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22/07/2013 at 12:15
Looking for some opinions if you don’t mind!
So I had a scan 2 weeks ago (at 7 weeks) everything was good and we saw the heartbeat. Obviously at 7 weeks the risk of mc hasn’t dropped to it’s lowest rate but there was no cause for concern and I haven’t had any bleeding or anything.
For the last week or so I’ve been feeling really miserable to be honest. It’s a combination of how I feel physically, feeling bad for not enjoying this pregnancy when I should be, and also H is working every waking hour so I’m fed up and on my own all the time (giving me more time to panic and worry about this pregnancy).
I told H how I feel the other night, and he’s really worried. He asked me if I wanted to go for another scan (hopefully cheering me up and helping me bond with the baby and enjoy the pregnancy a bit more).
Of course I would love to go and have another scan, but I’m really worried that it’s over the top. Also, there’s lots of stuff on the internet about whether US is actually safe and I just don’t know what to think.
So, please be honest and tell me what you think. I can’t decide which is better for baby, having another scan and me cheering up and feeling better, or not having another scan and trying to just get on with it.
My 12 week scan is 3 weeks today.
22/07/2013 at 12:17
Personally in your shoes I'd get another scan booked if you can afford it. It'll put your mind at rest for now which is going to be much better for the baby in the long run.
22/07/2013 at 12:22
We get one at 7 weeks with the IVF clinic before being discharged to maternity care. We have already said we would book another at 9/10 weeks, then our 12 week NHS one, then a private gender scan at 16 weeks, then the 20 weeks NHS one, then a 3D one in the late 20-something weeks.
So if you're bad, so am I!
Some people have them fortnightly for all sort of pregnancy issues. I very much doubt they are harmful in any way, if not they wouldn't be offered.
i think if it would settle your mind then i would book another scan. you'll do your self more worry whittleing on if you dont.
22/07/2013 at 12:26
My friend who is having twins is having scans every 2 weeks! So definitely not too many. If you think it would settle you then go for it.
22/07/2013 at 12:27
It is only 3 weeks until your next scan, you won't see much more now than you did at 7 weeks and at 12 weeks, there is so much more for you to see and hear of your baby. But if it puts your mind at rest then perhaps you should book one. It is completely normal to have high and low points during pregnancy- and afterwards. I don't believe there is concrete evidence of too many scans causing problems for babies either.
22/07/2013 at 12:34
If you're worried I would book one x
22/07/2013 at 12:37
I think if it's going to settle you, I'd go for another scan. You have every reason to feel the way you do about your pregnancy, so don't feel bad that you're not enjoying it. I didn't enjoy being pregnant for the first 18 odd weeks of it. It's a tiring job so it's no wonder you feel the way you do. Best bit of advice I can give is always talk to someone about how your feeling. Don't keep it bottled up ever. Xx
22/07/2013 at 12:39
Id wait as scans are going to be few and far between after 12 weeks anyway x
22/07/2013 at 12:43
so many people have to have loads and loads of scans, with no problems. Go for the scan xx
22/07/2013 at 12:47
If you are feeling miserable and a scan would help i personally would do it. Happy mom means happy baby was always a mantra I've believed in. However for me personally it wouldn't help me, just made me feel guilty I had a beautiful baby growing inside me and I still felt miserable. (Had horrible MS).
22/07/2013 at 12:49
If you really want one and every day feels like an eternity right now, book one - but you need it to be within the next week really if you are only 3 weeks away from your 12-week one.
However, before you book, do seriously consider if it is actually going to change how you feel, and how you will manage after the 12-week one. Assuming that all is well at 12 weeks, you will be waiting for 2 months before your anomaly scan. Then after that it will be another 20 weeks before you meet baby. For your own sanity at some point you will have to take a leap of faith and trust that your body and baby's body are doing everything they should be and all is well - otherwise you will spend hundreds of pounds on scans every 3 weeks until baby arrives!
22/07/2013 at 12:54
Thanks everyone. I think things will definitely be different after the 12 week one, because my whole reason for panic and worry is to do with miscarriage, which after the 12 week one is highly unlikely. I wish I could just be happy that I'm further than before and we saw the hb, but I just keep thinking that because I was only 7 weeks anything could have happened by now. I know it's stupid, but I guess that's what miscarriage does to you.
Our local place has availability on Wednesday. I may book it. It helps that so many of you said you would.
I completely understand how you feel. Before P i had lost 2 pregnancies and the early weeks with her were awful to get through. I had a scan at 7 weeks and then 12. It was tough going, what really helped me was to stop looking at the big picture but focus on 1 day at a time. Try and organise nice things to do an look forward to which will help you focus on something else. I'd work on getting to wednesday, then friday, then sunday and another week was gone. Baby steps
There is all sorts of crap on the internet, there is no evidence scans are harmful and millions of babies are born with no problems after having lots of them. I ended up with 10 scans of P and she is perfect.
22/07/2013 at 12:56
OB I was exactly the same and I had 2 private scans before my 12 week scan. Just book it and look forward to seeing your baby.x
22/07/2013 at 13:05
I don't know if having another scan will help in the long run, maybe a dopler? But scans are safe. There's a lot of women having weekly/fortnightly scans if they have problems prior or in pregnancy
22/07/2013 at 13:35
i had something like 15 scans with isaac due to bleeding and due to previous abnormalities etc, in your shoes i wouldnt have a scan,
scans never cheered me up , i just worried more, all a scan does is show that the baby is fine at the time of scanning, it doesnt predict anything really and it doesnt give reassurance that all will be well. its just a quick glimpse iyswim
your next scan is in 3 weeks, if you can wait then i would.
having lost numerous times before nothing reassured me until i was actually holding isaac, scans basically meant nothing and offered no reassurance to me at all, i never ever thought of them as a way to cheer myself up as they really only gave you a glimpse of what was going on at the time, certainly the 20 week scan reassured me slightly as i knew that no biggies had been found but i didnt actually relax till i held him
22/07/2013 at 13:37
I had about 17 scans throughout pregnancy, two private as we had a gender scan and then a 4D, but most scans apart from the one at 5, 12 and 20 weeks were due to bleeding or growth scans. All I can say is that the scans can become very addictive in that you might think after 12 weeks you will be ok but it's not as easy as that especially if you are then used to reassurance every few weeks. X
22/07/2013 at 13:45
Ive had quite a few scans, due to baby not being in right position to get measurements and baby measuring on the small side. Just think of ladies that are having twins or triplets and get scanned every 1-2 weeks! I don't see any harm in it. I can completely understand why you would be concerned and i think having another scan might help to put your mind at rest, until the next scan. X
22/07/2013 at 14:27
Do you mean you think too many scans can be damaging to the baby?
I had them due to multiple losses then because I was carrying beans but I had scans every 2 weeks from 6 weeks until 28 weeks then weekly until 36 weeks then during my labour.
In terms of if it will relax you, then yes, I got through my early weeks clinging on to my scans so it can make you stress less
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