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16/01/2014 at 11:28
Can anyone offer a light at the end of a very dark and sleep deprived tunnel?
S is 5 months and sleep is getting progressively worse. I remember at about 6 weeks he did a 7-hour sleep! Now we're lucky to get 60 minutes! I've started pick up put down as I'm so unhappy and sleep deprived I can no longer continue to accept that 'this too shall pass'. However there has been zero improvement so far (five nights) - in fact they have all been 'bad' nights.
Today I am starting it for naps too, so far unsuccessfully!
Can anyone offer any hope? I see other people try these things with success so wonder what I'm doing wrong, whilst at the same time thinking my baby must be a *particularly* shocking sleeper. I saw someone yesterday who had a non-sleeper and even controlled crying didn't work for him! That would be my next tactic but not until solids are established and the 6-month growth spurt has passed.
Thanks all. Going to catch up on the site now - not logged on in a while!
16/01/2014 at 11:50
We did gentle sleep training at 10 months, as I couldn't cope with the lack of sleep any more. Until then I'd been feeding him to sleep, transferring him from my lap to the cot after 25 mins asleep (earlier transferring would lead to a wake and screaming) then bringing him into bed with me when he woke, & feeding to sleep again multiple times throughout the night. If he woke in the night he would often scream for up to an hour, even when picked up or rocked or ssshed. We started by putting him down awake but sleepy, then sitting by the cot and reassuring him with a sleep phrase "night night, sleepy time" and a rub on the back every minute or so. He was furious the first night, and cried for about 45 mins, I felt horrible beyond belief as not picking him up when he cried was alien, but from previous experience picking him up still let to him screaming, and he didn't think he'd been abandoned, we were right there with him and making physical contact. When he did fall asleep he slept all night long the first night - it was aaaamazing. Night 2 he was down to 10 mins crying before dropping off, and by night 3 he was down to a couple of minutes. He woke up once on the second night, and I fed him then put him down awake, and he settled after about 20 mins. Night 3 he slept through again.
Unfortunately about 2 weeks later he learnt to pull to standing and then it all went to pot as he would pull himself up every time I laid him down, and we've had ups and downs with illnesses, phases and regressions, but overall since starting it's got progressively better, with an average of 1or sometimes 2 ups per night, and him settling with a back rub rather than an hour of screaming, and going into the cot fairly calmly and without any crying.
I hope that you get some relief soon, I know how tough the lack of sleep can be.
16/01/2014 at 13:07
Hi PW I can't offer any advice but just wanted to say hi and that I had been thinking about you recently and wondering if you were ever about. I'm so sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time and I hope you get some helpful answers on here. xxx
16/01/2014 at 13:13
I also have no advice but have been thinking about you. Sounds weird but you were one of my 'keep positive' reasons as I knew you had bled throughout first tri but all was ok. Sorry he is still being a tinker!
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16/01/2014 at 15:05
Big hugs, we went through the same. At 9.5 months we still get some shockingly bad nights but we are getting a few more better ones, last night he woke at 12.50 for a quick feed and then slept until just after 7...amazing! We did pupd but I found it made him worse so we tried cc but a gentle version where we only left him for 1, 2, 3 etc mins. Ironically apart from the first night we had less crying than we had when cosleeping! He now goes down awake without a peep! He does have bad nights as I said but I think teething, gs, illness play a massive role in that. It is hard, nothing can prepare you for the lack of sleep and it's truly miserable. I do also agree that some are just awful sleepers. Really hope you see some improvement soon x
16/01/2014 at 16:14
Hi PW! We did the baby whisperer with O, only with daytime naps as he really only slept 30 mins a day and then was a horrible overtired baby! I only follow it loosely as I think you should try these things and then take the things that suit you and baby from it, I've been doing it 4 weeks now and he has a morning nap and a lunchtime one. The afternoon one is still testing for us but it did get better with much effort to do it exactly the Same every day for the first few weeks. Since his daytime naps improved his nighttime sleeping improved too mainly as he wasn't overtired anymore! Good luck, sleep deprevation is just the worst!
16/01/2014 at 22:41
We had difficulties getting S to sleep through, which was a complete shock as C slept through from 6 weeks! We ended up doing something very similar to SG in that we would not pick her up when she cried (as long as it was simply protesting at being expected to stop in her cot). H spent literally hours to start with with his hand on his chest, stroking her face etc. anything to let her know he was there, but that she wasn't getting up. She also used to repeatedly sit and stand up, so we'd take it in turns to go back in and lie her down. It wasn't a quick process and took some commitment on H's part (I was too soft and would give in and pick her up) but she did get the idea eventually and now, with the exception of illness, teething etc. she pretty much sleeps through.
I couldn't bear the thought of leaving her to cry herself to sleep on her own (and she'd just get louder and more distraught if left alone) so this was a good compromise and it worked.
17/01/2014 at 10:41
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