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20/05/2013 at 09:30
Hi everyone, I am new here and I have a 1yr old boy.
In the last few weeks he wont let me leave the room, doesn't like being told no, and if he can't have something will go in an unbelieveble rage (like he's been shot).
Other than pick him up every 2 minutes of the day, is there anything else you can suggest, as i can't even leave the room to use the loo.
The screaming really is horrendous, and even if I leave him to calm down, it just gets worse and worse, he will not give in....and as soon as I pick him up - he stops as if nothing ever happened.
Our family all have toddlers, and I have not seen their kids like this.
Also, he awakes from sleep every morning screaming and crying his eyes out for no reason. He did this in our room, now in his own room.
Is he manipulating me? I look after him full time, and my husband is also around lots to look after him, he is spolied rotten, loved dearly, and has everything you could imagine.....we have no idea why the baby behaves like this, it certainly is no reflection on his upbringing.
21/05/2013 at 18:08
This is just usual one year old behaviour i'm afraid! I think it's just testing the boundaries and frustration at not being able to speak. Personally when my little boy has a tantrum like this I ignore him as I think pandering to it can tell them that behaving that way gets them what they want. My littl eboy has staminia on the tantrum front too but as he knows I won't pay him any attention they have got a lot shorter x
27/05/2013 at 00:03
Its quite normal for a toddler to have tantrums. Their sense of right and wrong and acceptable behaviour doesn't develop until later. They want something and they are quite prepared to scream until they get it.
Its a bit of a battle of wills at this age. If you give in it reinforces the bad behaviour but when they have been screaming for 20 minutes it is hard not to give in.
Some kids do seem to have worse tantrums than others. Its just part of their personality. My eldest (3) has at least one a day. But the youngest is pretty good although she is only just one.
Im told it does get better though.
27/05/2013 at 10:01
At 1yr this is their main form of expressing frustration at not getting what they want, they have little to no words so will simply cry/scream to express themselves.
Typically the way to try & handle this is either to try & distract them (No you can't touch that but why don't we play with this) or simply ignore them until the undesired behaviour stops (easier said than done).
They will continue to have tantrums as they age & they will start learning with age how you are reacting/responding & just how far they can push you (the terrible twos will see them truly trying to test the boundaries with words & tantrums trying to get you to submit) so trying to get across now that you are not going to answer/understand tantrums & that LO should let you know when they are 'finished' can make things easier further down the road.
For what it's worth, I have 2 girls, my eldest is Autistic so still uses screaming/physical gestures to get her point across & my youngest is in 'terrible twos' so has her odd tantrums too (quite often one sets of the other). You will learn to manage them better with time (though you may feel awkward at times e.g. when the tantrum is in the middle of Tesco). Best wishes.
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