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10/12/2017 at 09:50
To cut a painful story short .. My 6 week old has fractured ribs. Foot. Wrist and femur. I know 1 million percent I couldn't have caused this. The only other person she's been alone with is her dad of a night time when I'm asleep. I've asked him to tell me the truth if he hurt her but he keeps saying no. We will be splitting up I can see it as I can't even look at him. He's muscly he could easily have done this to her. I'm so heartbroken that my poor baby is going through this. What is the chance of me getting her back ? She's currently in foster care under an interim care order
10/12/2017 at 10:59
Kayla, be prepared that this will not be a quick process. There are a lot of steps that need to be followed now in order to fully investigate how your daughter sustained her injuries. the courts are involved (as there is an interim care order) so she will have a guardian ad litem appointed for her... which is someone independent of family and childrens services whose sole purpose is to represent her interests in court.
Police, health and children’s services will all be working together to look at every possible cause... whether a person hurt her, who that might have been etc. They should also as part of due diligence give her a full health assessment and be able to ascertain whether she has any medical conditions which may cause weak bones etc etc.
you should have a supervised contact schedule in place so that you can see your baby and she can maintain a bond with you and ideally this would be several times a week. Please try your best to keep up with all contacts, appointments and meetings with the social worker as if you start missing contacts with no good reason for example, they may reduce them to a frequency that they feel is more manageable for you.
Please do try and hold onto the fact that the social worker will have your daughters best interests at heart, you may not always like / be happy / feel comfortable with what he / she is telling you or asking you but they will work their damdest to do what they feel is right for your family. And please be rest assured too that when plannjng for a child’s care, family is always considered the number 1 option unless that is unsafe. Social Services will want to work with you to establish a safe environment so that your daughter can be returned home to you.
I say this not from a parents experience (although I am now a parent) but as a social worker myself who worked 6 years in child protection before moving overseas.
I am so sorry that you are going through this and that your daughter has had to experience such trauma & I wish you all the best in the coming months.
10/12/2017 at 12:26
Thank you. This is the worst thing to go through it feels unreal. We're such a normal family I didn't ever think this would happen to me. They've got my son under section 20 aswel due to her injuries he had a full skeletal done and he's fine. I really hope he's back for Christmas
10/12/2017 at 17:40
What An awful experience for you to be going through. Not ever a good time but I am sure it’s made worse when you should be celebrating your first Christmas together in a few weeks.
I have no experience of this but I man a nurse who at one point focused on child protection as an a&e nurse. I know things can vary from area to area but as above advice, your children’s safety and well being is what ultimately is most important.
Out of interest how was this picked up? it’s not clear if you know this is the exact time this happened or not.
I suggest like above, fully cooperate with all services and attend all meetings. if you are certain it was your partner my advice would be to leave this relationship. Unfortunately your children are u likely to be returned to you with him there as there would be a high risk of reoccurrence.
Like above, now that your children have been identified as at risk, in my area they are highlighted as such and any further attendances to a&e or worries at school or nursery would flag up and cause further investigation. It’s not something that just goes away I’m afraid.
good luck with everything, try to remain positive. Hopefully someone who has been in your situation can shed some light from the parent side. Xx
10/12/2017 at 17:49
I didn't know until we went a&e. She had a swollen thigh I honestly thought it was a blood clot or allergic reaction so they have her a x ray and told me it was broken. I could have died at that moment. Then 2 days later she had a full skeletal done as part of protocol and they told us about her other fractures. I'm not certain it's him but I know a million percent it wasn't me and he's the only one that's been alone of a night with her while I was asleep. She's always been crying from birth so I wouldn't have even known that she was in pain due to broken bones. I feel like the world's worst mum :(. I wouldn't miss a contact or appointment for anything either
10/12/2017 at 18:36
As a SW with many years child protection experience I echo everything said about co operation with services, contact etc. Do you have any family who could care for the children? This may mean you can see them more.
One peice of additional advise is, do not be tempted to start making things up in an attempt to explain the injuries, if you don't know how they happened then you don't know, simple as that, people try to make things up thinking it will help and it never does.
Ensure all medical tests have been completed such as vitamin b deficiancy and seek legal advise.
10/12/2017 at 18:48
Thank you. I wouldn't even know what lie to make up to explain anyway, it's horrific. I really do have no idea and I feel so bad. They've done vitamin d and it was fine but I did start giving her vitamin d syrup 2 weeks prior around the time fractures happened as she wasn't drinking barely anything only 4oz a day. Femur fracture is new tho. We are co operating and get along with social worker, she's nice. My mum's being assessed by sw to see if she can have children while this is going on. X
19/12/2017 at 18:34
Hope things are making progress for you x
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