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21/04/2013 at 23:00
H is exclusively breatstfed and we don't use any bottles for expressed milk at present. I'm cautious about introducing bottles at this stage but know this limits my tune away from H.
Has anyone else breatstfed only and if so what age until? How did you find being do tied? Any coping tips??
21/04/2013 at 23:10
I've breastfed my youngest two with no bottles. Tate wouldn't have one and I never even tried with Rafferty. I fed Tate til he self weaned at 21.5months and will do the same with Rafferty (15mths). It is tying but I'm a SAHM so don't have to worry about leaving him for work and I try and think of it as being a relatively short amount of time in my lifetime that I cant leave him lol! I didn't go out without him until he was 8 months old and then it was once I'd fed him and he was in bed for the night!
Flynn had bottles of EBM from 3 weeks and he took them fine, it didn't interfere with the breastfeeding at all and we fed until he was 23 months, it was easier knowing I could go out and leave him and he'd be ok but I only liked to give him 1 bottle a day maximum anyway so he was never left for long.
22/04/2013 at 08:04
I BF my first for 19 months and stopped a week before my daughter was born, who I then fed for 12 months. Neither really took a bottle and when I went back to work when each were 9 months they took the odd bit of expressed milk from a cup but mainly just waited until I got home.
I didn't really go anywhere without them at all in the early days but that didn't bother me. I could leave them for a few hours at a time if required once they were in a routine but that rarely happened. I think it all depends what you are happy with as I know others may feel they need to have a more of a break away from them now and again.
22/04/2013 at 08:18
My boy was 12 months and 1 week old when he dropped his last feed (his choice- he dropped each one by himself). How did I cope? Well, I am a SAHM so that helps. He could go 3 hours between a feed mostly, so I'd just plan to do stuff in that timeframe if possible (cinema, meal out etc). Obviously once he started to sleep through it was easier as I could do bedtime feed and then be out at night for longer.
I wont lie, it was tough at times, and I did long to have a day or weekend off, but I actually think it made me a better Mum to do it. Also because it made me not drink, eat well etc too. Not knocking anyone who bottles feeds, or does give ebm, but there are some I know of (friends) who left their babies for whole weekends when young, or had hubby take over all feeds at weekends or whatever so they got a good sleep. One has already booked festival tickets for this summer, which they booked when heavily pregnant!
For 12 months out of a lifetime, I am proud I put my child's needs above my own and as a result I have a very happy, healthy boy.
I hope #2 works out just as well, but you never know!
22/04/2013 at 08:47
I BF to 20 months with my first and still going at 14 months with my second.
My biggest bit of advice is that is gets easier! Yes it's tough not having any time off but if you look at it over your whole life it's such a short period of time (and they grow up so quickly!) Once you get past the weaning stage and drop to 2-3 feeds per day it's so much easier - hell, you can even wear underwired bras.
I personally like the fact that my babies have decided when they don't want my milk any more, and I know I'm giving them the best start in life that I can in terms of all the health benefits of BF. Also gives me an excuse to eat cake for longer...
22/04/2013 at 09:16
A is a similar age to H and also doesn't have a bottle at the moment as she won't take it! However, due to all her TT problems, I did have to give her one with EBM earlier on and I was also very cautious and didn't want her to reject me and have nipple confusion. I did a LOT of research and found that a lot of people recommend the Medela Calma teat and bottles. We had one that came with the breast pump so tried that and she didn't have any problems coming back to me after it. The teat has a valve in it so they have to suck in the same way they do on the breast. It's the only one I'd use with her. It's a possible option if you did want to go out. I'm happy for A to just have me for now but we have a wedding reception in September which she's not invited to so going to have to try her on a bottle again at some point.
22/04/2013 at 10:00
I leave A all the time, just not for longer than an hour and a half and I always feed him first. I'm lucky in that he's quite happy to 'top-up' in that way, and we don't stick to regular times but just let him lead. I have to say I don't feel 'tied', I feel it makes life easier as we can just pop him in the sling/pram, pick up my change bag and go if we want to go out, no faff with bottles, formula, sterilising. Okay, so I have to take him everywhere, but at this age he's quite portable.
I want to go back to work in November, he'll be about 9 months. Having done some research and asked on here I feel reasonably confident that we can continue breastfeeding longer than that, he might take a bottle or even a sippy cup by then.
22/04/2013 at 10:41
I Fed Disco exclusively until around 12 weeks he was having gaviscon in a bottle in evenings a bit before this but it was made with water so no confusion. We introduced a bottle of EBM partly so H could have time with him and partly so if I did need to be away from him for more than a few hours we knew he could be fed if needed. (This is due to me job hunting and planning in advance for potential interviews) we have never had any issue with confusion or prefering the bottle to me, that said I have never given him the bottle of EBM only H does I tried once out of interest but he wasn't having any of it.
I don't feel tied by feeding but I am happy to feed out and about (for the most part) so it hasn't been limiting. I hope to continue to feed him until he is fully weaned.
Also like Sofa leopard said I can keep eating cake I realised the other day that when I stopped BF I would have to seriously limit my cake consumption. I have been very luck and have eaten loads since disco arrived and have still returned to pre baby weight I think this id sue to the BF
22/04/2013 at 15:25
Thanks everyone, I'm finding it ok at the moment and haven't needed to leave H for long but I'm it's thinking going Forwards how I would manage if I needed or wanted to go out somewhere H can't go. It's good to know others have done the same as everyone I know has a bottle at some point so I was starting to think I'm mad! I may look at expressing into a cup later on when we start weening and he is likely to start dropping a feed anyway which will give me more time. I just have fears of leaving him for an hour and him deciding he's hungry and being upset the whole time.
Will work it out I'm sure!
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