the doctors but I have heard not all pregnancies are the same and with past 2 mc I only had very very tiny symptoms. My breasts do feel a little sore, the middle is quite dark in colour, discharge is fairly obvious (sorry for the graphic detail) been having lots of gas pain accompanied with sharp pains still. I guess these are symptoms. What I was expecting was terrible morning sickness etc. I will be 7 weeks on Saturday. I guess it's only a good thing if the results have gone up?? Times like this I wish I had my mum to talk to. Sadly she had a stroke a while ago and is not the same person anymore. :( my gran told me what will be will be. I guess it's true. Its nice to know you also don't have many symptoms, I don't feel so alone. X
19/04/2018 at 10:15
I’m sorry to hear about your Mum... that’s very tough that she is still with you in body but not in other ways like you would love her to be.
Gas and lots of mucus are symptoms for sure! The mucus is because your body is producing lots more to make the plug. The gas... who knows but I have that terribly right now too! 🙈. I know what you mean though... id be so happy to have my head stuck down a toilet all day throwing up right now!. With my son, I did get nausea but not until about 9/10 weeks... before that I didn’t have tender boobs or even have backache which I did have with my first 2. So as much as I hate it, there really is no definitive answer so far as symptoms or lack of them goes. But yes... the HCG numbers are a great indicator... ideally you want them to be doubling over a 48 hour period (thats up until about 10 weeks I think)... if they don’t quite double but they still go up then you’re probably good... it’s if they barely change or go down that that indicates a miscarriage.
You got this hun! Keep strong for that little bean!
19/04/2018 at 10:29
SW2 thank you. I know I keep saying it but it's hugely helping!!! You made me laugh about wishing to have your head down a toilet!!! I so do wish that was me too! I thought I had it but I think it's the prenatal vitamins.
I could do with the results today being good. On the 11th April they were 4160 and I was just over 5 weeks. With the 2nd mc I never got over 14!
Roll on 2 o'clock!!! X
19/04/2018 at 11:38
19/04/2018 at 22:06
Quick update: my results weren't back today so fingers crossed tomorrow. Its going to be another nail biting wait.
19/04/2018 at 23:15
That sucks! Hopefully you’ll get a call first thing!
20/04/2018 at 13:16
Hey lovely ladies. So my results at 6 weeks and 4 days is 20,788. I guess that's a good thing. X
20/04/2018 at 14:48
Great news!! Congrats thirdtimelucky!!
20/04/2018 at 19:08
Hi thirdtimelucky, so sorry to hear about your miscarriages ☹️ I had a miscarriage in september At 13 weeks after 3 great scans I let my guard down and then no heartbeat, it was one of the hardest times of my life, I fell pregnant again quite quickly and I’m now 28 + 2 with a little boy, there’s a thread you can join pregnant after miscarriage part 2, you should definitely come and join us, the girls are amazing and so supportive we are all at different stages of our pregnancies so loads of help with any worries you have! I hope to see you over there xx
20/04/2018 at 22:41
Hey mummytolily, I have my viability scan on Wednesday so I'm going to hold out joining any more groups till then but it's fantastic to know there is such an amazing support network on here! I'm really anxious still and I guess that probably won't go anytime soon. I just need this to work out. I'm sorry about your miscarriage too. It really puts a downer on things when you do get pregnant again. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow which is just insane. Congratulations on your pregnancy with your little boy. I bet you are over the moon! I hope to be in your shoes soon. Xx
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