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02/05/2013 at 21:30
H is 13 weeks old and has usually been awake in an eve (poss with a couple of short naps) then had a bath around 10.30 then final feed and bed around 11-12. He then sleeps through to between 8.30 and 10.30
the past few nights though he's been really cranky in the evening and falling asleep so I think he's tired and needs an earlier bed but how would you introduce if? Would you just bring bathtime forwards? Would you stay upstairs with him all night?
my h doesn't get home from work until 7 and often we pick him up. We eat once he's back between 7 and 8. If we give H an earlier bedtime I can't work out how we'd still be able to eat at a reasonable time? I don't really fancy going to bed at 7 with H but also don't want evenings of crying.
aby suggestions or do I just have to suck it up in effect?
when did you introduce bedtimes and how? How do you make it work for you?
bir of a brain dump I know I just can't get my head around how it will work!
02/05/2013 at 22:55
It's only the past week or so Henry's got himself into any kind of routine. Also be aware he could be having his 12 week growth spurt, we are now, at 13 weeks. Could you put him down in a moses or his carrycot/ pram till you go up?
03/05/2013 at 01:09
We just followed J's lead and looked for tired signs (rubbing eyes, resting his head on our shoulders,floppy arms) and then would run his bath- it's between 6:30 and 7 every night without fail and has been since about 9 weeks.
It's hard but you may have to bring it forward and just see what works- would having his bath around 9-9:30 work maybe?
03/05/2013 at 05:32
We tried 8.30 bath last night and he went down until 5.15sm. Which I suppose is good and supports the tiredness theory but obviously is not ad good for me as I lost my eve and had an early wake up! Better than some people get I know I'm just not used to it!
Missuss I wondered about a growth spurt and he's also displaying teething signs I think.
Guess we'll just have to persevere and see. 6.30 to 7 may be better for us.
La - does he go through all night once down?
03/05/2013 at 05:57
I don't think we really had a bedtime routine until just before 6 months when he moved into his own room. We tended to follow his lead but, that said, he'd usually have a bath followed by bottle then down in his Moses basket in the living room. H would then bring him upstairs to our room when he came to bed around 11pm having done the last feed.
Once we was in his own room and weaning everything seemed to fall into place - dinner at 5pm, bath, milk, bed. After bath he comes downstairs, by that time H is home so they have a little play together, then it's upstairs for teeth cleaning and bed.
Try not to stress about it. Things will start falling into place before you know it x
03/05/2013 at 07:18
As Missus s says cant he sleep in a Moses basket/ pram carrycot til u go up to bed? that's what we used to do with Isla then we carried her up in the moses at 10pm when we went to bed. At 3 months we started with bath, milk then bed at 8/8.30 A couple of months later 8 was too late and she'd be grumpy so we brought the routine forward so bath at 6.30 milk then bed by 7. Still doing this routine now at 18 months old.
03/05/2013 at 08:04
We've always followed Es lead on bedtime. Once her 12 weeks GS was done her routine became.. 9am wake, 12pm feed, 3pm feed, 6pm, 9pm then bed until 9am again. So we just facilitated around that bathing when she needed it / when we could fit it in. We'd then go to bed with E.
However she's had her jabs and 16week GS and its shifted everything about, she's getting tired around 7ish so I need to work more towards this time I feel. This means she'll go down in the carrycot in the lounge and will be transferred to bed when we go up. I know many moms would be happy to put babies into bed then leave them to it but given my keen-ness to follow SIDS its absolutely not an option here and I fit in round her, tea time moves or we eat seperately etc.
03/05/2013 at 08:14
Do most of you bath your babies every night then? We bath A with my H every couple of days in the morning, my mum suggested doing it as part of his bedtime routine instead, but although he loves being in the bath, he hates getting out, so not sure it would settle him for bed?
We have no routine here, completely baby led at the moment (10 weeks), but we seem to be consistently feeding around 6pm, then between 10/11pm, then down until 6am. If he feeds before 10pm though he is then up at 1am, 4am, and 7am!! We have him in the moses basket in the living room with us, then my H moves it through to the bedroom while i am doing the last feed. We then all go to bed.
03/05/2013 at 08:22
We've bathed Isla every night she she was 3 months. Before that maybe 3 times a week. It's my H's job so that he gets to spend time with her before she goes to bed otherwise he would only see her for about an hour each day.
03/05/2013 at 08:24
Do you have to pick your H up or can he get home some other way? If baby is getting cranky and tired I would put him to bed whenever he needs it, children naturally need a bedtime around 7pm give or take an hour so that they get about 12 hours sleep or similar. Can he sleep in a Moses or pram in the living room with you? Or a travel cot? With N he did exactly the same as your little one and I noticed he would sleep from around 6:30/7 for the whole evening in his Moses downstairs and then I would lug him up the stairs at 10 to dream feed him and put him in his cot. Not sure what I'm doing with A as she only sleeps properly in the sling in the evenings or in complete darkness
03/05/2013 at 08:42
Sc we don't bath him every night as you say ATM he likes a bath but had a tantrum getting out and dry. We do it twice a week anytime he's relaxed. Just wind down time at night- lights low, tv low, no playing just cuddles, night nappy and feed.
03/05/2013 at 08:54
No real set bedtime routine here either and we only bath once a week. A is 2 days off 14 weeks and I think currently having a GS as sleep is all over the place again - ours started with a couple of nights of her appearing to want to go to bed earlier, then progressed to night wakings and extra feeds, so you could be at the start of a GS.
Before the GS though, she was having a feed about 6/6.30 followed by a 30-45 min sleep. Then half hour on her playmat with nappy off or half hour of baby massage and/or gentle exercise or once a week bath, followed by getting ready for bed, feed upstairs and then into grobag and bed by somewhere between 9 and 9.30. Will probably get flamed, but I then was coming downstairs for an hour. Not that I need to justify my actions, but crib is about 3 steps from bedroom door, then about 1 step to top of stairs, stairs come into living room with sofa right at bottom of them. I also use a sound and movement monitor. I would then go to bed about 10.30 and she was sleeping through until 5.30/6 but that was before the GS broke her!!
03/05/2013 at 09:19
Thanks everyone it's interesting to hear how everyone else does things. We tend to follow his lead on timings and its only this week he's started seeming tired before 10pm. Normally he would play on the swing and his mat and have an evening feed. He woke at 5 today after the earlier bed bit has been asleep again since about 5.30 (albeit in our bed as he wouldn't go back in the cot!) so he def needs his sleep as he's showing no signs of waking! I do wonder if its growth spurt, I'm dreading getting broken nights :( I'm just hopeless with no sleep.
Ill see how he goes the next few nights and determine bedtime then I think to see if it continues a pattern. We bath every night just as I think he associates it with bedtime now so we bath, dress and grobag and last feed all in our room. He then went down ok so I don't want to break it.
I wonder how his sleep would be if we bathed him and got him dressed for bed but it wasn't final feed time??
03/05/2013 at 12:22
LM no he usually wakes somewhere between 12 and 2 for a feed, we're starting to get him to self settle so takes a bit longer to get him back to sleep at the moment. He normally wakes around 6ish
03/05/2013 at 14:33
I started a bedtime routine from day 1. Bath, bottle then down in cot. The times varied slightly at the beginning but the same principle each night. I used to go up at the same time and just watch TV, take my tea up with me, then from about 4months when he'd do longer stretches I used to come down and use the monitor (I understand this is against guidelines but I was happy to do so) I used to check on him every 1/2 hour or so. Now he's older its exactly the same, we also have a nap routine from around 3months which consists of the same thing so he knows its time to sleep. It's worked well for us but you'll find your own rhythm as LO gets older.
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