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15/04/2013 at 09:56
I know some people worry about having enough love etc to go round when they have more kids. I'm not worried about this and haven't really given that aspect much thought. I'm more curious about the logistics of having two. How do you get out the door in the mornings. How do you stop the eldest running a muck when trying to do something with the baby.
Talk to me about having two!
15/04/2013 at 10:10
You're just asking this now?!!
15/04/2013 at 10:13
Yeah! It's sort of just hit me!! Things like, how will I do soft play...they will be in different sections!! How will I take two swimming! I'm worried I won't be able to do things C is used to doing, and things that get me out! Ill get to 1stbaby's gaff and that's it lol!!
15/04/2013 at 10:19
Of course, I have no idea myself yet!
M is a year older than C so happily goes off alone at soft play. I wouldn't do swimming alone with two, not sure you're even allowed. I'd take baby when M is at school though.
15/04/2013 at 10:21
I worry about this but try to bury my head in the sand and hope it will work itself out.
I keep telling myself when I was pregnant with W I wondered how I would do anything, I was hoping to get an instruction book and felt totally clueless about everything. But it's true what everyone says that you just work it out as you go along, so I'm kind of hoping the same will happen with managing two!
Please someone tell us its easy!!!
15/04/2013 at 10:29
I had a similar gap between my first 2. Tbh, in the early days the baby just gets dragged around where the elder one needs to go! Swimming I did when O was at pre school or with H at the weekend. Soft play wasn't really an issue until at least 6 months by which time O would go off and do her own thing mostly.
I actually don't remember how I got out in the morning but O had to be at pre school for 8.45 every morning, 6 miles away, so I obviously managed! I guess it's just a new routine.
I'll be honest, I found it pretty hard work, physically more than anything - all the getting the baby in and out the car, school run etc but once in the swing of it it was all fine.
God knows how I;ll manage 3 in a few weeks, eek!
15/04/2013 at 10:36
I'm probably the wrong one to ask at the moment, having had a mini melt down at the weekend because i couldn't cope.
I've got a 2 year old and a 1 year old. E is a pain in the butt at the moment and definately having the terrible twos. It's hard, things like swimming i can't do unless H is with me, or i only take one of them. Soft play is ok now as they'll both play with the same kind of stuff. I struggle to go out on my own with the two of them, maybe it's me being a rubbish mummy or maybe it is just hard.
Food shopping is ok as long as there is a double seater trolly. Some supermarkets these are like gold dust, and i can't get them, and the shop assistants seem to think that keeping them in the store is a good idea so you have to struggle into the shop with two toddlers in tow to hunt down a trolly. Then you get the fighting because they're say next to one another in the trolley and they're touching arms.
TBH, baby and toddler is a doddle, toddler and toddler = mega stressed out mummy.
15/04/2013 at 10:39
Interested to read this!
15/04/2013 at 10:41
Jen, Rose is sooooo good, you'd breeze it!!!
15/04/2013 at 10:44
It's hard work for the first few weeks as there's lots of readjustment to do. Getting out of the door is a mission but you do get into a routine of making sure the bag is always packed and ready. O has had his moments but he absolutely adores L, which is all I can ask for. I haven't attempted soft play yet so I can't comment. It does get easier especially when L's feeds aren't as frequent.
We'll find out in December!
15/04/2013 at 10:46
!!!!!!!!!!!! Did I miss an announcement!!!!!!!!!!
15/04/2013 at 10:48
No,I can't start new threads from phone!only found out yesterday so only 4+3.due date is the same one I had for rose 20th dec!!
15/04/2013 at 10:50
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations, I'm so so thrilled for you darling, and am sure the girls will be too!! Wonderful news, am so excited!! Xxxxx
15/04/2013 at 10:52
Deedee has just started me a thread,i'll stop hijacking yours!I'm happy and terrified!
Two is easy to get out of the house, I found 4 to be more tricky
When the baby is teeny its more about the about the feeding than anything else as they do sleep a lot. I b/f my second and got used to doing it anywhere and everywhere. I had to get used to the fact that things just took a bit longer than normal. My older child was 19 months old the second one arrived and that was when he started to watch TV! I never had it on when he was around before but we discovered cbeebies!
i have never taken 2 swimming until the older one could swim unaided. I started doing most of grocery shopping online so if I did need to go to the supermarket I could keep them both in the buggy. There are trollies with both a baby seat and a toddler seat though.
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