hi. we live in west wickham in nw kent. i am about to start working absurd hours and i am worried my partner will struggle to cope with our baby boy and school-age daughter. i was wondering if anybody had any suggestions for how i could get some help for mum, since i know it is going to be a huge challenge unless she feels very supported, which to all intents and purposes i won't be able to do during the week. we are willing to pay a bit but are far from wealthy. can anybody give me pointers for how to find some help? would anybody be willing to help? we are trying to set up a fairly firmly structured routine and are not looking for somebody to come in and undermine mum's confidence in that.

anybody?