26/02/2014 at 13:02
Sorry for the briefness, E is currently in her cot screaming and refusing to nap, I've had to come downstairs do change A as she'd pooed but I now need to feed her. But E needs to nap and won't unless I sit and rub her back and even then its a fight. Any ideas other than cloning myself?
26/02/2014 at 13:04
They're both crying, so am i
26/02/2014 at 13:10
can you feed A in the bedroom and rub E to sleep at the same time ?
26/02/2014 at 13:25
Thanks Monnie but I've started weaning so its food she's due.
I ended up running up and down stairs between the two to try and pacify them both. E fell asleep after a bit of a cry on one of my runs downstairs. Feel like crap now, I would never do cry it out - its just not for me - but I feel like that's what I've had to do. I feel like the last thing E was feeling before she went to sleep was abandoned :-(
26/02/2014 at 14:16
aww hun please dont think that, your doing a fabulous job :-) xxx
26/02/2014 at 14:21
and when she wakes up, the first thing she will remember is mummy cuddles :) ytou did what you had to do :) x
26/02/2014 at 14:32
MamaD, you know you are doing the best you can. You can't split yourself in two, please don't be so hard on yourself. E will have forgotten by the time she wakes.
Do you think it's worth having a chat with your HV about how you have been feeling recently? I hope you don't think I'm speaking out of turn x
26/02/2014 at 14:44
Mama D you have just done what you needed to, please do not be so hard on yourself. I am not a stickler for routine so I think I would have fed the baby milk in the bedroom if I was you, you cannot split yourself in two!! either that or would you let E nap outside of her bed?
26/02/2014 at 18:31
Thanks all for replies. NinaBeanie, she was already about an hour late for her nap as we'd had friends round so I thought she'd be tired. I would have let her sleep on the sofa but she wouldn't have gone to sleep as too many distractions. I couldn't take A in with me either as I was feeding purée and didn't fancy my chances In the dark on carpet!
When she woke up she was so cuddly and wouldn't be put down for about an hour - I felt even more guilty!
Weekender, no you're not out of turn. My HV's are pretty useless - I had quite bad PND with E for which they referred me for counceling - I'm still waiting for it now! Every clinic they'd ask "have you heard anything yet" I'd say no and they'd say they'd chase it up but it never came to anything.
26/02/2014 at 19:16
Do you feel similar this time? Do you think it would be worth a chat with your GP if your HV isn't any use?
27/02/2014 at 01:44
No, I feel more stressed and anxious whereas before I literally hate myself and wanted to curl up and die. A was my lifesaver - being pregnant with her was got me through it. But no way am I getting pregnant again! No more, I'm done!!!
27/02/2014 at 09:09
I think anxiety is something you could chat to them about too, especially if the pnd wasn't properly dealt with last time.
Hugs, and keep posting on here x
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