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16/01/2014 at 19:48
I thought it might be good to have a post with some advice from those with small age gaps (under 2 years) and I reckon those who have had twins will have some relevant advice too! Things like was there any jealousy and how to cope with it, how to divide your time evenly (relevant for any age gap really), practical advice like how to plan bathtimes etc. TIA
16/01/2014 at 20:56
I wish I knew! I have a 4 month old and an 18 month old and i'm still finding my feet. Set yourself realistic goals - if all 3 of us are dressed by midday it's a great achievement! Also, it takes an hour to get out the door so always leave yourself plenty of time! Accept that you'll never be on time again! Don't sweat the small stuff - cbeebies helps me get through the day even though you're not meant to let them watch tv under 2. Sometimes bribing your toddler with chocolate is the only way to get her to do anything! We bought E her own baby doll and gave it to her when we brought A home from the hospital and made a point of changing the dolls nappy, bathing it etc so she had her own baby to look after. I'm also constantly telling E that A is looking at her and smiling at her and that she loves her to make her feel important. I feel guilty all the time that I don't give E enough attention as A is quite high needs but I can only do my best!
16/01/2014 at 21:49
I have 17.5 months between #2 and 3. I will have just over 2 years between number 3 and 4.
Setting realistic s goals is important. You can't climb mountains! I found sorting my toddler out first at mealtimes allowed me to then focus on the baby. I also found my newborn slept a lot which allowed me to spend time with my toddler.. I used to get my toddler involved in jobs for the baby and allowed him to have cuddle time.
I did find the 18 month- 2 year period much harder. I think a lot of that was to do with my toddler not being able to fully express himself. It mustn't have been that bad as I am going for #4
17/01/2014 at 06:28
Another couple of things I've thought of were if you need to be out early in the morning try and get things ready the night before - like get both sets of clothes out ready, pack the changing bag ready etc - this has helped me save time loads. Also, I found that as E was set in quite a good routine, A has had to fit in around that rather than try and rearrange the toddlers routine. I find it a bit easier now than when A was first born as the 4 months has made loads of difference to E's development. She can sort of tell me what she wants now and actually takes an interest in A. She is obsessed with inspecting A's nappy when I change it and starts saying poo poo as soon as I lie her on the changing mat. She also gets a wipe and tries to help - its so cute! I've also seen her a couple of times looking after her doll - she had it over her shoulder patting her back the other day! I read somewhere about making them your allie (sp?) So if the baby is crying you say oh dear your sisters crying again, such a lot of noise isn't it! I can't remember what the theory to this was tho!
17/01/2014 at 12:05
Some really good tips here, thanks ladies! A has very little understanding at the moment but I am going to get him his own doll later. Oh and a present from the new baby when she/he arrives!
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