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15/10/2008 at 13:44
15/10/2008 at 19:39
yes definatly! there are far to many jobs we do for one simple title, domestic godess cuts it tho!!! Hows the pregnancy going ur a week behind me and im utterly exhausted my toddler has turned into a loon!
17/10/2008 at 14:50
17/10/2008 at 16:59
I like being a stay at home mum, but I am shunned by my mother who thinks I should have a career. Coming from a mother who put career before family I made the choice to stay at home but I do hate the stigma attached as if I cant or wont get a job. Even though I am still employed by the RBS group I have decided to leave. I only work 2 days a week I have just gone back after 5 months off and I just handed in my maternity dates and after maternity I am going to stay at home and be proud of it. Raising the kids in an enviroment thats stable is more important to me than any job.
I would never class myself as unemployed even after I leave work as I belive we have the most importnt job of raising the country's successors and culivating there knowledge and independance is great and rewarding. If I was slightly more intellegent I would teach them from home but as you will have noticed I cant spell to save my life. but saying that school is good for the social side of life.
on the other hand thoughit is nice to have adult only time. thats why I spend a lot of time at the local childrens centre the services are free and some events have creche's to give you a break away from the kids. bonus
17/10/2008 at 23:24
The hospital thinks a girl and ive had a gut feeling since early on, but im not fussed i wanted a girl first time round but as soon as i knw I had jack i changed my mind completely hes so different, my family was all girls till my mum re married and my partner joined us! so a little boy is a huge novelty.
The tiredness is getting to me now and Jack has learnt to climb!! Im terrified of taking him 2 his health visitor as he has a black eye an egg on the side of his forehead a bruise in the middle and a puffy cheek with a circle bruise where he fell on a toy!!! poor little guy looks awful, but thers simply no way of stoppin him hes 15mnths and extremely adventurous and stubborn! But hes the best cure for the irrational pregnacy tears.
Do you know what your expecting? What does your son think to havin a new baby? I have a sister whos three and shes really excited but has told me not another boy!
The badge is a great idea so it can be hidden on those days where it all seems 2 go wrong like when in 3 days jack succeeded in making himself look like something out of dawn of the dead! and i dropped everythin i touched (thankfully not jack) but bless him he picks them up for me and sayes ta mum, as if i bent down to retrieve stuff i may nevr stand up again!
18/10/2008 at 06:44
Those of you who can afford to stay at home and look after your children or work part time should think yourselves lucky!!!
Having said that, I love my job and think I am doing well balancing my career with bringing up Bronwyn! I am extremely independant and have always earnt my own money, I am not sure i could ever give that up! And, there is no way we could manage on Gareth's wage as he earns a lot less than me!
18/10/2008 at 12:27
I am a stay at home mum and I thank my lucky stars every day!
I do now work weds though and find that i appreciate Isabelle so much more when I get home
Caroline I have a lot of respect for you and what you do,it can't always be easy and it's great that you are so independant
18/10/2008 at 13:45
Thanks! That means a lot! I get a little sick of the snide comments i get that Bronwyn must be 2nd down my priority list, after my career. This is just not the case, If i could go part time I possibly would.
My mum stayed at home until my brother started secondary school, I was 13 by then. She has always told me how hard she found it financially and encouraged me to get a career that I would enjoy and that I could mix with having children. Luckily, i get 12 weeks holiday a year which means that any time I do spend with my little girl is "quality time"!
18/10/2008 at 17:32
We are the opposite in our house as soon as we have a little one to look after James is happy to become a stay at home dad.
In fact he loves the idea! He knows there is no way I could or would want to give up my job as my ultimate ambition is to be a Head Teacher one day. Besides my wage is a lot higher than James so it makes sense that way as well.
18/10/2008 at 17:58
I have to take umbrage at one of your comments, Caroline, but don't take it to heart!
You said that those of us who can 'afford' to stay at home should thank our lucky stars, well, there is another category of stay at home mum - those who can't afford to go back to work, or to put it another way - the extremely high cost of childcare in certain parts of the country mean that going back to work is not economically viable. So why should I bust a gut, make life worse for me and my family, both economically and emotionally, just to be able to say that I work?
We are all mums trying to do the best for our families but every family is different, everyone has a different set of circumstances to manage and what suits one family does not suit another. I suspect that few of us have the ideal situation, but we make the best of what we are able to do.
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19/10/2008 at 19:01
well said Linz and well put lucy!!!!!
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