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12/11/2012 at 01:49
My litle man is 14mths, and never been a self settler. I have spent the entire 14 1/2 mths nursing/ cuddling/ rocking/ patting.....usually for at least 30 mins....and longer. As he is getting older it's getting harder, taking even longer. He wakes several times a night....not just once or twice....usally every 2hrs...so usually around 2am I tak him in bed with me...as in just me...I haven't slept in same room as hubby for months
It has completely destroyed me, I am constantly fighting with hubby bcos Im tired and and at my wits end. I feel so useless and like such a failure as a mum. I don't see friends really anymore, bcos it seems I dont have time, I am always settling.
Twice I have put my name down for sleep training, but pulled out because it felt wrong, and I felt evil. I gave it a go at home, but 2 days in I felt awful! He just wouldnt budge......screamed blue murder....and it never got any better. He slept less than if I had pat him.
My family keep saying I have to try soething else because this isn't working, and they think Im falling apart...and I know that, but I keep fighting it because I feel like I'll be neglecting his needs. Maybe I read too much Pinky Mckay? I've been scared out of sleep training because Im so worried I'll break his little personality, but today I have thought if I don't give it a go, Im going to ruin my marriage, alienate myself fro everyone and continue to feel miserable...which can't be good for him.
Im also thinking that sleep training at home has got to be less upsetting than taking him one of the sleep clinics. This has caused me soooooo many tears, icrying now, it's the only thing that really stops me from enjoying being a Mum, and that can't be good, he must sense that. I feel a bit like I can't win. Torture him with sleep training, and hope like hell it doesnt break his spirit, and alter his beautiful little personality...or go keep at the long settling routing, keeping him happy but ruining me
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01/12/2012 at 12:59
Hi everyone, Ditto to everything Harveysmum says, but times two, with twins. They are 15 months, and I have slept an average of 3 hrs per night for their entire existence. I am genuinely scared of the night because I don't know what it will bring. I'm exhausted to a point of misery and delirium. It is also ruining my marriage. I can't even imagine "crying it out" with them, because I know their stubborn personality, and it will be crazy and pointless. Any advise would be so appreciated.
05/12/2012 at 11:51
Well done to Harvey, Ryley and mandls moms for being so honest in their comments and sacrificing so much for their little ones. I would say things have gone so far for you guys what other choice do you have? My little one is 15 mths and never slept through the night, waking what feels like constantly, and always looking to only me for comfort. At times, its lovely but most of the time exhausting and frustrating and I worry if its doing more harm than good. Surely at some point he will need to learn to settle himself on his own and prolonging it must only make it worse. I was against sleep training/CIO techniques but after reading these posts of where it could end up feel that maybe my little one is old enough to try. I think some babies though just aren't suited to it but I've never tried to - maybe now is the time....
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My little one is 14 months & has never been a sleeper. I dread bed time as I know its not going to be a restful nights sleep. No one prepares you for this but we all love our babies so its a case of keep on smiling. As for my husband hmm he gets plenty of sleep grr. Since when did 'our baby' become just mine.
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