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02/07/2013 at 18:13
I need children do dinner myself every night and its turned into a constant battle. It's so so drainin. Ends in my shouting and I've had enough.
Most nights I eat with them, we always sit at the table yet e dry night my 3 yr old seems shocked when I announce dinner is on the table. Every night without fail he walks to his seat, looks at his plate and immediately announces he does t like it and start moaning. No matter what meal is on his plate. tv an repeat "get on your seat a d pick up your fork" 5 times before he actually sits down. Theit early every mouth full I have to tell him to stop wavi g the form about, put the food in your mouth, chew the food, swallow the food etc etc. it is so draining!
It always ends with me in a stinking mood. I just want to enjoy my meal for Once.
Tonight when he initially started I told him this was his one and only warning - if he continued to moan and not eat he was going to bed and his plate in the bin. He did co to us to moan so I sent him upstairs. He appeared a few min later, apologised and asked to eat his dinner. I agreed and he ate maybe 5 fork fulls before I removed his plate for moaning again.
A is now eating meringue, strawberries and yogurt. He has asked for the same but I've told him no. Queue tantrum. He's now laying on the sofa watching tv.
Do I put him to bed with no more food? He is 3 yrs 4 month, a big boy. Today has eaten 2 bowls porridge with banana and raisins, bowl of strawberries and grapes, a pancake a whole meal roll with ham salad, cheese dunker, packet Hula Hoops, apple. Dinner he only had 3/4 bites chicken breast, 1/2 bites baked potato and cheese and a few beans.
Hes not going to starve is He?
02/07/2013 at 18:16
I apologise for the awful spelling, I'm on my phone!
02/07/2013 at 18:23
dinner times are hard arnt they. i only enjoy my meal if i eat at a different time. sometimes my 1 eats great, other times not so. i figure as long as iv offered food if shes refused it shes not hungry.
if you think his hungry could you offer him something else before bed, but not a treat or pudding, maybe some toast or cereal?
02/07/2013 at 18:29
He's eaten more than J eats in a week sometimes lol so I'd not worry about him going hungry.
I hate mealtimes when I'm on my own with them so totally sympathise
02/07/2013 at 18:32
Thanks Mrs C
He would happily live on porridge and fruit. I think it's laziness tbh. He wants me to feed him at mealtimes.
02/07/2013 at 18:35
It's the moaning just now that's driving me mad. Plus he was up from 4-6am tiredness today isn't helping!
02/07/2013 at 18:36
i wish my little one did. she insists on doing it herself, which takes ages forever and is so messy.
02/07/2013 at 18:55
My son can be hard work at dinner time, it''s laziness for him. I think he would be quite happy to sit and be spoonfed! I had battled with him in the past and got so stressed that I had to stop for my own sanity. He went to bed hungry a few times and then got the message. He's 4.5 now and will sit and eat a bit and then ask how many more bites he has to eat I only give him small portions as it is because he gets overwhelmed if there is too much on his plate and then he can only manage about half - three quarters of what I give him...oh and then right before bed 'mum I'm hungry' aargh!
Sorry that turned into a rant but I think the only way they learn is for you to remain calm, stop the battles. Put the food down and get on with eating yours. Try to ignore the moaning and tantrums and if he eats great, if not he goes to bed hungry.
02/07/2013 at 19:23
G is just the same. I stopped reacting and took dessert away and dinner if she threw a strop. She is much better now x
02/07/2013 at 19:34
Well I didn't give him anything else, he asked for strawberries and banana.
He then used a red marker to draw all over the dining table while I was doing the dishes. So he is in bed - no bath or stories.
I soooo need wine and chocolate right now
02/07/2013 at 20:27
I offer Zoe a meal, if she doesn't eat it then she goes to bed without, there are no alternatives. When she was a similar age we had exactly what you were describing and it almost drove me to insanity. A couple of things that we started doing, that I said i would never do, were that I let her have the TV on while she was eating and I also stopped eating with her. That sounds counter intuitive but I just got on with jobs in the kitchen or wherever and left her to it, funnily enough without an audience she got on and ate much better. The other thing is bribery. She can have pudding if she eats a decent amount of her meal. She doesn't have to finish it all, if it is something new or I know she isn't keen on then I am more lenient. Pudding is normally a home made ice lolly (made with frozen angel delight, the only way I can get milk in her) or a yoghurt.
02/07/2013 at 20:47
I can't leave him to eat alone as I have a nearly 5 yr old daughter - who herself is tediously slow at eating. She does eat whatever is put I front of her, just at a snails pace. That's a whole other post though and I doubt she will speed up as my H is just as slow at 32 yrs old!!
02/07/2013 at 20:49
By alone i meant without me there, rather than without siblings etc
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