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05/04/2013 at 12:53
I am new to this website, but did used to post on hitched a while back! Not sure if ok to post as I just have one son of nearly 5, but hopefully still ok to post for this age?
I am a bit stuck regarding his 5th birthday party invites and etiquette so hoping someone can help?!
He has been invited to several parties at school, some invited the whole class and and hired a hall, some just boys etc. I have booked for his party a soft play centre, costing £10.50 per head, so I know I can't afford to invite his whole class of 30 plus the other 4 that are outside of school.
So my question is, should I invite all the children whose parties he has been to, even if he is not really 'friends' with them? Should I also invite children whose birthday parties he has been invited to but not able to attend (eg 2 girls having a joint party that he apparently never talks to but I think the whole class was invited?) Or do you think it is ok to be more selective? My sister thinks that we should invite all whose party he has attended, no matter if he ever bothers with them or not.
05/04/2013 at 13:01
I only invited the kids C wanted there, unless hiring a hall. I wasn't going to fork out for kids he didn't really want there.
05/04/2013 at 13:13
Go for the children he wants there. Last year for my daughter's 5th party she shared it with two others from her class and we invited everyone. This year she is having a bouncy castle party. There is a limit of 10 children in total so she could invite 9. Shes invited some whose parties shes been to and at least 2 whose parties she hasn't been invited to. She's happy. I'm happy. Do what you can afford don't worry about what everyone else in the class does. Etiquette would suggest you should reciprocate re parties but we just can't do that. And other parents understand or if they don't then they've got too much time on their hands.
05/04/2013 at 13:18
At £10.50 a head I would set a number limit and ask him who he wants to invite. If it's not those whose parties he's been to then so be it. Not everyone can go to everyone elses parties and it tends to even out over the year.
Though saying that, we had 11 at my daughters 6th party and she's only been invited to 1 party this year, but quite a few of those that came to hers just had 4 or 5 invited to a sleepover or bowling/ice skating type affairs so, she's just had to learn that just because someone comes to your party doesn't mean you will be invited to theirs. I was a bit sad at first that she wasn't invited to lots of parties but trying to put a positive spin on it, it's less presents for me to buy !!
05/04/2013 at 13:38
Thanks. I am more worried about the ones whose party he has been invited to but then if we don't invite them, eg a girl whose party he went to in October, but never mentions her, she invited the whole class. I don't mind if he hasn't been to their party, as long as he really wants them there. He only seems to really mention a handful that he plays with actually but one boy he seems to play with every playtime who is in year 2, so may end up inviting him as I think it would mean more to him than most in his class!
05/04/2013 at 14:25
WEES - I would invite the ones you want to. If people have invited the whole class that's up to them, but I'm sure they must realise that everyone can't do that. The only exception that I would have to think more about is if someone else had a similar party (a dozen or so friends) and he was invited - then I might feel obliged to invite them, but definitely not in other cases.
05/04/2013 at 14:28
I'd definitely limit it to those that he wants there - if it's a party in a hall with a bouncy castle it's a bit different because then it's only a bit extra per head for the extra food, but at £10.50 each it's a bit much to invite that many.
06/04/2013 at 13:36
I'm a reception teacher. I often get asked by my parents for 10 kids their child plays with for parties. Can you do that?
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