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07/02/2014 at 18:07
I'm dreading it. I've told my manager, but not all my colleagues - waiting until after my rescheduled scan on Monday (then I'm not in work again until Weds). With A they were happy for me but I just feel like they won't be this time. I've just started back at work and I'll be gone again by early August at the latest. On the one hand I want to get it over with but on the other I feel like just dragging it out and not saying anything for as long as possible!
Would you think really badly of a colleague who returned to work already pregnant? Would you say so (even if just indirectly)? The advantage is that I know I'm going so I am already preparing for someone to take over, so I'm writing all my processes down as I learn them (it's a new role for me) so it'll be crystal clear for whoever takes over. I still feel bad about it though especially as my department is really busy (they've had a lot of new work since I left).
07/02/2014 at 18:15
07/02/2014 at 18:27
It entirely depends. If I'd been doing a significantly increased workload, or wanted your job, or some other grievance then maybe I'd have cause to be miffed. Otherwise I'd say it's none of my business and wish you well!
07/02/2014 at 18:47
I had a colleague who returned to work already pregnant after taking over a year off on maternity leave/annual leave with her first. We were all really happy for her. It was a bit of a shock but it's happy news so I can't understand why anyone would harbour bad feelings.
07/02/2014 at 18:57
I didn't go back to work after E (only cus the company went bust) but I was really nervous about telling people I was pregnant again so soon as E was only 5 months and I was worried what people might think. Try not to worry about it too much and if any one is funny about it that's their problem! Good luck x
07/02/2014 at 19:19
Honestly I'd be a bit taken a back but not upset, cross etc at the end of the day you work for a large organisation & in the grand scheme of things it's not going to have a massive impact - dept yes, company no.
Sorry if that's harsh!! I feel bad being pregnant & not even there a year but maternity package, sick pay etc is why I came there - and so far it's paying off! And the impact thing I said above - that's my attitude & why I just try to brush any guilty feelings aside. I know I'm a gd worker & will be going back so what's 9 months or a year in say 30years service?
07/02/2014 at 19:22
Thank you everyone. Agentblackcat the gap is 19 months - not very tiny but still smaller than the 'expected' 2-3 years most people seem to do. I took a year off with Alex so will only be back 6 months before leaving again and I'll likely take another year due to the cost of 2 in childcare (especially when A won't get his 15 free hours until April 2016!).
Counter that is my main worry - that my work are not the most organised at getting cover in and so there will probably be an increased workload. I am trying my best to ensure that this is as minimal as possible, by having very clear handover notes and very clear processes/files etc. I aim to leave as much done as possible, and when I go the students will have just started their summer break so hopefully it'll be a lull period.
07/02/2014 at 19:31
H and I were just discussing this! Just cos he came home and told me his colleague's wife is expecting again having only just gone back to work in January, looks like a month or two less than your age gap for them. Anyway I was telling him about a girl I worked with a few years ago that had two mat leaves back to back as she fell pregnant more or less straight away with her second. People were surprised but more concerned about her and how hard work it would be for here etc.. rather than any ill feelings about work! As we said, at the end of the day, your family planning is nobody else's business and how does it differ from having two mat leaves but five or ten years apart?
Having said that, there will always be those who have something to say, as they do about everything. None of their business, don't let it worry you too much x
07/02/2014 at 19:44
In your situation, no I wouldn't think twice about it as it happens quite a lot. What did get my goat was a woman who came back from her first mat leave very early (like less than 6 months in) purely so she could turn claim mat leave for number 2. I was happy for her bit really felt for the person who was acting up into her role as they were really mucked about.
07/02/2014 at 19:54
07/02/2014 at 20:01
Personally it wouldn't bother me, you never know people's reasonings behind when they decide to fall pregnant. I work in the NHS so it happens quite frequently, nut like someone else said if you have them 20 years service what's 2 years off in the grand scheme of your working life. We did however have a girl that came back from a years may leave for a week, went off sick for 6 months came back for another 2 weeks and then straight on mat leave (having fallen pregnant in her sick time) which got a few people's backs up as she ended up nearly taking 3 years off paid!
07/02/2014 at 20:29
07/02/2014 at 20:30
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