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31/03/2016 at 15:05
I have been with my partner (33) for 4 years, he is 8 years older then me, but it was love at first sight. 2 years into the relationship I fell pregnant and 9 months later our beautiful son was born. Life is amazing, well mum life is amazing... But, I have a confession.... I honestly think I am loosing interest in my partner... Is it normal for your sex life to honestly non exsist after children ??? Well if so , thats mine. The first year after having my son, we had sex 4 times in 12 months...wtf@#$% Gosh I haven't even told my closest girlfriends this,, honestly is he just not into it... Like what the hell is wrong with me? Is he seeying someelse ? Is it because i put on weight ? These are the insecure thoughts that go through my head...The last 12 months have been the same... Gosh i memorize about how our sex life used to be before children and believe me it was wild.. I am the instigater, every chance I get I try and seduce him...but I just get the cold shoulder... He's not it to foreplay,,, like what male isn't?? I have struggled with this for so long, I really just need to let it out... Oh and that's another thing, I regularly catch him watching the ocassional COUGAR porn on his phone...now that's a kick in the gut , does he want to be with an older woman?.... I feel myself becoming more and more in happy, but I guess we all have to put on that smile and pretend everything's OK.. He doesn't like to have those one on one grown up talks about life and relationships, communication is definitely a thumbs down... Mums out there I need some advice and help. I do still love this man, but how long is to long before i choose to walk away..
12/04/2016 at 20:41
I have two kids with my hubby ones 5 and one is 12 months the last time we had sex was when the youngest was conceived! CYM hubb also watches porn and has made snide comments re my looks!
05/08/2016 at 12:25
I’m not a mum yet, but some of friends are and most of them is satisfied with their sex life. I’ve heard that they use fun lingerie set to seduce their men. To give you an idea please go and have a look at this https://obsessive.com/euro_en/products/sets It’s fun, easy to wear and will definitely boost your confidence!
Good luck and let me know how it worked :)
22/09/2016 at 16:01
he should find you beautiful however you look. love is not all about Netflix and chill if you know what i mean - trust me i know! i have 1 child and sex is not on the agenda as regular as before. if he thinks he can treat you this way then he is wrong! remember to try not to pounce on him too soon. if you feel like hes ignoring you, have it out with him but make sure the children are not present. or else, organise a special weekend break for the to of you - maybe turn off phones to "relax" and unwind a bit. but make sure there is a hot tub or sauna. most men watch porn however if you feel this is happening too regularly, maybe speak to your husbands friends to see if he has opened up to them about anything. maybe he is experiencing a bit of depression? you never know, you may be back to normal soon.
good luck girl all the best.xxx
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