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14/07/2008 at 12:14
Where do i start with isaac?he was born in march 2006 & he is my third child so i'm no first time mum but fm the day he was born evrything has been a battle with him.he is now 2 & there is no let up & to be honest there are days when i dislike him.He has never slept fm the day he was born he is always throwing mega tantrums to get his own way (which i ignore) he bites evrybody,kicks, punches &no matter what form of discipline me &his dad use he just goes back to do it again.His health visitor told me to ignore him but to no avail as then he starts throwing things around the room.i have no time for my other 3 children as i'm too busy chasing around after him.Before you ask i don't let him have sweets or fizzy drinks or anything with lots of sugar in as this makes him worse,so please anybody who can help i would really appreciate it i love him so much i just dnt have the time to enjoy him.
14/07/2008 at 12:58
Sorry to hear of the trouble you are having with isaac.It must be very hard on you and your family. One of my friends had the same problem with her little boy and she had asked the health vis numerous times and she was told the same as you really.In the end she kept on and on and was eventually reffered to a behaviour specialist. They have never looked back.He is now a lovely happy 3year old and has a much happier quality of life and so do the family.
Not saying your son needs to see a specialist but it may be worth mentioning to your hv cos its not fair on u xx
14/07/2008 at 19:30
I agree with Mel. I teach and have come into contact with kids with lots of different needs, he does sound as if he is on the autistic spectrum. This DOES NOT mean that he is autistic but he could be displaying autistic behaviour and the sooner you get a diagnosis the sooner you can begin the long slow process of correcting his behaviour and adpting the way you treat him to suit his needs.
You need to make a note of everything that Isaac does and how you deal with it, and how he reacts. Present this to the doctor or HV. They will listen to you if you make a nuisence of yourself. Does he go to a nursery? If so, get his key worker involved too!!!
I hope this helps!
15/07/2008 at 12:01
Thanx for replying & for your advice i shall certainly take it on board & have another word with my health visitor,we are due to see her soon anyway as isaac's 2 year assessment is coming up so i think i shall have to put my foot down and make her listen to me.i hope that you all have fun with your children and make the most of them as before you know it they are all grown up and ready to leave home.xx
23/07/2008 at 16:40
Just thought i would giv you a update on my little devil called isaac.He had his 2yr assessment today which went brilliantly i had said that i was concerned with his behaviour & that i'm watching what he ate,the result being that the hv came to my house to assess isaac in his own environment & said that he was gr8.He is doing everything that 2yr olds should do infact in some cases like his speech he is above the standard of a 2yr old so that was gr8 she also said he was v clever and intelligent & that she had no concerns with him.Then she got to see isaac in all his glory & how he interacts with myself ,his elder brother &sister & his baby bro,again she had no concerns & said isaac was a normal healthy 2 yr old who just needed lots of interaction & stimulation & bcause he has got older siblings who spoilt him fm the day he was born thats why he likes to b centre of attention so as annoying as it is for me & dad as isaac gets older & a bit more aware of boudaries he should start to calm down a bit more & not b so in your face.He has also started to sleep alot better as im not letting him have a morning nap which can sometimes be a pain as by ttime he is normally so tired that he has a paddy but we have got round this by putting him on the naughty chair & only letting him off when he calms down.I would like to say that all my bumps where isaac is concerned have been ironed out but i know we have a long way to go & yes there are still times when i could gladly throttle him,but he is also so cute & funny my world may be alot quieter when he isn't with me but it is also boring.Enough about us how r u all?
23/07/2008 at 16:50
Im Emma mum to riley 3 1/2(threenager).
Sorry to hear you were having a tough time with isaac,and its nice to hear your HV came and did a home visit.
Riley dropped his day time nap but if he did drop of id only allow 20mins and wake him up,he was moe happy having a power nap then would sleep well at night. Hope you are albe to sort it out in time.
All the best.
24/07/2008 at 20:45
That's good news that Isaac is a normal healthy 2 year old! What a relief for you.
If the naughty chair loses its appeal, what about getting a circular mat and using that instead?
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