Hiii, I'm not with my sons dad, he's got a girlfriend and their moving in together tomorrow, my sons dad has him 3 times a week normally, but as of tomorrow i said to him if I don't have his new address my sons not going there, & he's refused to give me his address claiming in using my son as a weapon to get his address - which isn't the case at all, god forbid if anything was to happen to my son I wouldn't know where he was. His dad has told me i don't need it because he's my sons dad, yet he knows where I live. Just wondering if anyone would know where I was to stand if his dad was to take me to court? Bearing in mind his dad used to be a drug addict many years ago, got his family in debt because of drugs & has a gbh or abh charge against him x

Hi
Regardless of history ie drugs i would not be sending my son to somewhere if i didnt know the address. I dont know the legal side of it but i cant imagine a court would expect you to send your son to his dads with no address.
Why not try saying that until you have got legal advice on the matter if he wants to see his son it will have to be at yours or your mums etc. that way you are not refusing to let him see his son, you are offering a reasonable alternative, and he cant ever say oh you stopped me seeing my son( as they do)
Its unlikely he will accept your offer, but thats his problem.
Good luck

Hello, I just wanted to reassure you that the court would see in yoru favour unless he has a restraining order agaisnt you. I hate to judge, but your ex seems like a right piece of work! You have all right to know where you dear son is staying, you're simply being a responsible mother. I would say you are well within your rights to withhold contact until the address is confirmed. If he was a decent and 'normal' person he would disclose these basic details to you. I hope you are okay? and enjoying life as a single mum. I have had a similar experience to you, but my youngest is now 2.5years. his father, my ex hubby got engaged to another women whilst I was pregnant with his child... disgraceful. Anyway, take care, if you ever want to chat, pop me a message. Rachel x

Hello had the same problem with my ex he said the same i had a letter sent saying i had no problem with him moving on in his life but my first prioty was my daughters well fare and the solictor said he had to do it as i was not being unfair asking x good luck

Rachaelsndbabies - I thought I was well within my rights. My sons father still wont give me his address, but people have told me where it is but I won't let my son go anywhere till he gives it me . No your total right, he can be hard work. Iv now let his dad & his dads mom come into my house to see my son whilst I go upstairs. I love being a single mom & couldnt see anyone with us as I do everything for him & don't want it to change . Some men just don't seem to have a brain cell!xx Janey2011 - my sons dad recent went to eygpt but never told me till the night before, I told his mom I knew where he'd gone cause he never told me & she went mad saying he can't have a life! It doesnt bother me he went nor that he's moved on, I'm better off on my own but it's the concept of it, he should of told me way before that he wasnt going to see his son. Dont understand why u can't have his address, he's spoiling himself aswell as our son xx

Sadly some see it as a way of shirking responsibility, if they don't provide their address you can't send them mail/phonecalls from CSA & solicitors regarding what they should or shouldn't be doing.  Personally I'd be arranging all future contact at a contact/welfare centre as this whole thing to me spells distrust from your ex & as such I wouldn't trust him either.