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02/01/2014 at 22:17
I love my son to bits but he is so hard work. He hardly naps in the day, is up most of the night and is q often just naughty. He's into everything, always wants things he shouldn't, breaks things, pulls things over etc. he's also really clingy and wants my attention all the time and will create if I do something else or leave the room. He settles as soon as I'm back. He won't sleep in a cot and won't go to bed in an evening - he just screams. It's so hard but I don't know if this is normal child behaviour as we don't know many young children. He's still bf, doesn't have A bottle and cosleeps from 5 months.
im wondering what I can do to break these habits or if we just have to suck it up!
tell me what your little ones are like!
02/01/2014 at 22:39
Mine is the same LM but I don't know if it's normal. From talking to other mums I'm not sure it is, well I don't think he's "abnormal" exactly but he is bloody hard work and to be honest with you I'm kind of relieved to see a post listing what my son is like too!
He won't even let me sit on a sofa for more than five minutes, he comes over and starts whining then crying because he wants my full attention. Often he just wants me to carry him around and if I refuse (he is almost 1, heavy, and I'm pregnant and knackered!) he has a tantrum.
He is having better days recently especially since he's really cracked eating now, so I can take him shopping and avert a meltdown by giving him a breadstick (sometimes he will still create) and he's generally happy at mealtimes but won't eat for longer than 15 mins MAX (usually between 10-15 mins) before losing interest.
He also won't sleep in a cot, but thankfully he will go to sleep if I either feed him to sleep or lie with him. He wakes several times in the night though and I'm trying to break that habit by not giving in and feeding him (he has a few sucks then falls asleep but won't let me take my nipple away).
Other ladies with babies of a similar age say their LOs understand the word "no", mine certainly doesn't. I can tell him firmly not to do something and he will look me in the eye and keep doing it.
If I try to cook he has a tantrum, if I put him in a sling he arches his back and screams whenever I stand still (kind of essential in cooking!) and he won't stay in his highchair while I cook either. People say "oh do this or that so he can still see you" nope makes no difference if he is in a mood, he doesn't care about seeing/hearing me he just wants to be held and constantly rocked.
I am wondering (hoping) if he will get better when he goes to nursery. Certainly when I take him to playgroups he does like to interact with the other babies although he does seem more clingy than they do.
So that's what's normal for us anyway!
02/01/2014 at 23:09
Sorry wrote that in a bit of a rush then guess what he woke up and started crying so I posted without re reading. Essentially I think that it is within the normal range of baby behaviour even if I sometimes wish he was a bit more chilled and slept better!
02/01/2014 at 23:12
Oh and I'm wondering what your boy is like in a car? Mine used to scream constantly, it's a bit better now he's forward facing but he still starts up after about fifteen minutes and works up to full on screaming, sobbing, choking on own saliva. I just don't do long journeys with him any more.
02/01/2014 at 23:34
Thanks for the reply saisi it's such a relief to find its not just H (although only mild relief as I wish it wasn't like this for either of us!). H sounds just like A he won't let me sit, arches in the sling, he won't eat though although sometimes will sit in his highchair but generally not if he sees me doing something else. It just makes life so hard. He won't settle with his dad or my mum if I'm there either.
He also just likes the comfort if a feed I think as much as the food and I'm sure he relies on it too much. I wonder if im giving up bf is the only answer?
He just ignores the word no. I know hr knows what I mean he just actively ignores it!
He is 75% of the time good in the car but when he wants to he just screams inconsolably which is awful when you know nothing is actually wrong. I just wonder what makes him behave as he does? Is he really just unhappy, does he have some kind of behavioural issue? Or is it just a phase? He used to be such a nice baby but now he's just pushing it all the time.
I don't know how yiu manage being pregnant as well that must be really hard.
03/01/2014 at 12:20
E is 1 on Monday. She's absolutely wonderful and I love Her to bits but yes at times extremely hard work.
She isn't still for a second. I know everyone says that about babies (She's walkin) but then people have a day with her and realise that I mean it very literally. Other than sleeping she is never still. She entertains herself well most of the time tbh but with E I find it very all or nothing. She's either an angel who doesn't misbehave at all and sleeps 12 hours self settling etc or is the complete opposite, screaming most of the night up pre 5am, wanting everything she shouldn't, refusing to eat, screamin as she doesn't want to do as I say or accept no. Travel in the car is hugely stressful, she won't sit still! She also isn't one of these babies who'll sit in a pram while I shop the day away. She's very hugely independent and if there is trouble she'll find it.. yesterday she grabbed the boot polish from the tesco delivery and it's smeared over my floor, leave a stair gate open and she's up it.
I hope everyday that her behaviour is normal having her dad and cousin with adhd but when I compare it seems E has more "arrrrrgh" moments than most..
04/01/2014 at 08:56
E is almost 17 months and bright as a button but rather high maintenance! Have to watch him constantly or he's into everything and I feel like he's always three steps ahead of me. Our xmas tree was up 36 seconds and he had climbed up and stripped it, after a week it looked like it'd been chewed it had been messed about with so much Over the festive period two sets of friends spending time with us asked "how are you not just exhausted?" Our reply, in unison and rather forcefully was "we are!!"
He will nap in the day but thursday was the first time ever he'd slept without help, literally crawled into the ball pool whilst friends were here and just went to sleep. I was like this as he has always needed a walk or rocking in the pram or feeding to sleep. At night we have fab periods where he will sleep 9 or 10 hours but its broken up by 'waking weeks' when he's having a developmental leap and we're in one at the minute. The plus side is he soaks things up like a sponge and copies everything, so I hope my Mum is right when she says it's all a sign of intelligence! His speech is improving daily with new words all the time and he can do all the jungle animal noises and point out all his body parts and play 'heads and shoulders'. There are moments I want to put him out with the recycling, but he's so darn cute! It's the only thing that keeps them alive i think
I don't think any ofd the things mentioned are abnormal though, having canvassed many opinions all kids are different but the toddler years can be difficult and when i've told stories people have nodded along in sympathy and shared their own nightmare baby/toddler times so I think those that get through unscathed are few and far between!
09/01/2014 at 16:58
Thanks everyone, it's reassuring to know everyone has some bad days and I am also hoping his behaviour is a sign of intelligence! It's just so different being a parent to a high maintenance child than I imagined, it's exhausting! Rewarding but so much constant hard work! I look at friends with children who sit still or sleep a lot and just think you have no idea really!
10/01/2014 at 20:30
O is a good baby (well, not really a baby anymore!) and always has been. No idea where he gets it from, certainly doesn't get his chilled out personality from me. However, when he does have a tantrum etc I struggle with it as I'm so used to him being so laid back. I've noticed the tantrums are becoming more and more frequent now that he's 1...
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