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01/06/2013 at 20:48
Did anyone else worry about what their family/parents would think? Obv know it's our choice as a family but as a one and only I really worry about the response I will get from my family. Curious really, feel more nervous about potentially telling my mum second time around!!!
01/06/2013 at 20:50
I wasn't worried the 2nd time but 3rd time round I was terrified telling my mum. And with good reason cos she wasn't best pleased lol
01/06/2013 at 20:52
I wasn't nervous the second time, but I was so nervous when telling my mum about #3, I think it was primarily because people weren't expecting us to have a third. The response from everyone has been totally positive though.
01/06/2013 at 20:55
My mum knew we were trying, as I'd had to delay it a year due to Gynae issues, so I was more relieved to tell her so she could stop wondering in silence! Second time round I've found people have expected it more than with #1. I was also more open to close friends about ttc #2.
I think I'd be more nervous about telling H than anyone else if there was a #3 (would be very much unplanned!)
01/06/2013 at 20:56
That's really interesting. Do you both have siblings? I think as it's just me when I've chatted to my mum she doesn't seem to get the need or desire to have more than one if that makes sense. Can you imagine my nerves if we decide to have three?!!!
Yes, felt very nervous the 2nd time. We'd spent 3.5 years saying no, never again so as nervous as I was, it was also very exciting. Their reaction was amazing! My mum practically fell off her chair.
01/06/2013 at 20:59
Ah rusty that's a lovely reaction from your mum! I think my mum might think we are irresponsible, we live in a two bed flat, no chance moving anytime soon etc. although I don't worry about that ITs plenty big enough IMO
01/06/2013 at 21:04
Yes, I'm one of two plus my mum lost a baby in between us, so my mum definitely understood the sibling thing. Like I said, I think it was more to do with the fact that we had only really planned two, the third wasn't unplanned but it was very much a late change of heart. Most people haven't reacted at all - it definitely helps that we live in a village where four or more children is pretty common!
01/06/2013 at 21:09
Erm I think people would drop off their seats as we have been very clear that we cannot afford to pay for treatment to have a No. 2 (or in fact childcare, but that's another issue). I'm an only child so I kind of get what you mean. My mum has passed away but I think she would totally get having just one x
01/06/2013 at 21:32
I think people will think it's surprising if we have a small age gap, we'd have 2 years if we got pregnant quickly. We've made no secret about wanting more but i'll still be nervous about telling them!
01/06/2013 at 21:36
I'm one of 3, H one of 2, we'd always spoken abou having 2 so I think that meant it came as less of a surprise to them.
01/06/2013 at 21:43
I wasn't nervous as such, but was curious to see their reaction to telling them #2 was on the way - as I had expected, they were *very* surprised, but then to be fair, we were too
01/06/2013 at 21:46
For some reason I was quite embarassed about telling family i was pregnant with no 2. Mainly because everyone was very well aware that H did not want a second child and also because it wasn't really planned. When I was pregnant with Zoe everyone knew we had been trying for a long time (3.5 yrs) so it was almost expected, second really wasn't.
01/06/2013 at 21:53
My sister has 3 children (all close ages to ours) so when we told them we were expecting no3 I don't think they were surprised at all! We can't have any more (for medical reasons) but if we could and ttc number 4 I think I'd definitely be nervous to tell them!!
Even with my third at 30 yrs old I don't think I ever told my dad myself that I was pregnant , ive always told mum who then told him which I know is silly!!
01/06/2013 at 23:17
It's a weird thing telling your parents really isn't it, I still feel like a kid and it's just admitting to them you're at it!!! I worry too as my patents are our child care and wouldn't want them to feel like we are taking the pee x
01/06/2013 at 23:58
I don't think anyone would be surprised if I announced I was pregnant right now (I'm not - not even ttc just yet). Think I've talked to much about hopefully be lucky enough to have a 2nd.
02/06/2013 at 00:50
No. But I'm not particularly close to mu parents so t h I really woukdntcare what they thought
02/06/2013 at 10:57
I'd be more worried telling my parents about a number 2. After 3 years if marriage it was pretty much expected of us. I wouldn't care what anyone thought, I just hated telling my parents this time. I didn't even tell my dad, left my mum to do that!
02/06/2013 at 15:07
I was really nervous about telling my Mum I was pg with No.2. (more so than telling her I was pg at 18)
My Dads response was "don't you know what condoms are?" I replied with "don't you?" as he has fathered 6 kids with 3 women, haha.
My Mum was shocked, as I always said C would be my only child (hence the 7.5yr age gap). Being 1 of 9 kids put me off having loads of kids myself, ha.
02/06/2013 at 16:35
My H is an only child but when we told his Mum we were pregnant with #2, she didn't seem at all surprised - in fact she said "I thought something like this was on the cards"
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