Family Life & Relationships <
06/12/2015 at 21:58
Hi I'm new to this so please bare with me....
Me and my partner got together about a year and 1/2 ago n i had 3 children from a previous relationship. To which they still see there dad regular. I however fell pregnant early on in our relationship which led to my 4th child and his 1st.
Things was great to begin with I then began to feel like he wasn't intrested in me, didn't think he wanted to be around. All because he only ever wanted to watch tv, no conversion, didnt want to do anything with me (blaming financial reasons) yet we could both do things with our friends. All he did was sleep, play games on his phone. We both worked full time whilst I was pregnant, and I had to juggle my job, the housework and 3 kids whilst being pregnant and he just went to work. Barely helped with housework or nothing. I thought things would get better once baby arrived but they didn't.
During my pregnancy my dad died with no warning. I found this very hard and felt alone, like I wasn't getting any support. I struggled with depression when baby was 2 months old and was out on tablets and i reffered myself for councilling. I have now been discharged. So things have been tough.
Babys now 6 months old and he never gets up with him in a morning. I believe hes got up 4/5 times since he was born. He did 1 night feed a week (although babys slept straight through since 6 weeks) but i would never hear the end of it. Hes never bathed him on his own and has only fed him porridge 5 times in 2 months. He seems to only do the fun parenting things.
Now because all we did was argue because I felt he wasn't intrested or pulling his weight, he's decided to move out (back into his parents) but 4 us to still be together. He said he still wants us to be a family and for us to be a couple but how do u do that under these circumstances.
We both feel happier now the arguments have stopped but I still don't feel like he's interested in me. He barely texts me when he's not here, when he is around he only speaks if I start a conversation.
I get the impression he wants a family life but also wants to live the single life. Since he moved out 2 weeks ago he's had 2 night out.
My older 3 children are confused and I'm worried about how this will effect them.
Really unsure and confused about everything? Please help x
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