Toddlers & Older Children <
17/12/2009 at 23:44
18/12/2009 at 00:30
i have a rather willfull little man, he has days where everything boils down to us screaming at each other, which seriously doesnt work! its a nightmare though hey? Everytime jack looses his temper something goes flying!
So with jack i now, return him to the naughty step over and over for his 2minutes UNTIL he appolagises/picks up what hes thrown and so on, we are now down to 3 returns to the step, its hard work and frustrating but it used to take over 10!!!!!
Also when he messes around with naps and bed, no matter how many times i return him he laughs in my face a gets straight up, I had to get his dad on side, the good cop, since hes a total daddys boy, a blokes deep cross voice saying BED NOW! worked immeadiatly and hes told listen to mummy, I hate being the 'weak' parent in his eyes and having to say, 'ill get daddy' but it works and when daddy isnt around ill enlist anyone else, the shock of it not being mum works 1st time, everytime!
good luck, and i hope this toddler temper faze passes quickly!
18/12/2009 at 18:38
It is very frustrating,and it's easy to shout,but you shout at them ,they shout back,everyones yelling,you're all feeling horrible and you achieve nothing.Toddlers are difficult,they're desperate to assert their will as they become more independant.You just need to choose which battles are important and stick to your guns when it comes to those important ones.If you give in once to a paddy,that sends the message it's worth a repeat performance.
Naughty step works if you persevere and if you're consistant.It's also important that you're all singing from the same song sheet.If your partner or your Mum or someone else is also caring for your child then they need to be onside,and doing it your way.
It does sometimes seem like one long battle to do the simplist things,my three year old takes soooo long to just put on acoat,hat and shoes and get out the door,she's up and down from the table the minute I'm distracted,and that's only the half of it.Then there's the paddy over nothing....
It's important to remember that it's just a stage they go through,and what's a drama this week is soon forgotten and it's something new in a couple of weeks.I think as they get better at expressing themselves with words,and they understand more of the world around them,the tantrums become less and they're much more reasonable.My nearly 5 year old is only recently getting there.
Sorry long,long post,one other thing that seemed to help,at the end of the day,when I tucked my son in,we'd talk about the day,what he'sd done,what we'd donegood stuff as well as the not so good,maybe why,and how maybe he hadn't meant to do that and we'd not do it again,because at that time he would be completely calm,and sometimes I'd find a reason for what had seemed unreasonable behaviour,but all done in a calm way,it was his "what did we do today?"part of his bedtime routine
18/12/2009 at 21:28
My 3 1/2 year old daughter has moments like this most days since she turned 3 but worse since the new baby arrived. We found she was expecting us to shout at her but when we just talk very quietly and ignore her shouting and screaming she calms down quicker because she is soo nosey and terrified of missing out on something! Obviously this works best at home but if she really kicks off when we are out, no matter where we are we go straight home, she hates having the day ruined and when we talk about it at bedtime she can usually tell us why so we can avoid it happening again.
If all else fails, my husband just starts laughing - she has to join in and forgets about her tantrum! Only seems to work for daddy though.
I also have to resort to I'll tell daddy and he'll be very cross, works about her gran too.
18/12/2009 at 23:09
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