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14/05/2013 at 11:39
I felt pressured to start weaning with Isaac earlier as he was big and was feeding quite regularly, but as I want to do blw I stood my ground and waited until just short of 6m. My friend has 4month old twins who were 9weeks early and she's feeding them... I found it hard to bite my tongue but just asked why, and she said they were crying for milk every 3hrs... the same friend moved them into their own room at 8weeks as their grunting was keeping her awake! I've just been on fb and a friend with a 10week old has just said that the hv has told her she can start weaning him if she wants as he's 15lb. This sounds like madness to me. I totally understand that if there's a medical reason to start early, then you have to, but why does everyone want to rush? I'm finding it so hard not to question their reasoning, which makes me feel like a right cow as I'm a new mum myself!
14/05/2013 at 11:43
I don't get it. I hear about it a lot on here but my real life experience was that everyone waited until 6 mths and we nearly all did BLWing. There is no way I'd be introducing solids early, it's a right old faff. If it came up I would always make some comment about "oh I'm so lazy I can't face doing it early, I'm going to wait until the 6 mths guideline" so it is communicating about the guidelines but not in a derogatory way to them IYSWIM.
14/05/2013 at 11:49
a "friend" on facebook is forever posting pics and videos of her son with her shoving bits of food into his mouth. Including a bottle of tea! She started when he was about 4 months.
14/05/2013 at 11:51
I agree. Let them be babies - you never get that time back. G was 6 months when we weaned her and i intend to do the same with P.
14/05/2013 at 11:55
I dont get it either! I'm a lazy moo, surely milk is easier?? Why would you want to faff about with food until you have to? My friend started her's on baby rice at 4 months, recommended by the HV!!!
14/05/2013 at 12:01
My Mum told me the other day about a friend of hers who was bragging about giving her 2 week old chocolate.
Weaning was a royal PITA for us. M had zero interest and her allergies made it really hard work. I will be in no rush to do it before 6 months this time around!
14/05/2013 at 12:38
Some mums get excited about it I guess. We did BLW so didn't even consider weaning before 6 months- she had a carrot on Christmas day at 24 weeks but just held it then mushed it into her hair. She showed no interest at all. I plan to do the same with M and at 21 weeks, he is not showing any interest in food unless his sister is eating but I think he's watching her more than the food.
I have recently culled a couple of FB friends as I watched them shovelling baby rice into their under 3 month olds mouths. And today, one of the MD girls was told to give her 8 week old baby a bit of chocolate to help him forget his jabs... Sound advice
14/05/2013 at 13:27
I have friends who weaned early because its what they were told to do by their mums, so it could be other people pushing them to do it.
I was very lucky in that my mum had 4 children and did things different with each so she never offered me advice unless I asked for it as her view was that you should do what the baby wants, I did however get a bit of pressure off my dad once or twice, although eventually he did admit that both girls were not showing any signs of missing out because I wasn't giving themanything but milk until 6 months.
I was so determined to follow guidelines, that I was almost upset when C decided to take a bite out of a banana somebody was eating whilst holding her at 5 months .... She does love her food though, and I couldn't stop her eating after that.
14/05/2013 at 13:29
I've no idea, I found weaning a right faff. Much easier to give milk when they're hungry. I've no idea why people are in a rush for their babies to grow up.
14/05/2013 at 13:56
We did BLW so waiting until 6m (well, 2weeks shy of that as he grabbed cooked carrot!). TBH, if you wean early with purée etc then it's just extra months of clearing up mess, extra washing, faff of making stuff or expense of buying it. It was hard to wait when the others were feeding sooner, but as soon as our time came, my boy would eat anything when we went out. No fuss. No help from me. It meant I could eat my own food AND hold a conversation at the same time, rather than shovel food into a gaping mouth.
This one will be BLW too, at 6m, or a week of two early if they decide they want to.
14/05/2013 at 14:54
J started slightly early (just shy of 5.5 months) but he was ready- all the signs were there and he could sit, had hand to mouth coordination which were key for me- if he hadnt have shown these signs till 6.5 months then we would have waited until then.
I'm not one for sticking to guidelines religiously but at the same time there is no way a 3 month old baby would show any signs of wanting to wean so seems a bit bonkers to force them
14/05/2013 at 14:58
I HATED weaning, why anyone would voluntarily do it early is beyond me. I shall be waiting until 6 months!
14/05/2013 at 15:01
just interested, what are the 'rules' BTW? I read on food labels that some puree is suitable from 4 months, is that not the case? Well we started at 4 years old but I'd not recommend waiting that long!
PS I don't think prematurity can be a reason against delaying, as it is one of the developmental things that they suggest you wean based on their actual age, not corrected, so your friends twins being 9 weeks early wouldn't mean she was also weaning them even earlier.
14/05/2013 at 15:26
A BOTTLE OF TEA?!
So on that logic, Henry crying for food every two hours means I should be weaning.. Don't think so
14/05/2013 at 15:54
Carole, I think a lot of what the manufacturers say on their products with things like that should be taken with a pinch of salt. From what I've read weaning is recommended from 6 months (or later if they arent ready) as their stomachs arent ready until then. I've read that its a myth that 'hungry' babies should be weaned early, or it will help them sleep longer etc, just give them more milk!
14/05/2013 at 15:59
WE are planning to do BLW. I was at the clinic getting A weighed this morning and the HV (not mine!) was telling the girl next to me that she could start weaning her 17 week old as he was only BF for 10 minutes at a time.
Another girl from my antenatal class is going to start weaning in the next couple of weeks (her little boy is nearly 14 weeks), and move him into his own room as he grunts in his sleep.
14/05/2013 at 16:10
Actually from the perspective of someone who's not done it yet, I can understand the desire to wean. We gave A a few spoons of fennel tea once to help with his wind and he really loved it (strange child, I think it's rank!). It was fun spooning it into his mouth and watching him open wide for it, swallow it and then give huge grins. I am not going to give him food until he's ready for it but I can understand wanting to.
14/05/2013 at 16:29
Glad I'm not alone on this! I can understand the want, as its nice starting something new etc but these babies can barely hold their own heads up. I did tell my friend with the twins that we're blw and that he loves it, she asked what it was so I linked her to a website. Hopefully she'll read up a bit - not that I have anything against purée either. I just think the site explains the importance of waiting well. They're not sleeping at the moment (growth spurt I think) so she'll either think that they need more solids... Or realise that solids aren't filling then up. Isaac still has x4 bottles a day and I'm sick of people telling me he should be on 2!
15/05/2013 at 08:10
You know what is really annoying me atm, that HVs are advising that it is OK to wean early, 2 weeks ago, when E would have been 16 weeks, the HV suggested I'd been feeding her given her weight gain, I confirmed, three times, that I had not, and would not be anytime soon - she went on to suggest maybe I should?! I was astounded and told her we were doing BLW which again, she really wasn't keen on and told me that because it would mean E still having lots of milk she could "pile on the weight" - this weeks was much nicer and supportive of my decision, we plan to start offering E foods in the week she becomes 26weeks and asked I report back on how useful the NCT weaning course I've booked into, was. However while I was sat waiting, the HV asked how old she was 18w1d and commented she'd be on solids soon... Nope!? Then continued to tell me how she started very early with hers, so that they'd sleep... I told her e already sleeps too blooming much at times!
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