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07/09/2013 at 10:15
Watched Midwives last night, and turns out I'm quite/very queasy about the muck n' stuff associated with labour. My son was a normal birth but came out blue (pethadine late on) and needed oxygen so I didn't see/meet him until I was showered and changed.
I'm shooting for a home birth but probably no pool as I'm not a water person and think the additional faffing and paraphenalia will probably annoy me more than assist. So I'm considering whether I want baby delivered on to me or not.
If you had the choice was baby cleaned before you held him/her? Was that the right decision for you?
Thanks for any thoughts on this.
07/09/2013 at 10:23
J was delivered straight on to me, so was covered in gloop. Was my choice, and I loved it.
I chose this, as C was taken away to be worked on after he was born, so I was after the experience I didn't get first time round.
07/09/2013 at 10:26
I can't actually remember! Damn drugs. H def cut the cord but I gave birth on all fours I think they then took her and gave her a few rubs as she def didn't cry straight away. I got her wrapped in a towel with some of the yucky stuff wiped off but she wasn't "clean" if that makes sense? I am pretty sure that's what happened
07/09/2013 at 11:17
The phrase "delivered onto you" implies you will be on your back, legs akimbo.... At home, you will have the freedom to adopt more natural birth positions be it on all fours, squatting etc - let gravity help you! Last time I gave birth kneeling on the floor leaning foward into an armchair. Baby was then born 'behind' me iyswim. She was delivered onto floor, but then (in some probably less than elegant gymnastic style manoeuvre) passed back thru my legs as I turned around and sat in a heap on the floor. So not she wasn't at all clean. I also wanted delayed cord clamping so she was left attached to me for a while. In this time I realised I a) couldn't hold a newborn b) couldn't hold a slippery newborn!! Then she wee'd and poo'd all down my legs. Charming!!
07/09/2013 at 11:18
disco delivered stright to me goop and all (well I was on all fours so delivered to midwife hands and passed through legs to me while I turned round) which was what we wanted. I was keen to have skin to skin asap, also some research sugsests that the vernix etc is good for babys skin (moisturising and possibly anti bacterial) and best to leave without cleaning for a while post birth so I factored that into my decision as well (although how accurate that is I am not sure), we also delayed cord clamping and cutting until it had stopped pulsing
07/09/2013 at 11:36
A was born by emergency section so had to go be checked over and so when he came to me was wrapped in a towel, he then went off with H and I think was still in the towel when I got out of theatre, in fact he must have been as he didn't have a nappy on when I first fed him.
If I manage a vbac this time I think I'm happy for baby to come au natural.
07/09/2013 at 11:49
Ooh, I feel proper mean after reading these, lol. The funny thing is, I am actually not squeamish at all. I'll deal with poo, sick, blood etc, but there's something about the baby and how they look like that, I find it overwhelming and I think I'd rather (if relevant) accept that's the case early on and forget about it than try and do something that might serve to make me anxious or uncomfortable. Maybe daddy might like to hold baby first... :-)
07/09/2013 at 12:11
I'd said I wanted E delivered onto me but as it happened she was emcs. She was delivered into the mw and placed into a towel in Hs arms as I couldn't hold her in my position. Then she was rubbed down, not cleaned but the majority off iyswim when weighed and given back in another clean towel.
H didn't like seeing her like that so next time I'd ask for baby to have the quickest rub down on the way to my chest. Even now he gets the hebby-jeebies thinking of it. My initial reaction when I finally could hold her was to kiss her head and so I guess I'd be glad some of the goop had gone.
07/09/2013 at 12:13
Counter - whilst I'm quite happy to see/hold goopy baby, I'm umm&arrhhing about waterbirth at home because I'm worried about the water looking like "shark attack" and the idea of that - or me specifically me sitting in shark attack water, freaks me out!
07/09/2013 at 12:30
Straight onto me. Phoebe was born in waters so took a bit longer to be passed up as she needed them removed. She was very clean but had blood on (from me i assume)
07/09/2013 at 13:22
J was delivered straight onto me. Then he had a poo on me too. Then I had a retained placenta and had to go have it removed under spinal, then I vomited all down the side of my face from the spinal drugs, and cause I'd been catheterised I couldn't get a shower for 24 hours. I was minging, but I'd still rather have had immediate skin to skin than waited for him to be cleaned up.
07/09/2013 at 14:40
Straight on to me and it was amazing - I relive it quite a lot still actually! I think though whatever you choose - if you can choose, will be amazing for, definitely go for what feels right and there is nothing mean about asking for baby to be given a quick wipe down first.
07/09/2013 at 14:42
SG - Poor you! I was similar in needing a spinal after for 3rd degree tear so am really glad we got our immediate skin to skin before separated. I didn't have the vomit face to deal with for 24 hours as well though, bet that was a lovely first shower!
07/09/2013 at 15:02
Both were placed straight on me. For the first I was flat on my back so easy, number two I was on my knees so she was passed through. Both amazing and would choose to do that again even though number one shat all over me!
07/09/2013 at 16:06
I gave birth on my side and E was delivered onto my chest as I flipped myself over. She wasn't cleaned or rubbed down, but she was actually pretty clean, just a little bloody from me (her fingernails nicked a vein on descent!).
07/09/2013 at 17:07
Iris was born in the water and I caught her as I delivered her, she was clean as born in water.
Ned was forceps in theatre, born, wrapped in towel and passed straight to me. The temp in the room meant it was too cold for him to go straight skin on skin otherwise he would have been put straight onto my chest covered in everything!
07/09/2013 at 17:20
#1 was EMCS and he was in infected waters and mecunium, and even though he was cleaned off a bit when I had him on me, he still smelled a bit! Anyway, he then got taken off, bathed and down to NIcU and I didn't see him again for another 5 hours, when we had about 30smins skin to skin before he was taken away again.
#2 was ELCS and they put him in a towel on me (after he had been helped to breathe and wiped off) and then I had him for a bit before they took him to be weighed. Hubby took him to recovery just in a nappy and towel and when I was wheeled through I had skin to skin with him for ages, including during wheeling back up to the ward and a good hour or so afterward. It was lovely.
07/09/2013 at 17:31
Looks like I'm a bit weird then! I'm going to think hard about this. I guess if all is well and I have choice, I can change my mind, and if not there's not much I can do anyway :)
07/09/2013 at 17:59
I had a water birth and delivered him myself straight on to me. He was born in his sac but I couldn't have cared less and still had some vernix despite being in the water. Skin to skin was v important to me.
The pool was fine after, you wouldn't have known I'd given birth in it tbh.
07/09/2013 at 18:00
#1 was a water birth so clean as a result, delivered straight onto me.
#2 & #3 were held up briefly then rushed away as worried about heart rates/breathing (and other twin related paranoia!) so they came back wiped and wrapped in a towel but not washed.
part of the reason I liked the water birth idea was to naturally removed the gloop so you're not weird to think about it Counter. a lot of stuff you would normally be squeamish about gets forgotten in childbirth though - as a rule I would be highly embarrassed to have a man between my legs with a headtorch on but somehow wasn't bothered at the time!!
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