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23/11/2013 at 10:18
I've booked a private scan for when I'm 8 / 8+1 (2 weeks away). I've been having some severe cramping the last few nights and because I don't really seem to have many other symptoms (or I'm just use to them now) I'm starting to worry even more than I was. There is an opportunity to move our scan forward to 7 / 7+1. I had booked the 8 week option so that I didn't have any uncertainty - i.e. there is either a heartbeat or there isn't, and it probably wouldn't be down to being scanned too early. I don't know what to do now :( Honestly, what would you do? I feel like I'm incapable of making a rational decision because I'm feeling nervous etc. I've read that you can 'hear' a heartbeat from 6 weeks, but can 'see' it (or health professional can) earlier than that? Any thoughts welcome, sorry for the brain dump :( x
23/11/2013 at 10:24
Those early weeks are so stressful. Its easy for me to sit here and say but i would try and wait till 8 weeks. As you say you dont want any uncertainty but equally i know how hard waiting is. If its any consolation i had bad period type cramps right up till about 8 weeks and then some bleeding but all was fine xxx
23/11/2013 at 10:28
I would stick to 8 weeks if you can I still get cramps now in most cases it's your body stretching... I had a scan at 7+1 and we saw the heartbeat etc but a few days later I was still worrying scans only take your mind off it for a day or 2.. Your go back to worrying again.. I know it's not easy but cramps and no fresh red blood are a good thing :) hugs
23/11/2013 at 10:30
hi pep, completely understand how you're feeling, my doctor has booked me for an early reassurance scan and its going to be around 7 weeks. You should be able to see a heartbeat then and at least know baby is in the right place and measures roughly right, If you feel you could wait till 8 weeks then do so as you should definitely be able to see a heartbeat then, if you think you'll be worrying too much then go for the early one. For what it's worth cramping is completely normal at this stage, I remember it from last time - being woken each night with really sharp cramps, it's everything stretching and baby getting comfy in there! As for the symptoms, I'm pretty sure they don't normally kick in properly till at least 6 weeks, and even then somepeople don't have any! Hope that helps, i'd say try not to worry but thats easier said than done!x
23/11/2013 at 10:37
Thanks everyone. I guess the cramps have just scared me as they have intensified in the last few days and have been so much more painful. This morning I honestly thought mu god if these don't go away then I'm going to cry and scream with distress! They did go away after a bath. I dont know if I do have a low pain threshold or if they are actually really severe cramps. Ended up telling H why I'm worried, hope I don't start him off with worrying too :-( I think I'm going to try and hold out until the 8 weeks. Will keep reading your replies whenever I change my mind again!
23/11/2013 at 10:39
Big hug it's so scary in the first few weeks pep we are always here when you need us :)
23/11/2013 at 10:40
Thankyou xx That's nearly made me cry so I must still be having the emotional symptom of pregnancy! Ha! X
23/11/2013 at 10:42
Aw bless you!
23/11/2013 at 10:45
Pepperoni, I'm sorry to be different, in your shoes I would (and did) go for 7 weeks. Could see plenty and get measurements and I was almost hysterical with worry prior to that. I know it's silly but one night my husband called in sick because I went to bed and sobbed because I had blood and pain and was 'sure' it was the end. I couldn't have gone an extra week.
I was that daft I paid for a private scan 6 days before my NHS 12 weeker because of bleeding and a little pain and I HAD TO KNOW. Whether it was good or bad I had to know what the situation was. I couldn't see how I could keep going day to day, to work and things, the way I felt. I'm a little embarrassed to be honest but getting the 2 scans I did get meant the absolute world to me.
23/11/2013 at 11:09
Pep not sure if you seen my post the other day in the tri read about the cramps I had? I had really severe ones. Only once but they were so worrying. I've also had strong ones that have got me worried too. There is a lot of growing and stretching going on so as long as there is no blood with your cramps I think it's fairly normal and a good sign.
As for the scan, I'm in exactly the same position as you. I'm not going to tell you what to do, it's really your decision but here's my take on it.
I was offered an early scan at 7 weeks and although I'm desparate to know what is or isn't going on in there I declined as I want to wait until 8 weeks. My scan will be at 8+1. It's torture waiting but i just could not put myself in the position again of them being uncertain and having to wait a week to go back for another scan. I had all of that the last time for a whole month and I do not recommend it. On the flip side, you could go at 7 weeks and everything be absolutely fine and you could relax for a bit. It's a tough call but at the end of the day do what feels right for you. If you are going to worry endlessly and a scan at 7 weeks is something that would really clam you down then you should definitely consider it.
23/11/2013 at 11:50
I had an early scan at 8+3 on NHS due to previous mmc. I think if you see a heartbeat at 8 weeks then there's a 98.5% likelihood that everything will continue ok, if you can hold out I would, but at same time understand why you'd want to bring it forward. If you're not bleeding though it's likely just stretching which can be quite painful x
23/11/2013 at 11:54
Thanks Counter. All opinions welcome!
Candy - Thanks. I did see your reply but only this morning so replied then. I know you're right, I'm going to hold off until 8 weeks. H thinks its for the best too so there's no uncertainty / being sent away to come back later if there is something wrong as that will just cause more worry. I'm able to keep myself calm so just need to keep busy over the next 2 weeks! It's just when the cramps ramp up that I panics. They have been so painful and because its not consistent and has just increased it scared me, especially this morning. I'm taking comfort (or trying to) that they are not consistent and don't last that long and if it was a sign of something bad they would probably persevere. Sorry your also worrying, I think this early pregnancy milark is very stressful! x
23/11/2013 at 12:01
If it helps any, when I found out I was pregnant I remember thinking it would be 4 weeks at least until I got an early scan. At that point is seemed an impossibly long time to wait. Now its only 2 days away for me. Time really does go in quickly.
I hope the cramps begin to settle a bit soon for you but it really is a good sign. I never got any the last time when I had the mmc so I'm happy to feel some this time even though they are few and far between. Totally understand your panic though.
I don't think the worry will go away, ever!!!! lol
23/11/2013 at 12:02
oh and Weekend, thanks for that stat!!!!!
23/11/2013 at 12:05
Good way of looking at it Candy, Thankyou xx
23/11/2013 at 12:54
I know you've already decided to hold out until 8 weeks, but i thought I'd add this just in case other people come in also worried and wondering about time to have a reassurance scan.
According to the miscarriage association website (www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/.../ultrasound-scans), seeing the heartbeat will decrease chances of miscarriage; however, a heartbeat at 6 weeks only increases the chances of viability to 78%, whereas at 8 weeks a heartbeat means the chances of a viable pregnancy increase to 98%, then at 10 weeks to 99.4%! So, 8 weeks does seem like the best time to have the reassurance scan, as even a 22% chance of miscarriage seems massive to me, and I would assume at 7 weeks the chances would be roughly between 22% and 2%, but I waited to 8 weeks myself.
Drove me a bit batty to wait, but I'm glad I did. My sister made the horrible mistake of telling me she had a miscarriage after having seen the heartbeat at a reassurance scan at 7 weeks :( It does happen, but luckily not that often.
23/11/2013 at 15:32
Wispa thanks for this xx
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