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22/06/2013 at 21:47
Did you find babsitters (parents and parents-in-law) became less willing to babysit when you had another child? Or were they exactly the same?
Just a pondering as we have superb babysitters with one and bugger off here, there and everywhere with one, no questions asked.
22/06/2013 at 21:49
My MIL has the kids when we go out and is more than willing to have them. I think she loves spending the time with them.
22/06/2013 at 21:57
Two was fine, 4 is the challenge!
22/06/2013 at 21:58
Err...did I miss an announcement?
Same as heartnurse - 1 fine, 2 maybe, three is a push!!! We don't go out much since having the twins!
22/06/2013 at 22:03
We rarely had willing babysitters with 1 let alone 2, I have zero chance of ever getting out once number 3 is here!
22/06/2013 at 22:05
No, no announcement heartnurse! Just wondering.
22/06/2013 at 22:10
We didn't have babysitters with #1 and have zero chance now with #2 so nothing has changed for us really and there's no real issue having another because we still wouldn't have babysitters so we may as well just keep going
I'd think if they are happy to take one then another one wouldn't make much of a difference, ie maybe not as often but still help where possible
22/06/2013 at 22:13
My mum will if i ask, she has never volunteered. But that was the same with 1. Mil lives 200miles away so not much good but she is happy to have them whenever.
22/06/2013 at 22:17
So far mum has still offered. The only thing is she will have Sebastian and my niece one day a week together who's 9 months younger. I'm a bit concerned how well they'll cope as they looked exhausted after just having niece the other day!
22/06/2013 at 22:28
Obviously we're not quite at 2 yet, but I'd be amazed if my MIL or my mum offered to have 2 less than they do just A. My neice (2 months younger than A) is often at my mum's when she has A, and she used to be a childminder and has worked in childcare for forever so is more than capable. MIL will be more nervous, but A's a fiddle to look after and I think they'll be more confident with baby as it was only a couple of years since A was a baby so their experience is more recent than when A was little.
Where I may struggle is asking friends as they all have 1 or 2 of their own so that would be a big ask, but I rely on friends a lot less than I do our parents.
22/06/2013 at 22:41
We were ok with one, much less so with two. One was welcomed maybe once every two months. Two has been welcomed once. Having said that if I asked more it may be different and I am talking overnights.
My folks kept A overnight loads until L was born. I could count on my hands the number of times they have kept them both overnight (and L is 3)
22/06/2013 at 22:47
2 is fine, 3 is getting to be a big ask. It's harder I think as most of our friends stoped at two so have children the same ish ages as our eldest two (6 and 4). So can't really ask them to have the baby (15 months) as he is so much younger and not really able to play with their children. Our older generation i.e parents/aunts find the 3 hard work. I feel it's a very big ask, especially as my parents have to travel 500 miles to get to us aswell so that tends to be only for very very special occassions probably once every other year for a night.
Really we just don't go out much in the evening and if I go anywhere in the daytime, I always have at least 1 or two children with me. Just part of the deal of having children really.
22/06/2013 at 22:57
I'm sure my folks would and M's godmother. They'd be more likely to come here and have them though than have the kids at theirs.
22/06/2013 at 23:44
Hmmm well this is currently a good question for us. Mum currently haas p when I work as I don't think I'd be able to ask her to have two. Certainly not all day. But P will be starting peer school by the time I might go back to work after next one so it might not really be an issue. We don't really have Amy others who we would feel comfortable asking and as mum has p so much I don't like to ask at other tomes. So in short I don't know. Not very helpful am I?!
23/06/2013 at 08:22
So far this year we have had, without child.
A 3 night trip away
A 2 night trip away
A 3 night and 2 further x 2 night trips away booked.
In addition to this, we go on other nights out where Jemima always stays out overnight. Just wondering if our cushy number might come to an abrupt end if we have another really But my mum and mother in law are ace so I am hoping not.
23/06/2013 at 08:27
Wow, you actually go away WITH YOUR HUSBAND? We haven't even had a night out together in about 2 years! To be fair I was sick fir 5 months and massive for 4. Mum has S over night even if we're out for evening too
23/06/2013 at 08:29
Blimey HW!!! you have got it cushy!
Not that we could afford any of those trips but A (3.5) has only ever stayed at my mums for 1 night at a time, my mum works inc weekends sometimes depending on her patients so couldn't really do 2 nights and PIL's wouldn't (He has never stayed overnight with them). OBviously R is still quite small (6 months) so i won't be leaving him overnight for a long time (A was 2.5 before I did) but my mum would have both i think if we needed her too - she has had them both for a couple of hours when i've popped to sainsburys or something. PIL's will have A over at theirs for the day but i don't think they would have both until they are a fair bit older.
23/06/2013 at 08:43
Yes, I go away with my actual husband and friends We defo spend more money on trips away (camping at horse trials, Crufts, Royal Ascot, London) than we do on nights on the tiles. I just always think by the time you've spent £150 on taxis, meal out and drinks, I'd rather put that towards something more substantial. If we have another I'd be out the game for a year though with pregnancy and child birth so trying to cram as much as we can in this year!
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