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26/03/2013 at 11:13
I have no fears about birth at all, what will be will and I'll get it out somehow is my attitude at the moment!
I am more scared about actually having a baby to look after, that I wont love it, that I wont know what to do with it, that it will cry all the time and I wont know what to do and that I'll get bored, amongst other irrational fears - anyone else more scared of life with a baby than getting it out??!!
26/03/2013 at 11:15
I was so scared of labour and delivery that I hardly gave a moments thought to how life would be with the baby! You've probably got it the right way round, that bit is fleeting, the baby is for life! xx
26/03/2013 at 11:22
Yes i felt like that with G but once you have that little bundle in your arms all that will go away. There will be hard days but you just get through it and the good stuuf outweighs the bad massively. You pick up what to do on the way and you will love him/her unconditionally. It will cry of course but you get to know why and what to do. You wont have time to get bored and every day brings something different xx
26/03/2013 at 11:39
I wasn't first time around, not that I was scared of labour as I wasn't, I just wasn't scared of any of it. This time around I am bloody terrified about how I will cope afterwards, mainly because H will be away Mon-Fri and I will also have Zoe to get to/from school and feed etc. I have no idea how I am going to cope. We are meant to be getting a nanny to help me but that whole prospect is so daunting that I am burying my head in the sand.
26/03/2013 at 12:02
With C, I wasn't. I'd barely had time to get used to being pg, before I had him, so I was thrown in to Motherhood. I didn't have time to worry about anything. (found out at 16 weeks, had him at 27 weeks) He was in hospital 12 weeks, so I had plenty of time to learn the ropes etc, before he came home.
With J, I had the "been there, done that, got the stretch marks" state of mind, so was looking forward to it.
26/03/2013 at 12:04
I got so worried about the scan that i stopped worrying about the birth, what will be will be. Plus with my heart issues now i'm not going to get the birth i want anyway.
I am very worried about after the baby arrives, i'm worried that i won't bond with it, or it won't come naturally to me. I worry that we can't really afford it. I worry that as it gets older i'm not going to have enough patience to deal with it.
26/03/2013 at 12:21
yep. i am terrified. am i ready? will i be able to cope? what abotu money? what about space? and washing? and will i be able to feed ok? will people think im a rubbish mum.
26/03/2013 at 12:22
I wasn't worried about the birth but I was very scared about looking after a baby. I only held one baby in my life before let alone change a nappy! I was desperate to BF and the more I read made me worried about difficult that would be. And yes was scared about not loving him/her, leaving her on a bus or something. I think being scared us okay - at least you are aware of everything rather than going in eyes closed :-)
26/03/2013 at 14:30
I was the same. I'm so uninterested in other people's kids or I was, that it worried me I'd get bored but literally everything ella does is like the most amazing thing ever. When she smiled I was over the moon.
I knew I'd love her because I already did when she was inside but I wasn't prepared for the protective instinct and love that comes after. I'm not sure if I had an overwhelming love at first. It actually felt normal like it was something I did everyday. The overwhelming love came after and took me a while to recognise.
I was scared of bf not working and it didn't but I survived. With lots of tears.
I am still a bit anxious when she is hysterical. The other day I just thought goodness I'm not sure whether I'm cut out for this. But it passes very quickly. And once you know your baby you know generally what they want. The cries differ and you just know. I'd never held a baby less than six weeks old. Only saw a woman bf once. Never bottle fed a baby. Bathed one nor got one to sleep. Never put up a pram ir fastened in a car seat or changed a nappy. By day 5 I'd had to learn all this and now it comes very naturally.
26/03/2013 at 14:42
I was more scared of the second than the first I think. The first it was the unknown, the second I knew damn well why hard work they can be! I still get a little fearful of the toddler stage! But the positives do outweigh the negatives, even when they drive you crazy you still love them and forgive them easily. You just learn as you go along and you'll make mistakes and learn from those too. Nobody is a perfect parent and that's fine, you just do what you think is best at the time. All children really need is love, attention and consistency.
26/03/2013 at 14:50
I thought the birth is only a day or two, after is forever, so I was more worried about the after. I shouldn't have been though, I loved the newborn days.
This time round though, I remember how long that day or two is, and look forward to the after.
26/03/2013 at 17:20
Thanks ladies. I've had quite a lot of involvement with my niece and nephew so I guess I'm more prepared than some, but it still scares the bejesus out of me!
26/03/2013 at 18:07
I was terrified- I remember being hysterical at about 22 weeks totally convinced that J would not make it a week with me as a mum as I didn't have a clue! I don't think I had the huge rush of instant love but as LM your mothering instinct does just kick in, the love and protectiveness I feel for J now is undescribable.
You will be totally fine once your baby is here x
26/03/2013 at 18:31
You won't have the time to be bored!
Totally normal feeling to have IMO. I was so happy not to have morning sickness anymore that having a newborn was a breeze. TBH, I'm quite excited about the challenge of having two.
26/03/2013 at 18:41
I was more worried about labour etc the 1st time but the second i was more worried about after birth as i my eldest was only 13 months when B was born.
I think its natural to worry, its a big change to your life, i just went with it and tryed to enjoy all the experience.
26/03/2013 at 18:43
Not bored as in nothing to do, but bored as in bored of mum stuff. Like I love my niece and nephew but after a couple of hours I'm done playing silly games and just want to had them back!
26/03/2013 at 18:47
It is so different when it's your own. Get out there and make mummy friends. Where are you? Any locals on here? My MD friends are those I'd consider my best mates now.
Get out doing things, walking with the pram in this glorious summer we are going to have
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