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14/01/2014 at 19:46
can I have a little advise and possibly tips please. A is 16 months and still in a cot we have had an established bedtime routine for a while now (normal, bath, story then into cot with milk). Now prior to Saturday he went down like a textbook baby but since Saturday he has been an absolute bugger. he goes in his cot at 7pm with his milk (he is def. tired as by then his rubbing his eyes and generally wingey) but we now have to endure a major tantrum every night and basically let him wear himself out in his cot before he falls off to sleep. I will add that when I put him up for his daytime nap he drinks his milk and will then settle himself with no issues. I have tried a nightlight which worked for a little bit and I now put his main light on but dimmed right down as I thought he might be scared of the dark. I feel absolutely awful as he is going to sleep each night in a strop and it breaks my heart. i have done all the obvious mental checks like full belly, thirsty, dirty nappy. The only thing I can think of is that he may have another tooth coming as he gets extra clingy with me when his feeling a bit sorry for himself (typical man!! lol). and I think he also struggles to get comfortable as he fidgets about an awful lot. On the odd occasion I have put him in bed with me and H he goes off no problem as he is lying on a pillow. I know I can't put a pillow in his cot so my main question is what age before I can put his cot down into a bed?
thanks in advance x
14/01/2014 at 20:06
No real advice as my 23 month old been like that for a while! He seems to have started with separation anxiety which I worked out was affecting his sleep time (with us -not at nursery!). Coincided with illness and teething so it's only last week we've tackled it - gradual retreat as controlled crying made him inconsolable. If we bring him into us he will fall STRAIGHT to sleep so knew he was ok! Me on the other hand...crippled with back ache and exhausted ! Took 2 hours last Thursday night (am off Fridays) and I ended up "sleeping" on his floor but touch wood it seems to have worked..for now!
He's had a pillow in his cot since 12 months. Am sure it's fine from 1.
14/01/2014 at 20:32
I really feel for you. I feel extra bad now because as bad as I feel I refuse to give in as he has such a strong temperament and if I start sleeping in his room he will expect that every night.. The separation anxiety does sound right as during the day if I go into the kitchen (we have a gate at the door) he crys until I come back into the living room. What pillow have you got in your little ones cot if you don't mind me asking as I may try this. Thank you for your reply too always good to hear from other mums and what they do x
14/01/2014 at 20:51
Can't you use a pillow? We have a cot pillow for N from Ikea, it's very small and flat. We bought it to try and get him to sleep at one end rather than in a circle, it doesn't work but he likes his pillow!
14/01/2014 at 21:00
My O has a pillow and has from 12 months....it's a special corned one so not as high as an adult one...think we picked ours up in our nearest big Tesco for about £5, but you can pick them up in Argos, toys r us etc. I can't offer advice as we've not made the transition to bed as yet, but O has always slept v well so I'm not I'm a rush.
Could it be he's over tired and perhaps by putting him down slightly earlier he may go off with less of a battle?
15/01/2014 at 00:25
Pillow in the cot will be fine.
J had a pillow and duvet from 12 months, a "toddler bed" set.
15/01/2014 at 09:00
We've just bought a duvet and pillow set for Ws cot bed. It was from mothercare and said suitable for over 12 months. It's just a little one for her cot bed and quite thin.
15/01/2014 at 13:54
Thanks ladies. I'm going to pop to Kiddiecare on Friday as I'm off and pick a pillow up and give it a try. I just thought best to double check 1st as I was not sure what the situation was with putting a pillow in a cot and the dangers.
Coco - I thought overtired too but I put him down half an hour earlier last night and I had the same response as the previous few nights. The moment we got into his bedroom he started to cry then when I put him into his cot he clutched at me and then spent an hour throwing a major tantrum.. I though motherhood was meant to get easier not harder!!!! I know I shouldnt wish his childhood away but I can't wait until he had talk properly because at least then he can tell me whats wrong with him :-(
Thanks again everyone for your replys x
18/01/2014 at 14:30
did last night with the pillow help at all? My little girl has just started this and is also 16 months, she's also waking up incredibly early! We were thinking about changing the cot into the toddler bed and see if this helps as well actually. If it helped your LO i may get her a pillow as well. x
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