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29/03/2013 at 20:59
I struggled to feed I, went to expressing then FF.
I really want to try again this time but have been thinking about what the MWs said last time about my boobs. Apparently they were too big which I don't believe and they said she struggled to latch on due to the shape of my nipples. Basically I don't have "cigar butts" they are kind of smooth with a small raised part in the middle.
I was wondering if anyone else had this sort of nipple and managed to feed and also any ideas? Would shields be a help? What else could I try?
Thanks in advance ladies
29/03/2013 at 21:09
Sorry not sure on the nipples but mine definitely changed shape when he fed. As for boobs being too big. I always worried about that as mine are a G but it didn't stop me - affected me feeding away from home as felt self conscious that couldn't do it discreetly but I got over it. I went to a couple of feeding cages for help with latch, position etc and they really really helped.
In all honesty I think the mws are talking sh1t! The'wrong' shaped nipple is a crap excuse (from them!) I mean Ffs women have bf since time began and have boobs and nips in all shapes and sizes!! I'm not surprised though 5 mws missed isaacs tt and every mw just told me L was a 'lazy boy' and he hadnt fed properly in 4 days and was still 'just lazy' when in actual fact he had a SEVERE tt and wouldn't even have latched to a bottle.
I'd go along to your local bf group, get your numbers hunted out and explain to them what happened the last time. Go along to the bf group if you can, then when Lo comes the support staff may come to the house, observe feeds etc
29/03/2013 at 21:19
I had nearly flat nipples, and huge boobies. We did really struggle with feeding which I initially thought was solely down to boobs and nips, but it turned out J had tongue tie too, so I don't know what percentage of our issues were down to which. He did latch, finally, on about day 4, but it was short lived, and we started using shields to enable feeding to continue. The shields definitely did help him latch, then we had the tt snipped, and that helped even more. We managed to quit the shields at 12 weeks, and he's still bf now at 9 1/2 months, so it is do-able. I found that rugby ball position really helped latch him (due to boob size) and kind of shaping the boob to pop in his mouth also helped him get more of a mouthful if that makes sense? I think also accepting that it might be a longer learning curve for both of you than someone with smaller boobs and cigar butt nips, and not being too disheartened if it doesn't happen straight off. Theoretically nipple size/shape shouldn't make a difference as the baby takes a big mouthful of breast, rather than latching directly onto the nipple, but in practice I do think that certain boobs are easier for babies than others. And certain babies are better at feeding than others, you might find that baby number 2 has no problems. The annoying thing is that a few weeks down the line, you don't need to worry about it any more, you just get your boob out and wave it in the general direction of the baby and latching is automatic and happens without either of you having to think about it. Which is exactly what you could do with as a new mum!
29/03/2013 at 21:22
This happened to me with Holly and I pretty much gave up as I wanted to get out of hospital and wasn't getting any help there. I did get medela shields to take to hospital with me when I had Finley as they suggested shields with Holly but managed to feed him ok without - was a bit rocky the first week and did give him some formula bottles but we got there and fed till 8mths. So what CP said about being prepared and good luck.
29/03/2013 at 21:58
Thanks ladies, I am armed with all the numbers and plan to see the ladies pre baby if it waits that long (next one if at 40+3). I think just being a bit more confident than lastt time should help. Fingers crossed and of course I have you guys!
30/03/2013 at 07:22
Could you ring the pink ladies and have a chat with them about it? They should see you on the wards too x
30/03/2013 at 10:09
Thanks DS, I will be doing that too.
01/04/2013 at 19:09
Thanks for doing this post as I am worrying cos my nips arnt cigar buts very smooth nearly flat nipples I think. Ive read shields help in early days hope u get on ok and keep us updated x
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