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11/01/2014 at 12:28
Was wanting your guys ideas on resolving sibling jealousy. baby isn't here yet, and won't be until June but we've already noticed a lot of jealousy. My sister in law came over from Australia with her 6 week old daughter, my H was cooing over it and having lots of baby cuddles and we got a lot of 'daddy hold my hand' 'daddy look at me'... I thought this was just because there was a baby around but we went round a friends house yesterday (little one goes to school with 2 of the girls) and there was jealously over daddy playing with the other girls, despite the fact that we've been over there 100 times before and never had any jealousy or moodiness.
Obviously news about the baby is weighing on her and she's now getting jealous about daddy's interaction with any child it would seem. She's fine when it's just the three of us and talks to the baby and talks about doing the baby's hair, and dressing the baby up, and lists name ideas and seems really enthusiastic about it all but when she actually see's daddy with other children a red flag goes up for her. (She's been an only child at our house for a long while but at her mums house she's had siblings for the last 4/5 years, her being the eldest).
H and I were talking last night and don't really know what to do... When he was playing with the other girls they were each taking it in turns to climb up him and his attention was shared equally, I could understand if he was playing with only the other girls and she was left out but she had just as much attention as anyone else. It's a bit of a weird situation to resolve when the sibling isnt here yet... We're going bowling tomorrow with the same group of friends so was hoping I could put some ideas to practice tomorrow.
11/01/2014 at 14:30
Oh bless her! So, so normal though. I know this isn't very helpful but I think maybe there's not much you can do beforehand except assure her of how very important she is and how much the new baby will love her and look up to her. When baby comes you can be more proactive "baby loves to hold your finger most", "baby always has big smiles for you" "you're so helpful, not sure how we'd cope without you to pass things/keep an eye on baby". From what I've seen these situations mostly do resolve themselves. You have all the consideration and love to deal with the circumstances, she'll be fine! x
12/01/2014 at 10:03
I wonder if that the fact that she has siblings on her mother's side is behind it. She's had to get used to sharing her mother's attention, but not he father's. He's currently hers and hers alone, but she knows what a difference the new baby will make because she already has younger siblings. Chances are she'll be fine once the baby is born and can play the important role of big sister, but right now she wants the most of her daddy's attention. All you can do is continue to reassure her and make sure she's included in everything. X
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