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07/07/2013 at 07:51
I don't know if you get many men on here but I cant find any decent outlets anywhere for my issue. Hope you amazing ladies don't mind a bloke coming on? Anyway, here's my/our story.
My wife and I have always wanted children but have been waiting till we were o. a situation financially where it was gonna be possible. We decided at Christmas that we would try and by February we were so happy to see a positive test. We became so attached to this little apple seed/bean/blueberry and tracked it through apps websites calenders etc and had even started to write a journal and messages in a diary to our unborn.
A few weeks down the line we were booked in for the three month scan but two weeks short of that my wife experienced some light "spotting" and some cramps. We went to A&E for an emergency scan. Expecting to see an 8/9 weeks old foetus, the nurse quickly dampened our hopes by telling us it was barely 4/5 weeks, no heartbeat and very high likelyhood of MC. Sure enough, within a week, our worst fears were realised and we'd lost our little one.
We didn't want to hang about trying to conceive again and once she'd recovered and docs gave us all clear we had another go. My wife had symptoms like sickness, tiredness, wanting to eat the entire contents of the kitchen... and we were waiting for her due date AF. Nothing. Hopes raised. But negative tests. 5 days since she was supposed to have her period and finally a positive. I felt like superman. But within hours of this she has been bleeding. Went to GP who seemed concerned but at early stage there's nothing they can do. She's been spotting on off, various shades browny red etc for about 3/4 days now.
*Update* Bleeding appears to have stopped / lessened today and a VERY faint positive test (5days after due period)
Convinced it won't stick but trying to stay positive for my Wife.
07/07/2013 at 10:29
Sorry to hear about your loss at the start of the year. I sincerely hope this one is a sticky fighter and hangs on in there. I would assume to still get a positive test (even if it's faint) is a good sign after the bleeding.
Here's hoping for you both, keep us updated!!
07/07/2013 at 11:04
It's nice to have a guy in the forum so don't worry about joining us. I'm so very sorry for your loss earlier this year
I love how into it you are, I'm waiting to miscarry and my hubby's buggered off to work!
You seem like a really good guy and I really hope it's just implantation bleeding and you get your sticky bean xx
07/07/2013 at 12:11
Yeah I'm really into it. I made sure she let me know about anything she was feeling (not that she wouldn't have done anyway- you know what women are like)
I've kept track of dates, planned best time to concieve, been eating and exercising to get ready, taken all kinds of vitamins etc to give our bean the best chance. I've read tons of journals, forums, sites emails etc to look up symptoms, etc and generally trying to get involved as much as possible.
I don't know any dads in same situation as me so speaking to you guys on here is really helping
07/07/2013 at 14:03
You sound like a brilliant husband! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I really hope you have a more positive outcome this time, I had bleeding with my little boy and was convinced it was all over but everything worked out fine. Fingers crossed that it is the same for you. You will clearly make an amazing Daddy xx
07/07/2013 at 14:38
Wow u r good! My other half left it all down to me to plan it out, left his deposit so to speak, and is taking a back seat now lol! good luck hope this one sticks iv been having spotting and cramps and saw my lil prawn with a heartbeat at my scan on fri. 9 weeks today x
07/07/2013 at 15:33
Aw thanks guys.
I'm not looking for praise or to put anyone down but I can't understand why you wouldn't want to be as much a part of it as possible. I can't grow the baby so will do whatever else I can.
so pleased for you LH I'd love to see my baby's heartbeat in a few weeks x
07/07/2013 at 19:19
Awww welcome! Its sooo lovely to see a guy on our forum! And especially one as enthusiastic as yourself! I'm very sorry for your loss earlier in the year. I have everything crossed and send you lots of sticky baby dust for your current lil bean!!x
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