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26/05/2014 at 20:53
"SIDS sleeping advice and how to implement it in daily life"
Evenin' all - almost forgot it was Monday! This topic was put forward in the suggestions thread by Margot.
Please do chip in with any questions, or links/information, or any advice to new parents based on your own experiences.
27/05/2014 at 08:29
27/05/2014 at 08:30
27/05/2014 at 09:05
I only really knew about SIDS from here. It was mentioned a bit in antenatal classes, but I found that cosleeping and how you shouldn't do it were mentioned more, rather than why they should be in with you. The health visitor did mention it a little bit, but we were in a very different situation to most and as we had been told that k would probably pass away before bring a month old (saw her at home when she was 5 weeks) we were much more relaxed about rules as at the end of the day they wouldn't make our situation any different.
K went into the nursery next to our room when she was 4 months old. She was blind and deaf so whether we were in the room or not wouldn't make a difference to her sleep. We weighed up the pros and cons and had a video monitor. H was also sleeping on sofa bed in the spare room while k was in our room as she was a noisy breather, although that part didn't really come into my decision! We are hoping to keep baby into our room nearer the 6 months this time and I'm hoping to get a co sleeper crib.
27/05/2014 at 11:29
Personally I didn't see any reason not to follow the sids guidelines. Isobelle slept in her moses basket basket in the living room during the day (or on a blanket on the floor or in the sling if we were out & about!) & she slept in their in the evening until we transferred her to the crib in our room when we went to bed. Then she had daytime sleeps in the cot in her room from 6 months (with a sound monitor) then night sleeps a few weeks later. It's possibly easier as she still fit in her moses basket at 6 months but I'm hoping I can do the same with this 1 whatever his or her size
27/05/2014 at 11:38
I was lucky, both my girls slept quite well in the moses basket in our room until they were 6 months old, and downstairs in the pram until they were too big. I did have to put the moses basket in the travel cot towards the end with C as she was rocking the stand whilst sleeping, but luckily we had the space for this.
I don't think i could have slept at night for worrying if they ahd beenin a different room, but I understand its not that easy for everybody, I'm lucky in that I can sleep almost anywhere and anytime if I need to, so I was able to catch up when necessary and not be bothered by the noises they made.
I'd be interested to hear why people have felt it necessary to move the'r babies to another room?
27/05/2014 at 12:34
S is only 7 weeks so she's still in our room. I imagine she will be until she's six months (at least, that's our intention). At the moment we let her go down for the night when she wants as it works for us, but when you started implementing a routine how did you do it?
At the moment she falls asleep about 9 downstairs (in her bouncy chair, playmat or snuggled on the sofa with me and H) and we take her up to bed with us about 10.30/11, feed her and she sleeps through till 5.30/6. For those that did a proper bedtime routine (which we're hoping to start soon), where did you put them to bed? If you put them upstairs do you sit in the room with them? If we did that then I'd only see H for about 20 minutes a day, and if she moves her bedtime earlier I'd end up eating my dinner in bed!
Daytime is fine, maybe I'm missing something with the evenings, but I can't suss out the practicalities of bedtime.
27/05/2014 at 12:36
27/05/2014 at 13:06
Flossy, Z got into a routine of going to bed at about 7/8pm from about 10/11 weeks. We would do the routine (bath, bottle etc) then put her in the travel cot downstairs (was too long for moses after about 8 weeks). When we went up to bed I'd gently lift her out and carry her up to the cot in our room.
nftfi, we had intended to keep Z with us for all sleep until 6 months, but at about 5 months every time I lifted her from the travel cot downstairs to take her up when we went to bed she woke and it took me an hour to settle her. We decided to put her to bed in her own cot in our room at 7pm from then so that she wasnt disturbed, she still slept in our room overnight until 6 months. We had a video monitor and I turned it up loud so I could hear her breathing while downstairs!
27/05/2014 at 13:49
27/05/2014 at 14:05
porkchop - that seems reasonable, I seem to remember the same happening with E and I ended up sitting upstairs reading because I was too worried to leave her, it's a good job I love reading and early nights :)
27/05/2014 at 14:49
A was (is!) a very poor sleeper and would often just sleep on me. He still cosleeps with one of us, usually H nowadays, at 16 months. Having slept so close to him for so long I would not feel comfortable leaving him alone all night, we've tried it a few times... he usually wakes and cries, the one night he didn't I woke up in a blind panic as he wasn't near me (he was fine!!). I often wake at 4am still and go in and check on him and H sleeping.
I used to put him to bed around 7pm and stay there with him, after 6 months then I'd come downstairs once he was asleep (he usually slept well until around midnight and then would start getting unsettled). It's not very long in your child's life IMO and I was happier doing it than not.
Don't know what will happen with baby girl. I intend to keep her in with us for 6 months and then see. She may end up cosleeping with us/me until age 1 and then we might try to put her in with A if both seem happy with that. We have tried to arrange things around being in the same room as her for all naps, so we have a carrycot suitable for overnight sleeping which she can use for downstairs so I can carry her around if A moves rooms/goes upstairs (we let him be free-range) and can click her onto the double buggy if going out. She might spit in the face of all that and only sleep on me again!! We'll see.
27/05/2014 at 16:59
I'm another who only knew of the SIDS guidelines from here. When I had my son we were told tummy sleeping was a total no-no but that's all I recall. He went in to his own room around 6 weeks because he outgrew the crib we were lent and there was no possibility of putting anything else in our tiny bedroom. We had a monitor to listen out for him. Looking back there would have been a fair amount of background noise for him in his own room in that particular house (a 70's terraced) as you could hear the main TV in most rooms and the walls to next door were paper-thin.
Thinking ahead (a long way) how do people manage when they have two little ones? If you have, say, a 20 mth old who has a bath/bedtime routine, and a newborn, and you're home alone, what methods work to be able to manage both with least hassle and not leave the tiny one?
27/05/2014 at 17:42
You're question is exactly what I'm pondering for when this one arrives Counter, as my H works nights Mon-Thu, leaving home by 4.30ish...I'm thinking I'll bath them together and lay baby on change mat while I dry O.
I wasn't going to reply to this thread as they tend to make me feel like a shite parent, when it's far from the truth. Bed wise with O we didn't set of to move O before 6 months but he grew out of his moses basket by 8 weeks and when we moved house at 4 months we simply didn't have room for his cotbed in with us any more. He was literally just across the top of the stairs to us so we went with it. I was nervous but all was fine. Tbh even if he was still fitting in his basket we'd have had to move him still as by 16 weeks he was rolling both ways and 18 weeks sitting up. I'd have been too scared of him falling out. We'll aim for 6 months this time depending on whether they grow out of moses or the crib we've borrowed.
27/05/2014 at 19:36
27/05/2014 at 20:40
Mrs B, that sounds beautiful!! But I struggle with the cluster feeding some days when it's just baby and me, I can't imagine needing to bath/feed/bed a little one too! :)
27/05/2014 at 21:21
When S was born last year I had a 2 and 4 year old. He would sit in his bouncer while the other 2 were in the bath or if he needed fed id feed him in the bathroom while I watched the other 2. He would snuggle with us in bed while I read their story, feeding if need be, then he would come downstairs with me and sleep on me or in his bouncer til I went to bed. Day time sleeps would be in his bouncer or the travel cot we had in the living room for the first few months.
We've only just moved him in with his big brother at 10 months but it's not going well and he's currently sleeping on the couch beside us and we co sleep most of the time. We're going to attempt to solve the sleep problem when we're back from holiday next month
28/05/2014 at 10:06
JJ - I read that dummies don't help prevent SIDS per se, but that once you have given little one a dummy don't then withhold it until they are much older and deemed to be past the major threat of SIDS.
Nearly every parent I know IRL starts without a dummy, and most then use one because it helps to pacify.
28/05/2014 at 10:07
With the dummies I hadn't read the info that they may help with Sids. I'm not a fan personally but I'd heard people saying they were a god send so I got 1 pack but never needed to use them (never saw the point as breast feeding worked so well to calm her down, settle her to sleep...). It wouldn't convince me to use 1
29/05/2014 at 16:51
Just a little *bump* in the hopes others might contribute x
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