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08/01/2016 at 12:25
We've just been chatting in the MFM office about 3rd (and 4th and more) pregnancies, and the one thing that came up again and again was how shocked/surprised other people can be when they hear you're having more than the regulation 1 or 2 children.
So we're wondering if that's happened to you, too?
Did people react differently when you told them you were expecting a 3rd (or more) baby?
If so, what did they say that was different?
We'd really love to know. Please do share your experiences with us by adding a post to this thread.
08/01/2016 at 14:59
Hi, this is a really touchy subject for me I am currently pregnant with my 5th baby, the reactions outwith my family was very mixed however the general consensus was that I was crazy.
I was so angered by this that when I posted my scan picture on facebook to let my other family and friend's know I put a wee disclaimer at the start. It stated "before you take the time to comment or congratulate my family on our exciting news I want to answer a few questions, 1- Yes we do own a telly, 2- No we are not crazy 3- No we are not only having a baby in the hope its a boy( we have 4 girls). if you have anything negative to say may I suggest you do the descent thing and say it away from me".
I was upset that I felt I needed to write my wee disclaimer however having suffered a miscarriage earlier last year I was not about to let anyone put a dampener on our families excitement. I think what people fail to see is that its not a new thing to have bigger families it is actually a new thing to have smaller families.
anyway this is just my personal experiences with the "we're pregnant" oh "not again" reactions :)
17/01/2016 at 20:32
The difference between first two and our 6th couldn't be more if we tried!
First 2 all our family and friends were over the moon, we were inundated with cards congratulating the safe arrival and had streams of positive comments and visitors,
The next three were greeted but with less and less enthusiasm by friends, even family didn't visit to see baby just came when they were in the area
Our 6th.....a very much wanted baby (after a mmc to...and 2 years ttc) Was greeted by some awful comments on the pregnancy announcement, I too have heard I must be crazy from just about everyone ! One woman (eavesdropping in the playground ) went so far as to interrupt my conversation to tell me I was irresponsible to bear so many children when I couldn't possibly care for them all equally!
My response was short swift and to the point ( also ended with the word off!)
But after my precious baby was delivered by emergency c section we were so happy to be home safe and sound.
My darling daughter has received exactly 4 cards, one dress one blanket and a pk of bibs, from the total of our friends and family and to this day one uncle has seen her out of total 7 aunts/uncles. And that was purely by chance as we bumped into him lol
However she is a huge part of bith mine and hubbys heart and I don't have a baby to get gifts or attention, it is simply to multiply the love, I feel sorry for those in our family who are missing out on knowing a very special little girl
In my opinion every baby is a blessing no matter how many siblings they grow up with.
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