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07/09/2013 at 11:45
I had one with A, and although we ended up with an emergency section it was followed and referred to during my labour.
It's only really occured to me when replyig to Counter's post about baby being cleaned up or not.
I'm hoping for a vbac this time, what sort of things would be useful to put in it?
07/09/2013 at 12:11
I didn't when I had my vbac, or tell a lie, I did but I threw it back into the car as we walked into the hospital because I decided I wanted a completely open mind after the disaster of K's birth. This time I have written a few notes just to say I am open to pain relief, would like a water birth if pool available and to have the baby passed straight to me.
07/09/2013 at 12:32
It's a very personal thing. For my vbac, I wanted as few people in the room as possible (after having about 20 people in the delivery room with C, then all the people in theatre), and no students. I never wrote it down though, I just told the MW when I was in delivery, and she put it on top of my notes. That was my only "wish".
07/09/2013 at 12:35
I would - is there anything you are passionate about like delayed cord clamping? Immediate skin-to-skin / breastfeeding -including if another c-section occurs? VitaminK by injection? Natural 3rd stage or injection?
07/09/2013 at 12:46
I think it's worth doing, even if your wishes are obvious, because it gives the midwife a sense of what type of birth you want when you might be otherwise occupied. it also helps you to consider everything. mine was useful for when i was transferred to the delivery suite as it meant i got delayed cord clamping despite a forceps delivery. don't think i would have gotten that without the birth plan.
07/09/2013 at 13:59
Definitely worth writing a few things down if there are specific things you want.
07/09/2013 at 14:04
I was sceptical aftet J's birth as it was completely ignored then but I put a few bits down that I really wanted ie h to cut the cord
07/09/2013 at 14:49
I made a few notes, like noggin rather than a plan, and am glad I did, although the mw asked us most things anyway during the delivery, I felt more relaxed knowing it was written down in case I didn't remember or had bigger things on my mind!
I put requests like - H to cut cord if possible, delayed cord clamp, vitamin K, baby delivered straight to me, support with BF. I also remember writing at the top that I was very open minded, adaptable and wanted to be guided by the medical team.
07/09/2013 at 15:09
I didn't bother second time around as it all went out of the window first time around. They asked about skin to skin and h cutting the cord which was all I was really bothered about. This time I went in with a much more open mind and actually had the experience I would have loved to have first time around. I trusted h would be representing me and if he was not able to do this if stressed if it all went pear shared I would have again wanted the professionals to step in and do what was needed.
The only thing I forgot to ask about was having a look at the placenta as funnily I have never seen one but I can live with that.
07/09/2013 at 17:43
I didn't bother this time. My H knew my wishes and as it happened, it was all too quick anyway so they wouldn't have had a chance to read anything. As I was pushing they asked if I wanted baby delivered straight onto me then they asked about vitamin K when baby was being weighed.
07/09/2013 at 17:49
I had one for my first and it went to the letter of it, wonderful natural water birth, delayed cord clamp, skin to skin etc etc. but in hindsight I realise I was so so lucky it went to plan and I think I could have been very upset/resentful if things hadn't gone to plan.
second time I didn't have one. it was twins so I we were aware that things would likely be out of our control anyway and having been through it before H was well prepared and fully versed on what I did and didn't want. we felt it was only setting ourselves up for disappointment if things went out of control. I ended up with an induction, ventouse delivery of my first twin, no delay in the cord clamp as they were worried about her - it was quite traumatic in the end and I was glad that the only thing I focused on was 'babies and me safe however necessary'.
we hope to have another and I would definitely not write one again (even if not a complicated pregnancy). I am happy that H knows my wishes and I can just focus on me and baby getting through it safe and sound.
07/09/2013 at 20:22
Last time I think I told the midwife most of it rather than her reading it, but it was useful at shift change when I was struggling more.
Think I'll write down a few bullet points, I was pretty open minded last time and given it's a vbac this time I'll have even less choices, so it will be a pretty short list.
I may do another post asking about crash sections, particularly under GA, as there's more of a chance of that this time.
07/09/2013 at 20:24
I've never bothered with a birth plan. In my head I want as little intervention as possible but I'm happy to go with the flow and how I feel at the time.
07/09/2013 at 20:37
I had a birth plan last time and will again this time, more of a list of things that were important to me like skin to skin and breastfeeding as soon as possible. I understood there might be changes that I couldn't control but I'm still glad I had it.
08/09/2013 at 01:14
I had quite a detailed plan (skin to skin straight away, breast feeding, H to cut the cord...), I think part of the reason was that it helped it that I was able to visualise to how the birth might happen, as it happened I don't think anyone actually read my plan which was a bit annoying as, speaking to others, there are things that I asked for that I could've had but didn't. But they were pretty busy so I suppose I can't blame them. I'd probably write another but this time ask not to have a hands on student midwife who'd take my temp every 10 mins!!
08/09/2013 at 08:03
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