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19/02/2014 at 10:20
....how the hell do you get anything done?! If I do the housework I feel guilty for not playing with the kids and if i sit and play nothing gets done A is 5 months do I should have figured this out by now!
Also what do you about nap times? A is currently rocked to sleep and then put down but she fights it so much and it's really hard work. Plus E keeps waking her any being a noisy toddler! when she goes into her own room I'd like to start settling her in her cot but don't see how I can without leaving E for any length of time.
And how do you do bedtimes? A needs rocking to sleep and i have to sit with E until she falls asleep. I can't take A into E's room with me because of her screaming and fighting going to sleep.
i feel like they're both needing my 100% attention all the time and I don't know which way to turn.
PS - it has taken me over 40 minutes just to write this as had to keep stopping!
19/02/2014 at 11:02
I share your pain. Thankfully S would nap quite easily in the day and still does, so i didn't have those issues. Housework. Forget it. As soon as i finish one room and start another they're back in the first pulling everything back out. It's easier to go out! Anything i get done is at night when they're in bed or weekends when H is around. C is nearly 4 so she will now occupy herself for a short period, so i try to get bits done during S's nap in the afternoon. It is much easier going to work! Bedtimes we divide and conquer. They go in the bath together and H sorts S and I sort C, we do the same in the morning, but the opposite child as on work days that's the most time we spend with them. It'll improve as they get older. X
19/02/2014 at 11:14
I don't do anything around the house during the day. Anything that needs doing, and I'm very luck as we have a cleaner so it is just things like washing / loading dishwasher, gets done after bedtime.
I am also lucky as Zoe is at school during the day, and she is that bit older that at weekends or school holidays she understands that Orla needs to nap and leaves her to it - well apart from the occasional poke to "check she is breathing mummy".
As for bedtimes, again it is probably easier with Zoe being 5. We do straight up to bed after dinner. If they are having a bath they both go in together, Zoe stays in for a bit of a play while i get Orla ready for bed, then Orla rolls around on the floor while I wash Zoe's hair and get her ready for bed. Story time for Zoe Orla just sits with us. Once Zoe is in bed then I give Orla a bottle and put her down for the night, if she is sleepy, or she comes in the sitting room with me.
19/02/2014 at 11:21
I do no housework at all on weekdays except washing up. My days are for the kids and we are out and about every day. The main housework gets done at weekends or before i cook tea. P usually naps in the buggy and if G is with me too (she is normally at school) i get to play with her while P sleeps. I find bathtime tricky as G still needs supervision. When G is in the bath i sit P on a fluffy towel in the bathroom to play. At bedtime G goes to bed first and if H isnt home I take P up with me and lay her on G's bed while i rwad her a story then once G is settled i take P back downstairs and give her milk and we haveca cuddle then i take her up about 45 mins later.
19/02/2014 at 12:16
MamaD I could write your post word for word. I feel exactly the same. I feel like a failure that I am not able to get everything done. It's so hard isn't it.
My two never ever nap at the same time so I don't get any time during the day to do housework.
I just do a little bit each day as and when I get chance, but most of the housework gets done at weekends when H is home to watch the girls.
I keep telling myself it's only a short term problem as in 12 months time they will be running around together playing and they will entertain each other so it should hopefully then be easier to get housework done.
For the next few months I have resigned myself to the fact that the housework will just be done to the minimum.
19/02/2014 at 13:59
A (2 3/4) has been going to nursery one day a week, although that chanes to two afternoons at preschool next week. I've booked M (5m) some swimming lessons starting from next week otherwise all I do on A's nursery/preschool time is tidy and clean. Bless her she's patiently sat in the corner for 5 months, it's about time she had a bit of attention!
I try to do a bit each day, I can easily do 3 loads of washing in one day which gets is through a week. A 10kg washing machine helps massively!
We moved a month ago into a house 3 times the size of out last house so I'm still getting to grips with the most efficient way to do it all. Things I do that help;
Cleaning materials in every bathroom. I can quickly do the main bathroom whilst the kids are in the bath. I do my bathroom on a morning when I get 5 mins, often a weekend. WC gets done once a week or so.
Large washing machine
Tidy as you go - I have a pile by the stairs and rarely go up or down without carrying something
Tidy the kitchen as you cook, things straight into dishwasher, bin or sink.
Have a place for everything.
Alex doesn't nap anymore but will often have a quiet hour watching toy story, I can pretty much to downstairs in that hour. If M isn't happy or sleeping she goes in the sling.
It's the extras like oven and window cleaning I struggle to get done.
19/02/2014 at 21:15
Thanks all! I guess I just need to not worry so much about the housework for now! I do attempt to do a quick tidy if I can put A down for a sleep but as soon as I out something away E is getting it back put again!
Jellytot, I'm kind of glad you're going through this too - it makes me feel less alone. In my mind everyone else has perfectly behaved children and beautifully tidy houses! It's a shame we don't live nearby otherwise you could come round for a cuppa and I know you wouldn't judge me for the pile of washing up by the sink!
19/02/2014 at 21:18
Ps - my mom has really helped my mood today by coming round and saying "shall I do the washing up for you" and "shall I have a bit of a tidy" in a voice that says "cause you obviously can't manage it!"
19/02/2014 at 21:50
Essential housework only - washing machine, dishwasher, picking up toys to clear space for different toys. I went out a lot, tried to do naps in pushchair/car. 2nd definitely has to fit in more - so bouncy chair in bathroom/doorway for example. Earlier bedtime story for older one before baby gets irritable. Its hard but it does get easier :) x
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