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16/06/2013 at 15:21
I amhave am close to deleting a friend on Facebook. I try not to judge other mums.... But... It's hard when you see them doing stuff like smoking again straight after baby is born, feeding from a spoon at 3months, palming baby off on family to go to festivals, nights out etc when only a month old... The list is endless.
Tell me I'm not the only one to be this way...
16/06/2013 at 15:57
Hmm the smoke thing I don't like as I'm anti smoking anyway, but I try very hard not to judge now I have Henry. Before I had him I was well up on my high horse- I wot be doing this I wot be doing that, etc. It all goes out the window with an actual baby to look after. It's a lot harder than I thought!
16/06/2013 at 17:08
Some things do annoy me but like missus s I am less judgemental about some things now I'm living through motherhood myself. I don't see what's to judge on the nights out though unless its every night every weekend. We MIGHT go to the cinema when baby is 5/6 weeks old but that's a big might and depends on a lot of things but I would hate to think friends judged me for it and if they did I would want to be culled anyway. I don't agree with the spoon feeding at 3 months though.
16/06/2013 at 17:24
16/06/2013 at 17:25
I agree with you IDC on the smoking and 3mth thing. I personally had no desire to leave D at all when she was tiny but I do understand that some people have no issue with doing so. I don't agree with it but I would never say anything.
If it annoyed me that much I would definitely cull the person.
16/06/2013 at 17:47
I "palm" my kids off for nights out...
I am judged a lot for that. Admitedly, it tends to be by people who don't have family nearby who will baby sit.
16/06/2013 at 17:57
I totally agree with what mm says. I think it's only palming them off if its on a very regular basis. I think they can't really be much of a friend if you are going to delete them. I would only feel that strongly if I thought they were harming the baby by smoking, taking drugs. Ok so guidelines on feeding has changed and I tried to stick to that as much as possible but not so long ago it was 4 months and when my h was a baby their bottles would have baby rice in.
I am glad my children had the chance to have sleepovers with grandparents from a young age, unfortunately for us due to health problems my children will never be able to do that any more and share such a close bond with their grandparents.
16/06/2013 at 18:52
Although its not generally something I'd do I find it horrible everyobe feels the need to judge your parenting...Being a Mum is a hard enough job without having people scrutinise every move.What works for one person (however much its not conventional) will not necessarily work for another.
16/06/2013 at 19:04
am i the only one jealous of the nights out i SO wish id childcare id love jsut to have a smear without little eyes watching never mind an actual night out, good on them!
smoking, i dont agree with but at the end of the day if they are feeding their children and loving and caring for them then thats the main thing
feeding from a spoon at 3 months is jsut poor education i think and thats up to the parent and HV to work on
16/06/2013 at 19:05
I have to admit I'm a bit judgey too if I see someone smoking around a baby. Generally I try not to be though, you don't always know reasons behind decisions, and everyone is different. I waited till 6 months to wean, but J might have been better off being weaned early in hindsight, he vomited 20-30 times a day and I had to feed him every 90 mins to compensate for it. Once he started on solids the vomiting went down to a couple of times a day, he jumped from the 9th to the 50th centile, and generally seemed a bit happier. I wouldn't have left J when he was tiddly, but partly that was due to the frequent feeding, it can definitely help to keep your sanity if you have a few hours off every now and then.
16/06/2013 at 19:10
I would feel the same IDC, it is hard not to judge when they pop up in your news feed.
I don't agree with the food at 3 months thing or the smoking, the going out issue is difficult to call without knowing the person or more details.
16/06/2013 at 19:15
Spikeygoodness how on earth did you cope with the vomiting 20-30 times a day?? How awful...x
16/06/2013 at 21:35
Most of the sicks weren't that huge, so he only got changed when he was really soaked - that was still 5 or 6 times a day. So both he and I stank of sick for 6 months, it was lovely!
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