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01/04/2014 at 05:17
01/04/2014 at 06:11
Hello! Feel so bad about not making it back to the thread yesterday, very busy day.
Wispa - how is Wispa doing? I do worry about Lily (who sleeps in my legs and is super-affectionate towards me more than anyone). Hope he's okay.
Vix - sorry the physio didn't seem much help. Is there much info online?
Morning AR, here we are then. Still, lol. I hate the cankles. My knees have these new weird dimples too, due to water. disgusting! I officially gave up on shoes yesterday and wore flip flops to the office, which prompted one of my girls to ask how on earth I'd managed to paint my nails, I'm still not entirely sure except it was very much a swooping motion ha ha.
AR, when's your next sweep? Baby out vibes for you and for Flossy x
I had some bad news yesterday that my horrible ex (split up 5 yrs ago) has refused to sell the flat we co-own and isn't paying the mortgage so my evening was spent filling in court forms. We have a court order saying we each had to sell the property we were living in which I did a year ago. Thing is, he could abandon or damage the place (he is the type) and leave me with thousands of debt. So I got my fierce attitude on and it's nearly all prepped, and now I have the prospect of seeing him in court again which wrecked me last time, but it will be worth it to see him forced out, the nasty scumbag!
Baby-wise, Baxter is very LOW. Makes for rotten pains!
Hope everyone is doing well, have we seen LeeLee/Monnie lately?
01/04/2014 at 06:55
01/04/2014 at 06:56
01/04/2014 at 07:06
AR - could you call your MW to talk a about the fluid? Maybe she could call by? Worth checking. It's a fine line for us as we don't like to feel we're overreacting!
It's not Harry's dad, he's a bit stupid/thoughtless at times but pretty harmless overall - this guy is awful, he was violent etc so I get cross he's kept everything dragging out and I just want RID! But I've got fire in my belly about it now :)
My sweep - if it's possible - is Thurs. I thought my discharge couldn't possibly increase, but it has, baby being low and moving actually forces it out at times, I can almost predict when it's coming. Eurgh :)
Starting to contemplate being on mat leave and waiting for baby which was never something I wanted. Every day of leave before baby arrives is one day less with baby, so I really need to a) bring on labour, b) convince consultant I need earliest possible induction. Simple really, ha ha!!
01/04/2014 at 07:11
01/04/2014 at 07:16
Thanks AR, that's what I have tended to see. Not much in the way of hard data but it does seem like a fair proposition for me if I've done it all before without intervention. I've been reading about why some women gestate so much longer than others, I'd love to give it a go and see how far over and when spontaneous labour kicks in, and some of the assertive home birthers online are well up for 42 & 43 weeks, but I'm just not okay with that, happy it world for others though.
How do you feel about possible induction? Positive or feeling apprehensive?
01/04/2014 at 07:22
01/04/2014 at 07:29
I worry about trying to force myself and baby in to something early. But this is a second birth, I get LOADS of BHs and this baby is bigger than Harry. With my first induction once we got to the stage of labour symptoms it went like a total dream so, like you, I'd be seeing it as a nudge as opposed to something unnatural and therefore a strong intervention.
01/04/2014 at 08:05
Morning AR and Counter!
AR, hope you enjoy messy play with P today. Running out sounds like more than just discharge to me too, I think I probably would get it checked again. I had something similar, a massive gush of liquid that soaked my pants and trousers the day before I went into labor, and went in to np be checked and they told me I'd wet myself. I maintain it was a hind water leak though, I did not wet myself! Better to be checked lots than miss something though, I'm sure they wouldn't mind.
Counter, sorry the ex is being an ***, I hope you manage to get it sorted soon. Fingers crossed something happens before you use too much ML, I know you're on a tight schedule!
Anecdotally I think induction of second labours does happen much faster and with less intervention, my friend was induced a couple of weeks ago and needed one gel then everything happened naturally and quickly, she was done in 4-5 hours from the gel going in, with the pushy bit only lasting a few minutes. Fingers crossed for both of you that if you do go down the induction route it's as quick and easy for you too.
I'm home today with J, we're going to toddler group this morning, then hopefully seeing friends this afternoon, but we'll see how the day pans out. Pregnancy/Babywise I'm doing fine, feeling really quite pregnant now, and have an achy back/hips/pelvis much of the time, but it's not too bad, it could be much worse, and I'm still feeling grateful that generally I'm doing better than I was last pregnancy.
Baby out vibes to AR, counter, flossy and Bertie, and Trifle too if you're needing them! Hope to see lots of BAs soon!
01/04/2014 at 08:07
Hey SG, glad to hear things aren't so bad. If you've had a rough preg it makes the next much easier, I think, because your benchmark is so flipping low, lol. Hope you have a lovely day. Sounds like a good 'un!
01/04/2014 at 08:11
01/04/2014 at 08:18
This is true, if you expect pregnancy to be pretty crap it's less of a surprise when it is! And you definitely do just have to get on with it with a toddler- I got told off at work yesterday for carrying a box of paper as it was heavy: maybe, but it weighed less than the 2 stone of wriggling chunky toddler whom I cart round for more of the day than I'd like!
01/04/2014 at 08:31
SG - I've had a lot of gentle criticism for working through. But my first preg saw me drop out of life, No socialising, no working, constant appointments and worries, enormous weight gain and depression. So I'm going to live as much as I can through this, and if I had a few kids I'd be busier than I am now. I'm feeling empowered (and tired lol) instead of depressed and I much prefer it!! x
01/04/2014 at 08:40
AR - I was really hoping it wouldn't be you starting the thread today! This week has to be your week!! I would give the midwife a call about anything if you are worried - no question is a stupid question!
Counter - Sorry to hear about your horrible ex - hope you get things sorted! Good news about Baxter being low though, even if it is uncomfortable! I have had a look online but all the info I can find seems to be conflicting - lots say to keep as active as possible as it will help in later pregnancy and labour and others say to rest rest rest!
SG - Glad to hear you are having a good pregnancy so far, especially with a little one to look after!
AFM, touch wood this bug thing 'seems' to have gone! 40 working days left, though I am equally excited and dreading leaving work, currently trying to find a replacement for the portion of my job that I am not returning too and it is proving amusing but difficult! Had a nice moment last night with H, he had his hands on my belly and his face was a picture every time baby moved, I keep telling him that baby moves crazy amounts but these were the biggest movements he had felt!
01/04/2014 at 09:09
AR- how do you tell the difference between plug, discharge and waters?
Counter- sorry about the ex, men can be such pricks sometimes
SG- glad your having a better pregnancy, still take my hat off to you all who are doing this with little ones!
Vix- 40 days, I love a good countdown,
Afm- I haven't been on for a few days, it's been hectic with drama thrown in. We have redecorated, ordered new sofas, let the mothers compete on Mother's Day over who will be the best nan lol, and then yesterday I finally went for my whooping cough jab, whilst there h asked the nurse to check my bp as iv been rather swollen with headaches all weekend. So they took it and it was high, so they made me do a urine sample and there was protein in it. So they called the MAU who told me to go straight in.
My bp came down when I was there which was good, but they sent bloods and urine off to the lab. And I'm not allowed to work today I'm at home waiting for the midwife to pop over and recheck my Obs.
01/04/2014 at 09:20
AR, in a way I do hope your waters are going in dribs and drabs, because wouldn't they give baby a deadline then? And as you say even if they have to do an induction it could be very little intervention, just a 'nudge'..
Counter, thanks for asking about Wispa. She's fine. Her dog walker is a certified behaviourist as well, so I asked for her advice and she said we were just changing things too quickly for Wispa after all the disruption she has had with Paris and moving (and soon baby!). So we have a plan in place and will be working on it s-l-o-w-l-y until baby comes. Sorry to hear your ex is being such a douche. Hopefully your confident and empowered feeling will push through to dealing with that as well!
SG, I didn't realise you'd had a tough time last pregnancy, but I'm glad to hear this time round is better. My sisters second pregnancy they tried to tell her to rest as much as possible because she had a hematoma (not really sure what that is), but with a toddler to look after she basically had to just keep going.
Vix, only 40 days left, that seems so quick. I hope you're able to get the replacement sorted in good time to do handover. And super sweet about your H.
AFM, not much happening. Still worried about Wispa's anxiety, still don't have a car.. Oh, we start our NCT essentials course tomorrow evening. Luckily it's easy to get to by bus! I really really hope the other couples on it are good friend material...
01/04/2014 at 09:22
Missed you, Monnie! That sounds a bit frightening with the PE symptoms. I hope everything is fine and it was just a false alarm.
01/04/2014 at 10:08
Monnie - Hope everything is ok and that your OBs return to normal!
Wispa - Sorry to hear Wispa is struggling a bit. We are trying to put in changes now so when baby arrives our labrador isn't too put out. Have just started with simple things like getting her to ask before jumping up on the sofa/bed etc. Hopefully by the time baby comes she won't think anything of the changes!
01/04/2014 at 10:55
Vix - fingers crossed the bug stays away. 40 days, hey that's not too bad at all. I have 2 after today and feel very emotional about it lol.
Oh Monnie, sounds like you've had a worrying time. Hope you're alright lovely, when is MW due? let us know how it all goes.
Wispa - poor dog! Lily was only with us 2 months before we went on holiday and left her with family and we moved house the day we got back. It was about 5 months in that we noticed a different air about her, she'd seemed fine but there was a new confidence about her and she seemed settled in the new place. Hope Wispa is settled sooner than that. Enjoy the course, we couldn't find one that A's shifts fitted around but I thought they sounded great.
I wonder if a 50th person will ask me at work today how I am :)
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