Oh and I aren't getting along and haven't for some time. We don't sleep in the same room anymore and been about 8 months since we've been distant with eachother. I feel really low as he has completely stopped wanting sex, doesn't want to talk about our relationship, and doesn't seem to mind if we don't have sex for months and months. I feel really ugly as i haven't come to terms with my postpartum body and especially more so since our relationship has hit rock bottom. Aside from sexually, we have many other issues.

Heres the dilemma. I went to a club last weekend with my girlfriends and got hit on by a really attractive man. He told me i was beautiful and i let him give me his number. On the way home, I threw his number out the window but now, I can't stop thinking about him. Its been about 2 months since the last time oh and I got on. He made me feel attractive for the first time in a long time. Am I bad? I feel an overwhelming urge to want to meet other men. I would never cheat while he is still living with me but he refuses to leave. Has this happened to anyone else? If so, what did you do? I almost wish I had kept his number.

Hey it sounds like you have to talk seriously with your oh, no matter how much he refuses to. Its such big decision to make and you need to make sure that you're together because you want to be rather than being together because its preferable to being alone. Do you and your oh get any time alone? Do you argue or are you just stuck in a rut with no communication at all? You're obviously feeling vulnerable and a bit low, with your issues about your body and relationship problems and the last thing you want to do is make a mistake you might regret. I understand what its like and its easy to get carried away when somebody makes you feel attractive and makes you smile especially when it seems like a long time since you've felt or done either x