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23/04/2012 at 13:17
Just had a bit of an uncomfortable discussion with my boss about maternity pay which has left me in tears am curious to find out what you have been offered and what type of job you have. With my first baby (different company) i got 5 months full pay then SMP, with this one i am fighting just to get statutory and being pressurised about when i am coming back, been here 2 &1/2 years and work in the City in insurance (long story). Just wondering if your company's have been good to you or whether you are having to fight for your rights....?
Thanks for sharing! x
23/04/2012 at 13:20
23/04/2012 at 13:27
Only statutory for me. Whilst I won't have to fight for it (law firm), they will not give a penny more than they 'have' to and will be asking from about a week after baby is born, when I intend to come back
23/04/2012 at 16:24
Dottysbird, that's not too bad, sound pretty fair, do you think you will take the full nine months? Undecided, sounds pretty much like mine, very disappointed that's all that they can come up with, really doesn't leave you feeling very positive about retunring and doing a good job. Sometimes still feels like very much a man's world in some industries. I was trying to reach a compromise whereby I did some extra work and come back early but now kind of thinking i'll adjust to SMP, send hubby out to get a second job and take the full 9 months in spite! Thanks for replying girls x
23/04/2012 at 16:50
I will only get SMP and I know I will have to fight for even that - I haven't yet had the chat but one of the guys here has already been stiffed over his paternity leave!
That's if they don't find a way to sack/redundify (is that a word?!) me first. I work for a really horrible owner-managed company..... Dreading the conversation as I know they will be complete a-holes and the rest of my working time until I leave will end up being more hellish than it is now.
Sorry for going off on a tangent!!!
23/04/2012 at 23:12
24/04/2012 at 08:09
24/04/2012 at 12:09
essexmummy I know it's horrible isn't it. I am same as you, I am the first woman in the company to have a baby - it's such a man's company, I am one of only 2 women anyway! It makes me feel really resentful as I have worked so hard for this company, to the dentriment of my health at some points. The thing is, they'll be able to claim back the SMP plus a percentage of the NI so me being on maternity leave won't cost them anything. It would be nice to feel supported and valued but unfortnately this place is just about the profit. I hope you are feeling better today after your conversation with your boss yesterday hun xx
24/04/2012 at 19:14
27/04/2012 at 22:27
I work for a really big publishing company, which is predominantly women, so i'm really lucky with what I get. I'm entitled to 5 months full pay, two months at 90%, and then ten weeks statutory. I am also allowed to add my 5 weeks holiday to the end of that (which will be fully paid) then the rest of the year I can take unpaid. Unfortunately though, if I am off for longer than 26 weeks (which I DEFINITELY will be!) then they don't have to offer me my job back, but are obliged to offer me a job which pays the same/has exactly the same benefits as my current job, so if this has to happen then I guess it won't be too awful. I really hope that they do give me my job back though, as I work with beautiful children's books, which I LOVE, and I get loads for free, which will be very handy when LO arrives! I guess i'll just have to stock up before I go, just in case! x
27/04/2012 at 23:26
29/04/2012 at 21:13
CM87, your job sounds great!!! I bought loads of children's books when I was at uni as I trained as a primary school teacher before teaching in a prison! My favourite books (Shirley Hughes, Julia Donaldson etc) are in a box at my parents house so am really looking forward to digging them out! xx
30/04/2012 at 14:25
30/04/2012 at 14:26
30/04/2012 at 20:17
im really shocked to hear how awful some of you have it - i honestly didnt know managers still behaved this way, and they have a lot to loose by doing it.
Lets face it, it must be totally crap for your manager to hear you're pregnant but mine was very respectful - i went in to work a few times with baby on social visits and i could tell she was dying to ask me whether i was having 9 months or the year but she didnt. In the end, when he was 5 months i went in and discussed it as i knew she was interviewing and i knew i wanted to drop my hours and she did thank me for giving her the opportunity to count the hours when taking on new staff, she knew i didnt have to. Just wanted to help out where i could and i knew my plans, and lets face it i probably will be having another spell of mat leave so i do feel a bit guilty, although i know i shouldnt have to, as her and everyone of my colleagues have had their own babies.
Feel so sorry for some of you, i understand its hard for companies but its a human right to be a mummy, not many people never have children so they should be understanding, even men! and if they dont feel it they should at least be civil and above board and follow the law - its disgraceful to ask anyone when they;re coming back when their baby is a week old. x
30/04/2012 at 20:29
Oooh Dotty, I just realised that your bump is about 1 day younger than mine! How exciting! How have you been feeling?
Children's books are so lovely, great that you've already got a collection! Julia Donaldson is very popular at the moment, so you're very on trend! Annoyingly, my work friend (from another department) is about to become an auntie, and another friend of mine is pregnant, and both have asked me to save some books for them, and as my pregnancy is as yet unannounced, I can't really explain why I want them all for myself!
01/05/2012 at 23:08
Alfie222 your manager sounds fab, like a proper manager! I have already been asked when I'll be coming back - I am only just into the 2nd trimester I havent even had the baby yet! xx
02/05/2012 at 08:17
02/05/2012 at 08:23
02/05/2012 at 23:24
sian that is terrible - how on earth can you have the slightest clue when you're coming back before your baby is even born, or even after your baby's born come to think of it! really you dont know the road that lies ahead at all.
For instance, i breast fed my baby and he refused all bottles till he was 5 months. Im going back next week, LO is 8.5 months and taking expressed milk fine from a bottle and eating well so is more independent of me. But at the 5 month mark, after 2 months of trying to get him to take something other than me, and being the only one who could get him to sleep, i was wondering if id ever work again! it was too distressing for me to think of my little man unable to eat or sleep without me and feeling abandoned - would rather be poor! we might have been able to stretch things a bit longer but the reality would be we wouldnt be able to afford the mortgage, but once your baby is here them and their needs dictate everything - so how could you possibly know in the 2nd trimester what's in store and how you're going to plan work around things!!
its not so much my manager thats great as the organisation - clear HR policies, a majority female workforce - they are very used to the issue of maternity leave and they know the trouble they'd be in if they weren't respectful. It has been great having no hassle during this time with my baby. Manager not so good in other ways - rubbish at managing for a start (lol) but i know ive been lucky.
incidently i got 3 months full pay, three months half, 3 months smp and 3 months unpaid with job held open. I thought we'd notice the lesser wage after the full pay ran out but in all honesty as i was bf 1-2 hourly all day i couldnt go anywhere much and sat cuddleing my baby watching daytime tv for months not spending anywhere near as much money as i used to. Trips out were to mums/friends houses/walk in the park (all free) and social life at a minimum! so as long as i covered my direct debits i didnt need a lot else and we havent really noticed too much. I think if id taken the unpaid time we would have had to pull our belts in but otherwise we've been ok. x
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