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Tantrums & behaviour
03/04/2012 at 19:53
I wonder if anyone has any advice for us as we're really worried about our little man, 2 years old on Sunday.
He's always been a fantastic sleeper - and loved bedtime...book, milk and bed all with no tears and sleept well on average from 7AM - 7PM. Always slept well with his lunchtime nap too. Then, in the last few days he's suddenly started to HATE going to bed! The poor little man is screaming before he even hits the pillow, and it can go on for an hour. He's getting himself so upset...its just heartbreaking. The main change recently has been him going into nursery, 4 full days per week. He started 4 weeks ago and after a few teething troubles he has settled in pretty well, we still have some tears when dropping him off but he stops almost instantly and the staff there tell me he's happy and contented throughout the day. One problem has been his nap at nursery. Week one it was fine, weeks 2 and 3 he didn't have any! He has been used to 45mins - 1 hour so by the time he got home from nursery he was exhausted. In week 4 we have stressed the importance of his nap and they're doing everything they can to get him to sleep, mainly lots of cuddles until he falls asleep. Unfortunately, and it may be a coincidence, but he is screaming beyond belief at bedtime. Even bath time is touch & go. We're really trying not to go in to him, but its truly awful. On Saturday night it went on for 1 hour, and the last three nights has been 40 minutes of him being really upset. Totally at a loss. Could it be going to nursery which has made him a little insecure? Could it be the fact that they're cuddling him to sleep? I've read a bit about 'Seperation Anxiety' - could it be that? Or...could he be over tired??Any help or advice would be very helpful...and not to mention hugely appreciative... Have we broken him?! Thanks
03/04/2012 at 20:44
03/04/2012 at 21:11
03/04/2012 at 21:14
17/04/2013 at 03:41
I definitely think going to nursery is related to it. It's a big change and he may just be adjusting to it. Also, he may be using the bedtime tantrums to get the attention from you that he's craving during the day. There's more info about that at http://www.toddler-tips-and-tricks.com/bedtime-tantrums.html, but basically you just want to make sure that he's getting lots of positive attention from you before bedtime so he's not trying to get attention at night. You sound like a busy, caring mom, so maybe try to include him in the things you need to get done in the evening. Set up an activity for him at the table while you cook so you two can talk, or let him "help" you with other tasks you need to get done. If he gets more attention from you before bed then he may sleep better at night.
If that doesn't help then he may just be overly tired. Sometimes when kids get overly tired then it's even harder for them to sleep later!
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