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26/03/2013 at 14:46
We had our growth scan today (30+2). Baby B's growth is still small but is following the same lines as his previous two scans. He's at an estimated 2lb 9 which they have said is just below 20th centile, and his long bones are still smaller overall, while they can't rule out defects like dwarfism etc they said it is unlikely, it is more likely he is just a small, short baby.
However, they found an issue with my waters and placenta. Water level is low and there's an issue with the placental blood flow. They have said it is not IUGR that they can see very clearly right now but I'm now going to be seen twice weekly to check water levels and placental flow, and in two weeks 9th April I will see the FMU consultant where they will decide after doing a thorough scan if I need to be given steroids and it's time for him to come out, ie. if his placenta is failing he will do better outside.
They said if it was major they would have sent us straight up to delivery which made poor hubby nearly keel over! I've got to monitor his movements very closely they said as it could be a further sign he needs to come out.
I know hubby is panicking right now and I feel the same. I think for me it's the thought of him struggling in there, and not getting enough food etc because of my dodgy placenta. And silly things like my hospital bag isin't even packed, can I still breastfeed a premature baby, when will he even come home, we don't even have a car seat yet, and more major things like what if something goes wrong if he gets delivered early and he doesn't make it.
I feel like an absolute failure, even though I know it's not my fault, it's how i feel. I'm doing everything I can to protect him and I can't seem to get control of this constant things going wrong.
So talk to me about practicalities? Should I be packing my bags? Should I be getting his room and clothes completely sorted? Do I pack anything different for a premature delivery? I've got a lot of tiny baby sleepsuits but that's the smallest size I have, would I need smaller clothes than that?
And talk to me if you've been through something similar?
All in all, I'm determined to be positive and keep going me and him doing this as a team, and cook him in there as long as we can :)))
Me and hubby also decided that we will not telling our families until we know something more concrete, because we feel that we would still get no support.
26/03/2013 at 14:52
Oh gb hugs. What a worry. I can't speak from experience but I think it would be a good idea to pack your hospital bag and get the essentials in like a cot and car seat. I saw in mothercare a premature baby clothes range, the clothes open up so that you don't have to move a small baby about too much like you do with vests that go over the head for example. I'm sending lots of stay in there and grow vibes to baby GB.
26/03/2013 at 14:54
Huge hugs Gbutterfly. Please take it as a positive that they are going to keep a good close eye on you so they can make the best decisions as quickly as possible.
Don't worry yourself with the baby's room. He will be with you for the first 6 months in any case don't forget. A's room is still totally undecorated and not ready! But do pack your hospital bag so you know you are ready.
Have a read of this for breastfeeding a prem baby: kellymom.com/.../preemie-links
26/03/2013 at 15:10
Baby butterfly really has got the best mummy in the world, and you need to stay positive even though you have been thrown yet another curve ball. I can't offer any practical advice but I would think there'll be plenty of people along who can do. I am sure that the fact they are going to monitor you so closely means that they will pick up on soemthing pretty quickly if he's struggling in there.
As for your folks, I don;t blame you not telling them your H's parents particularly.
Lots of love to you both.xx
26/03/2013 at 15:14
Sorry it wasn't better news, if you want any information regarding a premature baby I'm on the Facebook group, I think I've messaged you x
26/03/2013 at 15:27
Hey lovely, I just seen your text and popped on here, I'll text you back soon too.
I'm so sorry that you are going through this, but it will be fine, I truly believe it will. Yes, baby is small, but he has the most loving parents and the best care possible. They will monitor you, and if it reaches the point where they feel that medication, or even intervention, is necessary then they will provide it.
You are so so close now, and it wont be long til you have your gorgeous little boy home with you.
If I were you I wouldn't worry about his roomm, he'll be with you for the first six months anyway. Read all you can about the practicalities of a prem baby, speak to ladies on here, such as Bailey. Great advice from Saisi about kellymom website, from what I've heard it's the Oracle of all things breastfeeding related.
You need to relax as best you can, and stop blaming yourself for something that is no fault of your own. Put your feet up, look after yourself, and text me whenever you need to.
Wish I was closer, or could do more
26/03/2013 at 15:38
I haveno advice but I am always thinking of you and just to reiterate what I have pm'd you - you have proved your strength and you can do it. X
26/03/2013 at 15:41
Big hugs, i've not got any experience in what you're going through but i know there are ladies on here that have. It sounds like you're getting the best of care at the moment, and if i were you i'd have hospital bags etc packed just in case.
Take care, and i hope your little one is ok xx
26/03/2013 at 15:48
This is just a quick reply, I will try and get on later. For different reasons I had my first at 31 weeks. She is now a healthy 5 year old. I will try and pm you later too. If I can help ask away x
26/03/2013 at 15:52
What a lot to process for you and your H. It sounds like the hospital are being very thorough which is great x
(sorry posted too soon). I'd get your hospital bags packed and do what you can do without stressing out ie I wouldn't worry about getting the room ready, you could pick up some smaller sleepsuits easily if needed, car seat you could get ordered so it's there in case.
26/03/2013 at 16:24
So so sorry that you have a new concern for baby butterfly. Please take comfort in the fact they are monitoring you very closely to keep the wee man safe.
I would look at hospital bag and perhaps get a few prem babygrows in just in case (can always return ifnot needed? Seen some in mothercare and boots if it helps). I'd sort a car seat (but remember if prem you'll likely have time to sort before he comes home) and room is not a priority just now as he'll be in your room to start so as long as you have something for him there then that's all you need.Do also talk with some of the MD prem mummies (Bailey, Mossy, Carole, Hollywood and Abnormal Kitty spring to mind but there are others) - they'll be able to advise on prem babies and scbu
Where abouts are you lovely? Just wondering if any.local hitchers can help with bits like this so you can rest up and focus on you and baby? Xx
26/03/2013 at 16:43
GButterfly I have no advice what so ever but just wanted to say I hope your ok and baby bfly stays put for a while. Good news the hospital is monitoring you and you have the medical help you need. Do you mean you won't get support from your families? I hope I've misread that. I'm glad you and Mr Gbutterfly have each other for support and as the others have said, make sure you get the rest you need and keep up those positive thoughts for your little boy x
26/03/2013 at 17:03
Thanks so much everyone :) your thoughts and support really helps a lot!!! Hubby will prob help me pack our bags over the next few days and will have a look for prem baby clothing :) it's such a lot to take in!!!
26/03/2013 at 17:16
That little boy of yours is a super star fighter, he's proved that so far! I reckon he'll cook enough, you see, 10 weeks times you'll be wishing him out! xx
26/03/2013 at 17:23
Oh GB how scary for you both. I have no advice but am sending loads of vibes that baby keeps growing and that you get some better news soon x
26/03/2013 at 17:42
I've nothing to add advice wise, but want to send you a big hug, it's worrying news to receive, but it seems like it could be a lot worse.
There are a few preemie mum's on here, please use them for advice, I'm sure they're only too happy to help you.
26/03/2013 at 17:43
Loads of keep growing lil 1 vibes and thinking of you and your hubby xxx
26/03/2013 at 17:49
Oh GB what a shock! I would have your bag ready and some tiny baby clothes- I would go for vests/long sleeve babygrows, hat, scratch mits (unless the babygrows have them), I wouldn't think you need anything else clothes wise, just some blankets maybe. Hope baby GB can stay put for a while longer!
26/03/2013 at 18:13
Sending lots of stay put and grow vibes to baby gb xxx
26/03/2013 at 18:38
Have replied on fb x
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